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To ask you for ideas on how to tell my DH I'm pregnant on Christmas Day?

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 11:44

This is clearly not an AIBU but I'm shamelessly posting because of all the traffic and because I'm excited!!

I found out two days ago that I'm pregnant and I want to find a way to tell DH on Christmas Day.

I had thought about gift wrapping a pregnancy test but now that just seems boring?

Then I thought of having a customised bauble made with the words "I'm pregnant" engraved on it for him to unwrap.

Then I thought about wearing some kind of t-shirt/jumper with a message on it to indicate I'm pregnant and see how long it takes DH to notice it...

I just don't know.

Are there any creative people out there with some good suggestions? Or maybe someone who has done it themselves and would like to share?

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:26

The plan was that as I'm working Christmas Day between 1pm -8pm I was going to come home afterwards and tell him I had got another Christmas present for him and then hand him the gift wrapped test.

I had an image of us sitting in the darkened living room, the glow of the Christmas tree lights, watching a Christmas Movie and just being all snuggled up on the sofa together in the lovely knowledge I was pregnant Grin

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Brightsmoke · 12/12/2016 12:27

Oh this is so exciting, congrats OP!! I had so many ideas when I got my BFP. DH and I are both bikers, so I thought about getting him a mini version of his bike. I know your now doing this tonight, but does he have a hobby you could go out and buy a mini of? I wouldn't have been able to keep it from my DH, and was luckily off the day I found out, but I admire you for trying!! All the best and fingers tightly crossed for a sticky bean :)

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 12/12/2016 12:29

In honesty I find giving a personalised bauble or babygrow to a husband very contrived. To me it strikes of trying to create a 'special moment' when actually it is the intimacy of sharing those early weeks of pregnancy which is very special.

specialsubject · 12/12/2016 12:29

Congrats and tell him asap. Why delay happy news? There really isn't anything special about 25 DEC.

Hope all goes very well for you both.

Butterpuff · 12/12/2016 12:30

Congratulations Writer.

I wish I had thought about better ways of telling DH both times. Like you we were trying but not focusing so no discussing test date. Also I didn't want to test until I was at least a week late both times because I didn't want a negative test. So after a few days late I told him I thought it was likely, then we confirmed by test at a week but really already knew. Not a big excited surprise. But still delight for both of us (well this time delight for both of us first time was more shock. Oh shit we wanted this but now its actually happening what the heck have we done and how the hell are we going to be parents!) All good now. We are fabulous parents Wink

Maybe you could pick up some favorite cake/pastry/choc etc. to celebrate after you have told him. That would go down well in our house. Smile and fingers crossed for the most uneventful pregnancy possible.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 12/12/2016 12:31

I think it's good you're doing it tonight: I think it's nicer for him, and I also think your original plan put a lot of pressure on things being just right and a certain way, and that's a bit of a recipe for trouble. It's not the same at all, but I'm trying to have a baby and stupidly got really upset at my last period, even though we've only been trying a few months, because I had pictured being pregnant at Christmas so much in my head. I'm now trying to stop myself 'planning' announcing pregnancy, etc.

On a more practical note, is it not a bit unpleasant to keep something you've urinated on for two weeks?!

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:34

lisa Grin I was going to take a fresh test on Christmas morning!!!! Hahahaha Grin

I've got today's test sitting next to me now so maybe I could just show it him tonight? The second line is definitely a lot darker than the second line I got when I got pregnant with DS. When I showed him the test that time he told me I was imagining it Grin

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NonnoMum · 12/12/2016 12:35

I wrapped up a mini teddy to tell my DH.

SandyFeet177 · 12/12/2016 12:36

Congrats! Good for you planning a memorable way to tell him, I think it's a lovely idea. I like the babygro idea too. I've printed t shirts myself, Ebay (and Tesco I think) sells printing paper that you iron on to cloth, so you could really personalise it with your due date?

AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads · 12/12/2016 12:37

Sorry I have no practical advice but the idea of having my head down the toilet on Christmas Day morning and saying "by the way DH, we're having a baby!" amuses me greatly Grin (I got sick very early with my pregnancies)

Congratulations!

PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2016 12:37

Congrats! Good for you planning a memorable way to tell him, I think it's a lovely idea.

Won't finding out he's going to be a dad again be memorable? Confused

YelloDraw · 12/12/2016 12:39

Fuk it - I'm going to tell him tonight!!! He's going to have a heart attack!*

You could still give him an xmas card from the bump if you wanted to do an xmas theme. But defo think it is a good idea to tell him tonight!

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:40

sandy - I don't want to focus on the due date as unfortunately it is 1 week after our booked summer holiday abroad and I'm not sure I want DH to click on to that fact yet seeing as we've only just paid for it Grin

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PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2016 12:42

sandy - I don't want to focus on the due date as unfortunately it is 1 week after our booked summer holiday abroad and I'm not sure I want DH to click on to that fact yet seeing as we've only just paid for it

Isn't his first question most likely to be when's it due?

LisaSimpsonsbff · 12/12/2016 12:43

Ah, that makes sense, writer, but for some reason didn't occur to me! To be fair I spend a lot of time on the TTC boards where it seems quite a lot of women keep a whole cycle's OPKs to compare and contrast - grosses me out a bit, but each to their own!

Butterpuff · 12/12/2016 12:48

Will your holiday insurance sort that out writer?

Or else can you swap to an earlier date as its still a long way away?

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:50

Isn't his first question most likely to be when's it due?

His first question will be "Are you joking?" Grin

Looking back on both my previous pregnancies I don't recall him asking me when baby was due but maybe he'll surprise me tonight? Grin

I will tell him that he and DS can still go and I can relax at home Smile

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hawaiibaby · 12/12/2016 12:52

Ahhh congratulations! Glad you are going to tell him tonight! I put a bun in our oven and dragged dh through to the kitchen when he got home. I was like, 'look! Look what it is!'
Him: 'it's a... bun? In the... oven? It's.... what???!!!!'

We'd also had a loss and some fertility issues so I don't think he could believe it. Was very lovely 💙

PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2016 12:53

I will tell him that he and DS can still go and I can relax at home

A week before giving birth (if the baby even arrives on the due date)? That doesn't sound like a sensible plan. He might miss out on the birth and you might need help around the house.

TheCuriousOwl · 12/12/2016 12:55

If you want to still link it into the Christmassy thing, maybe write one from the bump and post it to him (at home address) first class so it will arrive tomorrow- he'll open it thinking it's just another random Christmas card from someone! And you wouldn't have long to wait. Or you could just put 'by hand' on it if you wanted to do it tonight :grin:

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/12/2016 12:57

Last night he said to me "What shall we give DS for his Christmas present?"

In hindsight I wish I'd said, "A baby brother or sister?"

Grin
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AristotlesTrousers · 12/12/2016 13:07

Just thinking, Writer, Christmas is practically over by Christmas Day evening anyway -- even the ads on telly have lost their sparkle. If you tell him any time from here on in, it'll still be special, and you can enjoy even more of the Xmas season, with the knowledge that you're having another baby! Congrats!

AristotlesTrousers · 12/12/2016 13:08

P.S. Could you make him a Chrismas cracker and put the test inside? You could give it to him any time then. Grin

Oldraver · 12/12/2016 13:12

Another one who is surprised he has not clocked on.

The two men in life (OH and best friend) said they knew straight away before I told them

Farmmummy · 12/12/2016 13:18

Ooooohhhhh congratulations!!!!!!! (Sorry broody much Xmas Blush) if you are going to shops today why not get one of those from the bump cards to give him tonight? Congratulations wishing you a safe and happy pregnancy this time around Flowers