AIBU or does a manager leaving a 32 week pregnant woman on her own in London smack of ignorance?!

[melmel89]

So I'm 32 weeks pregnant and had to work an event in London this week-hours of standing and also tracking across London travelling. We went on a meal afterwards and obviously being tired I wanted to go back to the hotel afterwards. My manager got in a taxi and said "you know where you're going then" and shut the door....I nearly burst into tears. Firstly I didn't and secondly why should I be left like that because he wants to go drinking?? Am I being unreasonable?

I'm a bit about this my manager has a duty of care towards me when I'm outside work crap.

I've one member of staff who often needs reminding that I'm her manager, not her mother.

I was on a Christmas night out with my team last week, it was going to be a boozy night and I'd organised a lift home.

One of my staff was pissed and crying on me, did I have a duty of care to stay with her and miss my lift home?

Apparently my other responsibility is to piss off early.

Most are parents travelling home with an hour or two journey so will go straight home.

What has being parents got to do with it

Parents don't drink piglet just like professionals don't

So, if someone uses ignorance to mean rudeness, what does the phrase, "ignorance is bliss mean?" You'll be happier if you're rude to people?

It would be gross misconduct in our organisation. Things like swearing at a colleague, lying about work you had/hadn't done or not turning up with reasonable excuse would be misconduct. It brings organisation (which is public facing) into disrepute so gross misconduct and sacking (as would bullying a colleague, any racist remarks or behaviour and stealing. On the plus side most of team have 23-3rd off without it counting as leave, parents have all been able to go and watch their children's nativities without fear of criticism and people can juggle other commitments beside work as long as job gets done. Our staff get to claim travel expenses from home and maSnage their own diaries. It's swings and roundabouts but mostbsay ours is a very good organisation to work with. We just got staff survey results for my region which show high respect from managers (96%) high morale (92%) and high team work (98%) so whilst it might not be to everyone's taste, our staff like working for the organisation.
Yes I unashamedly look after my team as they look after me. When someone went in back of my car last week one of the staff offered to drive me home which would have been an additional three hours for them. I didn't accept because I didn't need to but was pleased she offered rather than offended.

I didn't say people should be offended by kindness even though you are determined to read it that way. I would be offended by being treated like a child - that's nothing to do with kindness.
Like pp have said, what has the fact they have children got to do with it? Are parents automatically 'well behaved'?

It would be gross misconduct in our organisation

Am I reading this right? If you took a taxi home ahead of one of your colleagues on a night out in your own time it would be considered gross misconduct and you'd get sacked?!

No mortificado if you photocopy your areas!!

Arse!!!

QueenMortificado I misunderstood too!

pike prude I am not. Even if autocorrect thinks I should be!!

I enjoyed "photocopy your areas" more too

I'm in the retire early camp - I'm cringing at monitoring that everyone goes home. They're professional adults FFS!

I go out for the official bit, gave a few drinks but have absolutely no desire to witness's the 3am drinking/shagging/crying/puking.

I leave some cash behind the bar (the main but having been paid on expenses) and leave them to it.

Wtf?? YABU. At what point does pregnancy make you incapable of making and remembering your own hotel booking?!

I'm sure we'll soon hear a story about someone who needed minor surgery and couldn't crap without wincing for years because they got carried away and photocopied their "areas"!

at Sandybum who calls herself an independent feminist whilst also calling fellow posters "bitches".

Well. You are an adult human being. YABU.

I deal with people from out of town/other countries a lot. I always try and make sure they know where they're going, take them to a station or put them in a cab.

I think he sounds very rude/inconsiderate.

For info, all black cabs have to carry card machines now so you don't even need to have cash with you. It's one of those things that makes life easier and knowing I can always jump into a cab makes me feel safer.

Big hugs.

Very unnecessary bitchy comments here."When I was pregnant I was commuting in London and had to do blah" good for you have a fucking medal. Every pregnancy is different.

OP I am 31 weeks pregnant and I have noticed I'm getting overly sensitive and feel more vulnerable when I'm out and about, and I think that's what's happened here. Especially when you're not in your usual place of work, it's exhausting and overwhelming.

He should have let you have the first taxi, but you should have known where you were staying. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

ui realise this has died but i was interested to hear that a pp would sack a team member for photocopying their arse at a party.

this would be extremely unwise if its a first offence and you would prob land your firm in a ET with a not to be sniffed at payout

How can photocopying your arse bring the organisation into disrepute? Who's going to hear about it? And why is it worse than lying about work you haven't done? I'd be much more concerned about the lying.

As for getting your travel expenses from home - that's just salary, isn't it?