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To ask you for ideas on how to tell my DH I'm pregnant on Christmas Day?

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 11:44

This is clearly not an AIBU but I'm shamelessly posting because of all the traffic and because I'm excited!!

I found out two days ago that I'm pregnant and I want to find a way to tell DH on Christmas Day.

I had thought about gift wrapping a pregnancy test but now that just seems boring?

Then I thought of having a customised bauble made with the words "I'm pregnant" engraved on it for him to unwrap.

Then I thought about wearing some kind of t-shirt/jumper with a message on it to indicate I'm pregnant and see how long it takes DH to notice it...

I just don't know.

Are there any creative people out there with some good suggestions? Or maybe someone who has done it themselves and would like to share?

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:08

When I had the positive test with pregnant DS I rang my DH straight away (who was out playing cricket) and I literally screamed down the phone at him - I was an excited jibbering mess!!!

With my second pregnancy (the miscarriage) I bought DS a t-shirt that said "I'm going to be a big brother on it" and sent him in to the living room to and play with his daddy - I stayed out the way and it took DH about 2-3 minutes to notice Grin

I have never actually verbally told my husband I'm pregnant so maybe doing it that way will be special in it's own right Smile

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madamginger · 12/12/2016 12:10

I kept my 3rd pregnancy from My DH for a week, it was a huge shock as we thought we were done at 2 and I needed to get my head around it first.
I found out on Christmas Eve and told him on New Year's Eve.

SilkThreads · 12/12/2016 12:11

I'd tell him as soon as you (feel you) can.
If you've had a loss before,
the joy could be 'extra special' but also tinged with 'what if' for one or both of you.
I think you need to share that together asap.

I hope everything goes really well for you, and by next Christmas you have your hands full :)

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:11

I bet it was lovely telling him on NYE - at one point I was considering leaving it until then myself Grin

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Joinourclub · 12/12/2016 12:11

It's not the way you tell him that's important, it's the news itself! So just tell him tonight, it'll be no less special than telling him in Christmas Day.

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:12

He's not going to be expecting it at all - he's going to think I'm winding him up Grin

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madamginger · 12/12/2016 12:14

I was still BF Ds1 so the lack of alcohol anyway meant I could get away with it!

museumum · 12/12/2016 12:14

If you're 2-3wks prey then in two weeks you may start puking which will be one way of "telling" him Grin

PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2016 12:15

It's not the way you tell him that's important, it's the news itself! So just tell him tonight, it'll be no less special than telling him in Christmas Day.

Absolutely. I think Facebook, instagram and pintrest have a heck of a lot to answer for.

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:16

Lol @ the puking Grin

Thankfully madam I very, very rarely drink alcohol so wine consumption doesn't happen in our house anyway Grin

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Oysterbabe · 12/12/2016 12:16

I'm always surprised on these threads by how little some couples communicate about this stuff. When we were ttc we talked about when my period was due and when I would test. So on test day he would ask me the result if I hadn't already offered up the information.

luckiestgirl · 12/12/2016 12:16

You could wrap up the test and give it to him tonight as an 'early Christmas present'

TwoGunslingers · 12/12/2016 12:16

I'd just tell him now TBH seems a shame to wait when he could be enjoying the excitement. Congrats Flowers

grounddown · 12/12/2016 12:18

Congrats!!!

Dowser · 12/12/2016 12:19

I think it's a lovely idea op.

Just seeing as it's Christmas.

Go for it.

MSharp84 · 12/12/2016 12:19

I think its nice to set it up as a surprise and its really not that long to wait. The bauble idea is good or perhaps baby shoes? Or a born 2017 babygro?

I was expecting (yet another) negative test and went to bits when I got a positive so poor bestie had to stay on the phone with me almost an hour until husband got home. I just sort of cried and shoved the test at him Smile

Dagnabit · 12/12/2016 12:20

Aw, how lovely. Congratulations OP Flowers

I would tell him sooner too but the decision lies with you - I couldn't keep my mouth shut!

EnglishNotBingo · 12/12/2016 12:20

Tell him when you most want to!! (Whenever that is. :) )

Congratulations. :)

I had been trying for ages and had stayed away from alcohol. But DH brought back a nice bottle of champagne and I grumped and grumped and then said screw it, I was having some. But I'd test first.

I came back 3 minutes later crying because I was pg, and I really wanted some champagne!!!!

We went out for takeaway chinese instead and saved the bottle. :)

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:21

We used to be like that Oyster but we've been trying for 9 cycles and after about cycle 4/5 I had stopped wanting to make an issue of it, I didn't want there to be a constant focus on when my period was due and another month of being faced with negative tests - it just became too upsetting.

We carried on having sex, obviously, but we stopped talking about it as we wanted to stop focusing our lives on trying to get pregnant and I was tired of my period and BFNs being a topic of upsetting discussion every month Sad

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HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 12/12/2016 12:22

It's not the way you tell him that's important, it's the news itself! So just tell him tonight, it'll be no less special than telling him in Christmas Day.

Yes

I told my dh in a really daft way
He came home from work and I was buzzing with the news but waiting for a 'good moment' as he was putting his coat away etc
Then he asked "what's in the oven?" and without thinking I said "a baby!". He was really confused as he'd meant what was for dinner!

TheProblemOfSusan · 12/12/2016 12:23

Ooh tell him now, how lovely! I love your surprise ideas from when you were going to do it at Christmas though so if you've time today, I might still do a Christmas card or baby gro.

Or even just wrap up (if you had one) your original book of baby names and hand that over as an early present tonight?!

HolidayHunterTeam · 12/12/2016 12:23

I think this is an awesome idea. What about wrapping a baby names book?

SelfCleaningVagina · 12/12/2016 12:23

The 'I love Daddy' babygro idea is perfect. Congratulations.

But I think it will be a miracle if you can keep it a secret that long. He's going to have a soppy smile on his face all Christmas either way. Xmas Smile

splendide · 12/12/2016 12:24

Aww congratulations!

I'm glad he came round in the end.

StartledByHisFurryShorts · 12/12/2016 12:25

I'm pleased you're telling him tonight! I've only ever been pregnant once (with my awesome now-grown-up daughter) but that was unplanned after a drunken one-night stand. I'm slightly jealous of anyone who can make a joyful pregnancy announcement.

As my mother says "Never postpone joy".

I'm so sorry about your previous MC but telling your partner tonight means you have 2 weeks more to share this amazing news.