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Short men

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luellami · 11/12/2016 15:41

I have been dating same guy for about 5 months. He is lovely and really caring...I couldn't ask for more. Only thing is...he is short. Same height as me...I'm 5'6". I thought I would get over it but I can't...am I being a twat? I'm thinking of ending it as it's just not fair on him. He really deserves better.

OP posts:
MadameDePomPom · 12/12/2016 20:43

'I don't have a type physically. At all.

(I secretly think people who only fancy one sort of individual, who have to look a particular way, are a bit lacking in imagination.)'

Whoop de do

SukeyTakeItOffAgain · 12/12/2016 22:13

My DH is only 5 ft 10 and it bothers him

But that's quite tall surely Confused

witsender · 12/12/2016 22:26

My sense of scale is all off though...dh is one of 4 brothers, 3 of them are 6'5" and the shortest is 6'2". DH's dad and best friend are 6'7".

BitOutOfPractice · 12/12/2016 22:51

Most of my family are very tall. Doesn't mean to say I can't judge a shorter man on something other than his stature Hmm

MsJudgemental · 12/12/2016 23:08

Why are you with someone for 5 months that you don't fancy? Let him go to someone who cares. I'm 4' 9''. DH is about 5' 6'' but thinks he is 5' 8". Previous exes have been anything from 5" 4" - 6' 2". I don't have a particular type; it's all about the chemistry. DS, 16, is smaller than his girlfriend so hopefully attitudes are changing.

Amateurish · 12/12/2016 23:14

No faithful short men? Some people do talk rot. 5'5 man here, faithful 20 years and counting.

1horatio · 12/12/2016 23:16

Honestly, why are you with the guy if it's such a huge issue?

If you did genuinely love him something as 'little' as his height wouldn't bother you.

Stop being bothered or leave him now. He deserves that.

BitOutOfPractice · 13/12/2016 00:54

"My sense of scale is all off though...dw is one of 4 sisters, 3 of them are G cup and the smallest is DD. DW's mom and best friend are H cup"

Really?

You really can only judge a man and his potential as a mate based on the physical characteristics of other men you have known? Sorry, that's just pathetic

BitOutOfPractice · 13/12/2016 00:54

That was to witsender. Honestly I despair

AmberEars · 13/12/2016 04:28

My Dad is 5'4" and has been faithful to my mum for nearly 50 years now!

areyoubeingserviced · 13/12/2016 06:03

All I ever wanted was a good man. A man who would respect me, love me etc.
OP if you don't want this man , let him go so that some other lucky lady can enjoy him. You are not the right person for him because you can't see past his height and that's not fair to him.
I am not knocking you OP, but I don't understand why you have stayed with him for five months. Are there other reasons why you want to end the relationship?
Good luck in finding the ideal man for you.
He may be tall, but he may be missing some of the attributes that the short man you are dating has.

OnionKnight · 13/12/2016 06:29

Just when you think the thread has given everything along comes a poster saying that she doesn't know any faithful short men.
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What absolute guff.

Imagine if I said that I don't know any faithful women with big boobs, I'd be skinned alive on here Grin

Artistic · 13/12/2016 11:01

I couldn't do it. Need my man to be tall. Taller the better. It's just your preference, no need to feel guilty about it.

witsender · 13/12/2016 12:27

I meant my sense of what is tall and what isn't, as the previous poster had said that 5'10" was tall and it seem it to me. Hardly a controversial concept tbh.

HermioneJeanGranger · 13/12/2016 12:54

DP is the same height as me - we're both 5'8" so he's shorter if I wear heels. I can't say it bothers either of us.

My ex was 5'11" and a compulsive liar who pretended his own children didn't exist. Doesn't mean all tall men are liars - just that that particular one was an absolute dick Grin

TheSnorkMaidenReturns · 13/12/2016 23:13

FearandLoathinginLasVegas
^I can only base the next statement on the short men I have come across, but... I don't know a faithful short man sorry.
they seem to have something to prove.^

That is one of the most breathtakingly stupid things I have ever read on this site. You must know a very odd sample of people. Nearly 30 years here. And I've several other friends married to short men for a very long time. With no lack of faithfulness. Not everyone is a git.

LittleBooInABox · 13/12/2016 23:40

I'm dating a short guy. He's 5'2 and I'm 5'7! I don't see it, he just is. Heights a non issue.

Lillyanne18 · 04/04/2018 01:28

Artistic - say you couldn't date a short man and the taller then better.

Is absolutely not a preference, its 100% a requirement you have. If it were a preference you would be saying something like "I don't mind dating short men and have done in the past, but i prefer men a bit taller", what you said is that you basically require men to be tall and the taller then better.

Women on this thread need to get over themselves and realise men can't change their height, but being short doesn't make a man any less of a man, so no reason why anyone should be rejecting short men.

As for short angry men since i seen a few comments on this post about that, A) plenty of angry people come in all different shapes and sizes, matter of fact most of the angry men i know with chips on their shoulders just so happen to be tall. B) short men i'm sure get frustrated due to constant rejection by shallow women i am sure, which may come across as angry, i'm sure all the shallow women who posted on here would be delighted and very happy to be constantly told by the opposite sex that they won't date them because they are short or blue eyes or something they can't change, i don't expect any women on this post to understand what its like for a short man to be constantly rejected for something he has no control over and can't change, to have to spend a life alone and unloved all because he just so happens to be god forbid 3 or 4 inches below average height, maybe some of you would be wise to go and look at 3 or 4 inches on a ruler and realise it's not at all much. Rejecting good men, just because of height is as superficial and shallow as can be, and completely silly, what do you all have? daddy issues that you need men to be so tall or something? Seriously cop on and realise there's more to a man then just height, the amount of women and friends i see dating tall men who are complete monsters to them and treat them terribly just because said man is 6ft, while they are rejecting shorter men makes me just think other women have no respect for themselves, its actually embarrassing that a woman chooses to date a tall man who has absolutely no respect for her, yet turns down a shorter man who would treat her great, no wonder divorce rates are sky high.

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TheClaws · 04/04/2018 01:55

You’re talking about a person, here. That’s what you’re dating - not a height. In the end, it isn’t looks that matter - it’s whether you match together in mind and soul. I’m married to a slightly shorter man and he is the absolute love of my life. I would be lost without him. I have never once given a toss about his height. He is my man and that is all that matters.

steff13 · 04/04/2018 02:47

Did you seriously dredge up a 2-year-old thread?

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