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To ask you for ideas on how to tell my DH I'm pregnant on Christmas Day?

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 11:44

This is clearly not an AIBU but I'm shamelessly posting because of all the traffic and because I'm excited!!

I found out two days ago that I'm pregnant and I want to find a way to tell DH on Christmas Day.

I had thought about gift wrapping a pregnancy test but now that just seems boring?

Then I thought of having a customised bauble made with the words "I'm pregnant" engraved on it for him to unwrap.

Then I thought about wearing some kind of t-shirt/jumper with a message on it to indicate I'm pregnant and see how long it takes DH to notice it...

I just don't know.

Are there any creative people out there with some good suggestions? Or maybe someone who has done it themselves and would like to share?

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 13:18

Why would he have clocked on? I only found out myself 48 hours ago Grin

I'm thinking of maybe gift wrapping today's test and giving him it once DS is in bed as an early Christmas present??

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HolidayHunterTeam · 12/12/2016 13:21

Why are people insisting OP do it now? I don't understand.

onecurrantbun1 · 12/12/2016 13:21

The news is.special enough, it doesn't need adornment.

Congratulations!

Hersetta427 · 12/12/2016 13:22

Glad you are telling him now. I couldn't imagine keeping it secret for my husband for 2 mins, let alone 2 weeks.

I found out I was pregnant a week before Xmas and when we saw my mum on Dec 28th (she lives abroad and we went for NY) I gave her a happy Christmas nanny and grandad card, and inside wrote ' see you in 35 weeks, Love baby H.....she cried !

PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2016 13:23

Why are people insisting OP do it now? I don't understand

It's his baby too-he should be allowed to be excited.

And although I really hope it doesn't, if anything goes wrong he needs to be around for support.

mimi14 · 12/12/2016 13:24

Have you got your tree up yet op? If so could you write it on a bauble and place it at the front of the tree so he spots it when he gets home?

Rachel0Greep · 12/12/2016 13:25

Congrats OP, wishing you a healthy pregnancy.
I agree, give him an early Christmas present, however you decide to do it.

SoupDragon · 12/12/2016 13:25

ive never understood the idea of wrapping up a pissed on stick. Take a photo and text it to him when you're sitting with him. Or say "I've had a great idea of what we could get DS! He will get years of fun out of it. Hang on, I took a photo ..." and show him the picture.

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 13:30

Loving all these ideas!!!?
It keeps making me change my mind about what to do!! Grin

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YorkiesGlasses · 12/12/2016 13:30

If I were a guy I think I might be a bit pissed off if my partner didn't tell me they were pregnant until 2 weeks after they found out.

I know! Poor bloke, he'll have missed out on two whole weeks of... erm, errrrr, give me a sec...

TheCompanyOfCats · 12/12/2016 13:30

What is going on with the amount on contrarian miseries jumping on threads at the moment?

Lovely idea OP!

Macauley · 12/12/2016 13:31

Congrats op Grin

I'm glad you aren't waiting until xmas now. I have been in your exact shoes and I really needed my dh's support during the first few weeks of my pregnancy after mc.

PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2016 13:33

I know! Poor bloke, he'll have missed out on two whole weeks of... erm, errrrr, give me a sec...
The op says they've had a stressful time trying and a miscarriage. It's great news for him too. Yes, there's nothing much actually happening but they can look forward to the new baby together.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 12/12/2016 13:37

Congratulations writer! Flowers Give him an early Christmas present as suggested, you won't be able to keep it to yourself until Christmas Xmas Grin

TheCompanyOfCats · 12/12/2016 13:37

You could say 'We'll have to make this Christmas extra special for DS'. And then when he asks 'Why?', you could tell him that it will be DS's last Christmas as an only child.

I'd do something like that. Grin

Make sure you update us OP!

JorahsMissus · 12/12/2016 13:38

Congrats on your pregnancy OP. I would want to tell my partner as soon as I knew but do understand you wanting to make a special event out of it. Go to the shops and get a xmas card for a special daddy and sign it from your DS and baby number 2. You can still do it in front of the fire with a xmas movie playing and have it just like you wanted.....but tonight (or soon) instead of waiting til xmas.

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 13:40

For the last two days, as part of the ruse I've told him I'm on my period in order to completely throw him off the scent - I even opened a fresh box of tampons and left them in the bathroom Grin

My DH is such a prankster, he's always, always playing tricks on me (which I always falll for) so it felt like I was getting my own back Grin

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PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2016 13:45

For the last two days, as part of the ruse I've told him I'm on my period in order to completely throw him off the scent - I even opened a fresh box of tampons and left them in the bathroomGrin

Seriously? Hmm

I don't understand why you'd do that. If you've had issues conceiving (as you said upthread) period arriving is a sad thing for everyone. Pretending you've got yours isn't a particularly funny joke.

Buddahbelly · 12/12/2016 13:59

Op, only read first page and i'm sorry but im with everyone else, tell him straight away please.

I found out a few weeks ago I was pg too, I planned to save it for xmas day, and had a MC last week, he found me bawling my eyes out in the bedroom and thats how he found out i'd even been pregnant. He was sad that I hadnt told him straight away.

Its a long time to wait. Its a cute idea to have it as a present but in reality, so much can happen between then and now that you may need help with so if you want to do it as a bauble then give it to him early.

Redpony1 · 12/12/2016 14:02

Take a photo and text it to him when you're sitting with him. Or say "I've had a great idea of what we could get DS! He will get years of fun out of it. Hang on, I took a photo ..." and show him the picture

I think this is a fab idea!!

AutumnalLeaves38 · 12/12/2016 14:02

SoupDragon's idea is lovely:
Say "I've had a great idea of what we could get DS! He will get years of fun out of it. Hang on, I took a photo ..." and show him the picture.

Many congratulations, OP, to your whole family...here's to a safe and comfortable pregnancy.

Have fun telling your DH later Xmas Smile ...do update us!

FourForYouGlenCoco · 12/12/2016 14:12

I didn't tell my DH last time I was pregnant for 3ish weeks (he worked away so only saw him at weekends, so was quite easy). Had had 2 mmc and a mc and expected to miss again, so was trying not to think about it at all and just carried on with life. Had an early scan about 7w and there was a wee baby. Had barely admitted it to myself before that. I gave DH the scan photo and he couldn't believe it!
OP, I love this suggestion: say "I've had a great idea of what we could get DS! He will get years of fun out of it. Hang on, I took a photo ..." and show him the picture
Do update us! I love a good announcement Grin

DatsunCogs · 12/12/2016 14:12

Why not wrap up the test? I did this once ( in January!) another time I wrapped up a 'baby on board' badge as a Valentine's Day gift... these were both better than the first time where i wandered out of the bathroom waving a stick and saying 'oh fuck' Smile

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 14:14

Take a photo and text it to him when you're sitting with him. Or say "I've had a great idea of what we could get DS! He will get years of fun out of it. Hang on, I took a photo ..." and show him the picture

That is a good idea!!

I'm now trying to work out whether upon seeing two double lines he'll understand or whether I should get a digital one - seeing the word "Pregnant" may heighten the impact Grin

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PoldarksBreeches · 12/12/2016 14:15

I think it's really weird that you're faking a period to make him think you aren't pregnant.