to not want dh keep taking ds to toddler classes?

[quinnlee]

i dont want him taking him to so many, i dont think its good for small children to have so much structure, he is only 3. will start nursery in jan as it is. currently does at least 2 classes a day. thinks like toddler gymnastics, toddler dance, toddler football, toddler etc. etc. he is a sahd and is really good with him, but isnt this something we get to decide together? i dont want all the income going on those classes, it seems like such a waste to me especially if its doing him no good (i dont think structured classes are good at such a young age like i said) aibu??

i think yabu

being the sahp is hard. you do what u do to get thru the day. i took ds1 to a class a day and softplay and parks, farms etc weekly, as he got older play dates etc. i had to. i had to get out. staying in hard. i'm not great at playing. so having someone else design and structure the activity worked for me. if you can afford it then why not. the day is long when it's just you and a toddler. i suspect ur oh needs the classes more than your child. if you do broach the subject i'd do it carefully. definitely no 'my money' business. your oh saves you both £900-£1400 (depending on where u live) a month in nursery fees.
maybe talk about how your child will cope with nursery and whether a class each day on top of that will be too much.
when you are not the sahp i don't think u can dictate the way the sahp spends the day. so long as the child is happy and well cared for i think you have to accept that the sahp gets to make the day to day choices about the activities they engage in