Wearing mother-daughter Xmas dresses to the school disco

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I have name changed for this because I think I'm about to get flamed!

Bought mother daughter Xmas dresses to wear in the privacy of our home on Xmas day.

Dd who is six said she wanted to wear hers to the disco. I said fine. This morning she alluded to us matching and when I checked, she had assumed I would be wearing mine to! She now won't wear it if I don't (but isn't being stroppy, just happy to choose something else if I'm not game).

This makes me uncomfortable, but I'm working on getting out of my comfort zone to build confidence so I am potentially up to the challenge.

Reasons to refuse:

• embarrass myself or her
• draw too much attention to ourselves
• look like a dick (see point one)

Reasons to agree:

• she may very soon find this idea repulsive and I think I might want to have this experience
• it's Christmas
• confidence building/leaving comfort zone

WIBU to agree/WIBU to refuse?

Help me mumsnet! (And be kind!)

Aw do it. She wont want to dress anything like you when she's older Anyone can see it's tongue in cheek for Christmas...........go on......do it.. do it......do it

No one would laugh at my kids primary but absolutely do go OTT with tinsel etc

I would definitely do it. I think it's wonderful when children can stay "young" longer, as you say, and I do lots of things for/with my children that I wouldn't ever have expected to do before I had them.

If you think it's necessary (based on some comments here), you could mention to your daughter that some people might think it's silly, but that you two are going to do what you want. If anyone says anything, teach her to say "F the haters!"

I wouldn't worry. Christmas jumpers etc are in fashion and I am sure there will be plenty of people wearing those. My daughter wouldn't be embarrassed and she's only a bit younger. There were plenty of parents wearing Halloween costumes when we all went trick or treating together with her class. I don't see how this is different.

It surprises me there are so many naysayers tbh. The idea that kids will be storing up things that happened in the early years of primary to taunt them with later is really sad. I honestly can't imagine that happening at our school - they're all very excited about their parents being involved with school stuff - and dd1 is always desperate for me to take teddy to watch assembly etc and wave him about. And this is inner-London where according to other threads kids grow up way too fast.

Do it. I totally would. Ds and I wore matching Christmas jumpers to his preschool party and dd (4) was cross to be left out. If you can you wear gaudy fun themed clothes at a Christmas disco then wear can you?

Oh that dress is something just wear it to the disco she is 6 primary kids would not take the piss it is just for fun you need to top it with a tinsel boa though just to add a touch of sparkle

Its cute! I would and add a Santa hat!

Where did you get it? I want to match dd on Christmas day!!!!

You will look like a dick - don't do it

Better then sounding like one

Is it infant or primary?
Infant I think you'd get away with it. If you have different tights and put some tinsel in her hair none of the dc will notice.
Primary, I suspect you might get some of the older ones noticing and commenting, which could be picked up by younger siblings.

At my seconds there was a very small teacher who occasionally turned up with her young daughter in matching dresses. The dresses were clearly child's department, usually m&s. That was seriously cringy!

yy OliviaBenson, I don't understand why the posters wanting to put their claws out can't just cringe inwardly and backspace out. Some are just horrible for the sake of it.

Lying - honestly, check the full photo from the link. They've carved her ribs off. The "waist" starts way too high. Look at the other side.

MrsH, you're right! I didn't think of photoshopping, I just saw her hands at different levels on her body and just assumed she was doing a hip-tilt. She's been got at!

Or airbrushing - or air-carving, in this case.

I'm wearing one on Xmas day and if I had a dd I would get her one too

Do it! I would

Some right joyless people on this thread

Is the main point not that it will make a six year old girl very happy?

I would have no issue at all at wearing the same (obviously) fun dress as my dd. It's a Christmas dress at a Christmas party not matching m&s clothes for the weekly shop!

Well I had to count a few times... but I'm pretty sure the consensus is DO IT!

I do appreciate the naysayers too, it gave me a taste of how I'll feel if someone makes fun of us and...I'm totally ok wth it! I'm sure some will think in a scroogie manner, but most won't.

Also, I thought about what I would think if I seen it - turns out I'd be jealous that I didn't have the guts to do it! Well if that's not a challenge then what is!?

Thank you so much everyone! I'm actually really proud of myself for this.

Enjoy the party and get some photos of you both together! I have no good photos of me and my children because I'm taking the bloody things.

Go for it, it will make your daughter happy and that's worth it. There are some miserable buggers on this thread,

It's fab, do it and enjoy it. I would and I think my daughter at 11 still would. It's a great dress, enjoy.

Yay, well done OP. Do make sure you update and tell us how it went

"OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay

You will look like a dick - don't do it

Better then sounding like one"

Lol. Indeed. Some of them don't have to make that much effort either to get the sound just right.

"HoFuckOff

Please don't fgrin when I was down butlins last weekend, so many mothers and daughter had on this dress or one similar. They looked ridiculous and cheap"

Oh the delicious irony...