Short men

[luellami]

I have been dating same guy for about 5 months. He is lovely and really caring...I couldn't ask for more. Only thing is...he is short. Same height as me...I'm 5'6". I thought I would get over it but I can't...am I being a twat? I'm thinking of ending it as it's just not fair on him. He really deserves better.

Yeh don't tell him it's cos he is too short.

The man of 5'7" who I thought I'd clicked with (this is only a fortnight ago btw), when he cancelled our second date, he told me it was because he'd ''met somebody''. I found that a bit too honest. That turned me off him! (not that he was an option for me!) but saying to somebody ''it's not me it's you'' basically. Hmm, charming!

Just say that you're not feeling it any more. As you've been with him six months he won't think it's to do with his height.

My OH is shorter than me. I never really thought about it being an issue when we started dating, he made me laugh and made me feel like the most important person in the room, so I went out with him.

Sometimes it bothers me, we're all a bit shallow aren't we! Mostly it bothers me on a practical level - he can't reach anything on the top shelves!! I do think though that if we ever get married he's going to wear thick soled shoes

If he ever gets grumpy about it (if he's having a self conscious day) I tell him there's worse things than being short, he could be a cunt!

I agree Thesnork short men are no more likely to be aggressive or to have issues than tall men. Lazy thinking. Like all fat women are jolly.

Oh and to answer the q, yanbu to not find him attractive, but don't tell him it's because he's short!

I don't think you're a twat as someone else said

I'm 5 11 and men have made it pretty clear in the past they wouldn't go out with me because of my height. Fair enough really. I wouldn't have gone out with someone shorter than me. It isn't because I'm a bitch, I'm just not into it. My husband is 6 ft 5 and makes me feel positively tiny!

No she's not a twat. If she's not attracted to a certain type, tgen. She's not attracted to them. You can't create a spark that's not there.
Just like some men like slim women others like women with a bit or a lot of timber on them. That's not being shallow. That's just life.

Actually do tell him you are dumping him for being short, just so he knows he has dodged a bullet.

It is you, all you. And you have every right to feel that he is not the one for you, for whatever reason, no matter how odd, esoteric, shallow, etc.

Just don't tell him he is too short. That would be as bad as kicking him in the bollocks!

And I agree with previous posters that said height doesn't make men act a certain way, I've met loads of men in the past who are shorter and are great guys. Arse holes come in all shapes and sizes!!

Maybe is perfectly happy with his height.

I think you don't like him enough; if you did it wouldn't be an issue.

My ex was 5'7 and I wouldn't previously have said I liked tall men but I fancied him like crazy and honestly never gave his height a second thought.

You're not a twat if you can't get over it but you are if you stay when you're not feeling it.

Oh no don't say why you're dumping him. The last thing you want to do is break his confidence. There's times you have to lie, and Its not like you can say, Well Hes a grown man. He can take it, as. There's nothing he can do about his height. Its not like weight where he could slim down or buff himself to please you.
Just say. You don't think you're suited.

Yes please don't tell him it's his height it will really break his confidence.

If you care about his height, then you're not in love with him.

He can't change his height anymore than he could change his skin colour and neither should he if he could.

Put like I have above that only leaves you as the option.

You have to decide if you can be with him long term without it affecting how you feel if you can great but if you can't then your being unfair to him by staying with him!

He deserves somone who accepts and loves who he is not who somone wishes he could be and you deserve the same.

Staying with him knowing your not happy (which means you'll end up leaving him) robs him of the chance to meet the person he could be with forever.

I have never dated a short man, they just don't do it for me.

I would never say that height is the reason! I feel awful now!!!! I guess I deserve it

It shouldn't bother you, my DB is about 5 ft 6 or 7 and his DW is 5 ft 9 or 10 I think... He has never had short man syndrome re women but some men have been i think so he's told me insulting re his height in the past.

In fact one of my nicest exes was 5 ft 6 I think and it was only distance that spoiled our relationship, again no noticeable short man syndrome there either though I do know men who have it.

My boyfriend is quite short. It makes me happy that some women are so shallow, because it means I get him and he's bloody fantastic.

He deserves better than you, sorry.

If height is such a problem for you then you're being silly. My DP and kids are all a foot taller than me at least. Before DP my boyfriend was about my height. Didn't bother me or him at all.

I'm only 5ft 4 and never got the height issue. I am a sucker for a pretty face though and a great sense of humour. There are a lot of attractive looking, funny short men out there! I have dated short guys, no problem. My dad was a short, amazing father, very hard worker and so devoted to my mother that when she died he never dated again. My DH is 5ft11 the tallest I've gone out with. I certainly didn't pick him for his height. Your bf as you say is lovely and you couldn't ask for more. Unfortunately, you might not realise what you have had until you find some 6ft guy who treats you like crap and isn't a patch on this guy. Don't settle for height at the expense of other qualites that are far more important in a relationship.

I don't think you're a twat. I think I'd have a bit of an issue as well.

whyohwhy would you expect it to be love after 5 months? I'd love to know for a genuine reason but don't want to derail.

I saw a couple the other day, she was taller than her Dh by several inches, when he leaned against her as they walked down the path he was only up to her armpit, she had her arm round him and his head was right in there, that'd feel like cuddling a child. Fair play to her for not minding but I would, though perhaps that's because I work with young adults and most are taller than he was.