Short men

[luellami]

I have been dating same guy for about 5 months. He is lovely and really caring...I couldn't ask for more. Only thing is...he is short. Same height as me...I'm 5'6". I thought I would get over it but I can't...am I being a twat? I'm thinking of ending it as it's just not fair on him. He really deserves better.

An average UK man is not 5 ft 6!!!

Google is your friend...

Fizzbombbathtime - average height globally for a man is 5 6-5 7.

UK male average is 5 9 but that would also be considered short in the USA (5 10). Where do we put a stop to this madness?

DailyFail. We don't live all over the globe, we live in the Uk. Encountering UK men, at UK heights, with which we frame our ideas of average.

5"6 or 7 is short for a man in the UK.

It's sad really. A man of equal height to his partner is being judged as inferior or whatever. God forbid the roles were switched! For the woman saying it'd be a deal breaker: Why? Equal footing in (literally) here, would you need a big strong man? Or would one inch taller be enough?

Daily I wasn't criticising men that are 5 ft 6 I was just saying in the uk where I live, 5 ft 6 is below average. I can't help that. I'm above average for a woman, it's just how it is. There's no need to be defensive.

When did anyone say it's inferior?!

I fancy tall chubby blokes

I'm not going to apologise for that or feel guilty

Plenty of men have told me straight I'm a giant arse woman and not girlfriend material in the past, I couldn't give a shit.

I have been mistaken for a man/ been asked if I'm pre op by (drunk) men before.

World takes all sorts!!!

Maybe I know a different set of people. Average height of UK born men in my specific ethnic group is 5 4. We came over from former African colonies in the sixties and average height rate across 3 generations still hasn't improved greatly.

I resent that just because the average height of the UK is 5 9 that it's somehow abnormal for a man to be shorter. Not when the global av is only 5 6. If OP isn't attracted to the guy she's seeing that's fine. But the numbers of idiotic posts her ridiculing people based on their height is ridiculous. It all depends on genetic make up. Maybe it's on account of much shorter women muddying gene pools of tall families?

Loads of short men in Glasgow, I'm not quite sure why it is that tall men are so rare here.

You can break his legs and extend them with pins etc.

Daily I can't speak for everyone but I certainly don't think it's abnormal, nor have I said as much. I don't recall any posts saying so either, but correct me if I'm wrong.

squoosh my husband is a tall Glaswegian

If you can't get over it you should probs end it as it's not like he will be able to do anything about it! I would strongly advice not telling him this is why you're ending it though, it could cause him a lot of pain. Good luck x

Reminds me of men who date a woman with kids, then remember 6 months later that they don't want to date women with kids.

You knew his height going in. If it's such a turn off to you that you can't bear it, why did you think that would change?

fizz i get that too, people often think I'm a man and feel obliged to tell me so! I fucking hate being tall... wish I could be more like you and not care

Aye pooh when I was going out and about regularly before meeting dh, men regularly felt the need to pass comment. I play(ed) up to it! I couldn't give a shit if people think I'm a man/used to be a man/ whatever. Like loads of this thread have said, height is something you can't control or change so you just have to WERK IT

I've dumped someone after three months of dating because they wore bad shoes before - height would be a deal breaker!

I think if he was 'the one' (so to speak), then it wouldn't matter. I'm 5'7, all of my boyfriends have been 6'2 or over and my Stepdad, Stepbrothers and male cousin are all between 6'4 and 6'6 so I'm used to tall men. I would always have said that I didn't find shorter men attractive. You can probably see where this is going... Sure enough, I met DP and he's 5'8 so a whole inch taller than me. Did it matter? Not even one bit. I literally couldn't have cared less, we just clicked. I wouldn't change a thing about him even if I could (except maybe his snoring). He's intelligent, funny, kind, generous, reliable, handsome, capable and strong, all of which are far more important than his height. It really was/is just a non-issue because it's him and he's awesome, if that makes sense.

I think if you have to really try to get past it and aren't sure if you can then it's probably not going to work.

YANBU unreasonable to not continue dating him but I think 5-6 months is too long to string him a long in a sense when it was a non changeable physical trait when you began dating him. It's a long time!

YANBU - I'm sure you assumed the height thing would start to not bother you but that hasn't happened, possibly because he isn't that great in other respects or perhaps because height is more important to you than you first thought.

The whole point of dating is to see how you get on and to work out whether you are a good match. You have worked that it isn't. There is nothing wrong with that. Break up with him akindly as you can and you can both move on.

BTW Whats with really nasty spiteful comments on this thread. Do people get a kick out of being so aggressive or something. I don't think short guts necessarily have ishoos but I think some posters on this thread do.

I see where you're coming from, OP. When I was OLD I'd filter out anyone under 5'11". They need to be tall enough for me not to be taller in my high heels

I'm a short man and I'd say I've definitely got issues. Probably because as I'm also very thin I just fade into the background. To be noticed I have to make a noise and be pushy, an unappealing trait that is the first thing everyone notices.

I have a work colleague who is a cross between a Hollywood film star and an ox. Next to his big bass voice I seem like an irritating yappy dog.

And to the OP I'd say you can't help your likes and dislikes. Well done for giving things a go, but don't string him along now you're sure of your own mind. And don't tell him why - he can't do anything about his height.

These threads never cease to amaze me. Can you imagine if a man came here saying that he can't date a women with a certain physical trait that she can't change and that that trait proves something about her personality? It would be carnage!

Eg. "I cannot and will not date women with small breasts. They are all a bit spiteful".

Yet women here can blithely say "I won't date small men, they're all a bit chippy" and be congratulated for their honesty. It's horrible.

I know Bit it's thoroughly depressing isn't it? The outrageous double standards I see on MN that so often go unchallenged make me sick.

Any man posting on here about an issue with a woman, especially if it is related to sex or her appearance has to tread on eggshells and pick his words very carefully indeed and even then there will always be someone waiting to pounce and deliberately twist or misconstrue what he says and rip him to shreds.

Yet women aren't bound by the same rules at all, it seems. I am getting increasingly demoralised by it.