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Wearing mother-daughter Xmas dresses to the school disco

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MatchingXmasDresses · 19/12/2016 12:17

I have name changed for this because I think I'm about to get flamed! Xmas Blush

Bought mother daughter Xmas dresses to wear in the privacy of our home on Xmas day.

Dd who is six said she wanted to wear hers to the disco. I said fine. This morning she alluded to us matching and when I checked, she had assumed I would be wearing mine to! She now won't wear it if I don't (but isn't being stroppy, just happy to choose something else if I'm not game).

This makes me uncomfortable, but I'm working on getting out of my comfort zone to build confidence so I am potentially up to the challenge.

Reasons to refuse:

  • embarrass myself or her
  • draw too much attention to ourselves
  • look like a dick (see point one)

Reasons to agree:

  • she may very soon find this idea repulsive and I think I might want to have this experience
  • it's Christmas
  • confidence building/leaving comfort zone

WIBU to agree/WIBU to refuse?

Help me mumsnet! (And be kind!)

OP posts:
BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 20/12/2016 16:06

Well done OP!
I was just going to say that my 8 yo DD and I have matching Xmas jumpers, and she loves it when we match! Glad you had a great time.

Natstar98 · 20/12/2016 16:41

I think this is a fabulous idea! I love coordinating bits of my outfits to my 7 month old daughters. It's cute and a great memory for you and your daughter. Enjoy the moment and stuff what boring miserable bah humbugs think

GoLightlyHollie · 20/12/2016 17:47

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe
pissing myself at the thought of you in your bridesmaids dresses. Were they made of salmon taffeta with puffball sleeves.

OP I wouldn't do it in a million years as I'd be mortified so good on you for moving out of your comfort zone. Although maybe if my little one begged...But I'd have to go way over the top, flashing antlers, tinsel etc. In for a penny and all that.
Do it. And good luck! Can you sneak in a naggin of vodka for Dutch courage?

CaraAspen · 20/12/2016 17:51

The OP has already done it. Read the thread?

BayaGoji · 20/12/2016 17:58

I'd do it just for a laugh. Would be fun!

slummamumma · 20/12/2016 17:58

do it, do it, do it!!

TheCatsMother99 · 20/12/2016 17:58

Yay! Glad you did it

lapetitesiren · 20/12/2016 18:02

I think its lovely. It's just a bit of fun for Christmas. It's only the same spirit as Christmas jumpers. Nobody admits they like them but there are a lot around. You might start a trend at your school.

Shona52 · 20/12/2016 18:13

I would do it. Think it's sweet and she won't be wanting to do this stuff for long. So just enjoy it xx

NewPapaGuinea · 20/12/2016 18:33

Do it and you can't go through life worrying about what other people think. If it makes you and your DD happy then that's all that matters.

Janey50 · 20/12/2016 18:47

Oh OP! My DD got my 10 year old DGD one of these to wear in the run up to Christmas this year,just for a bit of fun. It looks fine on her,but I cannot imagine her mum wearing one! Xmas Grin

apringle · 20/12/2016 18:55

Nobody will be as mean to you as some of the ladies who seem stuck in high school on here! As mothers we are supposed to let our daughters know it's fine to be silly and wear what we want and not care what others think of what we look! She's just six and it seems like it means a lot to her. Why care what some mean women with no self esteem would think at a kids disco? Let your crazy Christmas dresses shine!

apringle · 20/12/2016 18:56

Also, I don't have time to read 15 pages of threads! Is there a search function to locate posts that only the OP made?

Original poster
MatchingXmasDresses · 20/12/2016 19:10

All these posts are lovely thank you. We did it, Dd has talked about it a fair few times today (and I may be imagining it but there seems to have been a few more sporadic 'I love you mummy' comments than usual).

From adults I've had nothing but good natured jokey laughs about it and observations about how nice it was that I obliged. All good natured - nothing I interpret as nasty.

I can't imagine ever batting an eye at dd wearing something silly to join in with my dgc someday - but I suppose I'll cross that bridge if it comes. I'd probably be offering up my older but still fabulous self to join in for a trio!

I can't believe this thread was on the daily e-mail. There must be a few people thinking of a similar thing so I hope I've inspired some people to face their fears for their kids (even if it is only the fear of looking like a dick Xmas Grin)

OP posts:
2ducks2ducklings · 20/12/2016 19:17

I'd 100% wear it! And I wouldn't give a shit what anyone said. Me and 11 year old daughter love christmas and disney and thanks to primark we have s lot of matching t shirts and sweaters, the other day I came home from work and as she saw me she jumped up with a smile on her face that I swear I'll never forget, not only was she wearing the same christmas t shirt as me, she'd also put on the same disney cardigan as I was wearing! This was a complete coincidence and I loved it!

ChristmasSpice · 20/12/2016 19:46

It's Christmas, she will love it, just do it and who cares if it is a talking point - you are just showing you love Christmas too! Absolutely nothing wrong with it, so have fun and enjoy the disco - ramp it up with tinsel and lights too. If you are still reticent, explain to her why and just enjoy matching on Christmas Day. Whatever you do, have a fab time and well done for getting into the spirit of it!

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 20/12/2016 19:50

It's a bloody awful dress. So if you're to wear it do so in tacky style with tinsel hair band, flashing earrings. At our school all the parents take themselves far too seriously and you've made me realise how ridiculous this is. I'm wearing tinsel next year!

ChristmasSpice · 20/12/2016 19:50

Oops, should have read the whole thread. Well done for making her day x

Puppymouse · 20/12/2016 20:02

I wouldn't think twice about doing here in our village and DD is 3. But to be fair I spend my life in wellies, covered in shit and hay so maybe I don't try hard enough anyway Grin

gggrrrargh · 20/12/2016 20:03

I'm really pleased for you Xmas Smile a lovely Christmas memory made

WhereTheFuckIsWonderWoman · 20/12/2016 20:14

I'm so glad you did this! We had a school Christmas party today and if DD had asked the same of me I absolutely would have done it too. In fact I'm a little bit envious EnvyBlushWink

Happy101415 · 20/12/2016 21:52

do it !!!! your dd will love it ..imagine looking back on the photos when your both older ..great idea its christmas after all :)

Minnie747 · 20/12/2016 22:06

I think it's lovely she wants you to match! Yes do it, will be a nice memory.

Bettyspants · 20/12/2016 23:35

Naff and tacky , I'd absolutely do it! I have a similar age dd in a village school and she and her classmates would have adored it. Bound to be some 'what on earth ' thoughts from parents but fuck it, makes dd happy and it's Christmas!

38cody · 21/12/2016 00:52

Nobody at our school would 'take the piss' out of a six yr old for this - it doesn't have to be a lovely dress, it's fun and christmassy and I think so long as you look nice in it then go for it - and post a photo for us!