To ask you for ideas on how to tell my DH I'm pregnant on Christmas Day?

[Writerwannabe83]

This is clearly not an AIBU but I'm shamelessly posting because of all the traffic and because I'm excited!!

I found out two days ago that I'm pregnant and I want to find a way to tell DH on Christmas Day.

I had thought about gift wrapping a pregnancy test but now that just seems boring?

Then I thought of having a customised bauble made with the words "I'm pregnant" engraved on it for him to unwrap.

Then I thought about wearing some kind of t-shirt/jumper with a message on it to indicate I'm pregnant and see how long it takes DH to notice it...

I just don't know.

Are there any creative people out there with some good suggestions? Or maybe someone who has done it themselves and would like to share?

You're on the wrong website: Pinterest is the source of ideas like this!

A festive or twee surprise is one thing: faking a period is just weird.

Lovely idea but my dh would be really really hurt if I kept it that long.

Sorry just rtft.

I'll have a think.

Congratulations Writer and may you have a serene pregnancy. Do let us know what you finally decided to do and DHs reaction. Sounds as if you have a lovely relaxed relationship. A wonderful stage of life and one I'd love to repeat if I got. TARDIS for Christmas.
Good luck

Im very happy for your good news. But this modern day craze of wrapping piss sticks or baby booties is so cringe like these bad straight to TV movies on channel five on a Saturday afternoon. No doubt the moment will also be photographed and uploaded to facebook/instagram

Say after christmas dinner 'I'm well and truly stuffed'?

Instead of waiting could you give him an advent gift?

Why don't you put a bun in the oven and ask him to go look there? Congratulations!!!!

I was all planning on telling him when he came gone from work but we've now had an issue with DS's Nursery that has completely killed the happiness vibe that I've felt all day.

Regardless of if you're on a mega happiness vibe or not, he still deserves to know. Not everything in life has to be like a Disney film.

Not everything is an instagram #blessed moment. My husband would be really cross if I didn't tell him for two weeks! Just tell him, it's never NOT going to be lovely, you'll all be happy and jolly over the Christmas break, both knowing your shared news. Seems unfair to keep it from him just for the sake of a wow moment.

Congrats but yes tell him why wait?

Hope nursery issue gets sorted

I am going to tell him tonight but I will wait until DS is in bed now.

To those pp saying their husbands would be cross: that only reflects negatively on your husband, not on OP's. Not all husbands are as miserable as yours!

Writerwannabe83 I'm sure your husband will be happy to wait. Men don't really care about all the details and don't feel the emotions that women often ascribe to pregnancy. Tell him when you want! It's your body and your pregnancy! It's a lovely idea to wait.

I got all the way through waiting for him to know and how I have to wait congrats and good luck!!

Blimey- if that doesn't reflect negativly on men......!

And "upset" doesn't mean "cross". It means upset. Sad. Hurt. Excluded. You know- all those things women feel?

Men don't really care about all the details and don't feel the emotions that women often ascribe to pregnancy.

That's pretty offensive. I can assure you my husband was just as emotionally invested in my pregnancy as I was. It's not about being miserable it's about having the equal right to know that you're going to be a parent.

Have you told him yet OP? I'm excited for you both

Men don't really care about all the details and don't feel the emotions that women often ascribe to pregnancy.

Bollocks. My dh was just upset as me at every miscarriage and negative test. It isn't his fault he can't physically carry a baby but every one was just as much his.

Men don't have "equal rights" in pregnacy, or indeed to know: a woman's body, a woman's choice!

Of course men don't have 'equal rights', but we're not talking about 'rights' and an adversarial situation here: we're talking about a couple sharing happy news! No one's suggesting that OP should be legally obliged to tell him ASAP.

Your pretending you started your period? That seems quite cruel. I'm sure his upset each month you haven't conceived but doesn't want to put you under any pressure or upset you by showing his upset.

Like a pp said, not everything needs to be a Disney film.

Tbh, I'm not sure why anyone would want to do this on Christmas Day, particularly if they have experience of miscarriage. When happens if a person does the big announcement on Christmas Day, sadly experiences a loss and then for every other Christmas after that has to remember how happy they were the past Christmas and how it ended.

I remember being floored just going to IKEA, having been to IKEA the day after finding out I was pregnant and then going back later when I had had a loss.

You can get baubles from John Lewis which are hinged and you can fill yourself. You could fill with tissue paper and hide a pair of booties in it 😬

What happened at nursery that managed to have such an impact on you being so happy?