Short men

[luellami]

I have been dating same guy for about 5 months. He is lovely and really caring...I couldn't ask for more. Only thing is...he is short. Same height as me...I'm 5'6". I thought I would get over it but I can't...am I being a twat? I'm thinking of ending it as it's just not fair on him. He really deserves better.

furry if i said what i really thought of your 'd'h attitude i'd get banned from mn......why would you honestly be with someone like that ?

I'm working on it Pip

pipsqueak25

My dad is short - 3 or 4 inches shorter than my mum (who is 5'7") and they've been happily married for over 40 years. So I'm glad she didn't write him off!

Just finish it. Say that it has gone as far as it can go, that you have enjoyed it but don't want to continue - all true.

As for all those ridiculous posters saying that short men have issues - so do fat women, and people with big noses, and men from XYZ culture and women of XYZ colour.... yeah right.

If certain physical types don't attract you - fine. It's not them, it really is you.

Obviously I am physically attracted to my partner but that comes afterwards.

I had a brief relationship with a tom hardy lookalike. His personality was vile. In the end I found his looks repulsive too because of this.

How is the Op vile for realising something physical about him is annoying her. Surely no different to realising someone's cognitive behaviour or way of speaking etc is a turn off.
Not as if she didn't give it a good go.

And it's interesting the way everyone's comparing it to "small boobs" rather tall women which should be the opposite comparison.Like small boobs are the antithesis of an attractive woman.
( I know plenty of men who prefer the thin no boob aesthetic rather than a double DD.)

I've never grown to find someone attractive over time. Anyone I've fancied I've fancied at first sight. We're all different.

Crystal Fair enough, but the OP has been with this guy for five months.

How did it get this far if she couldn't get over it after the first couple of dates?

Flyingbellycopters - my son too. People think it is ok to ridicule men. Ha ha bloody ha!

OP isn't vile for not fancying him, it is the going out with him for five months when she never really fancied him and THEN saying that she can't get over his height as if it something he should have to be forgiven for.

I had a short boyfriend, (5'5") for 7 years. He was the best in bed, the sexiest, the kindest man I have ever been out with. (It broke up for other reasons)

Maybe she's stayed with him out of niceness, thinking she should find him attractive because he's a good guy, and that if she hung on in there the height thing would stop being an issue.

I believe if you truley like/ love somebody it doesn't matter.
I've always gone for much taller men, not sure why.
I'm about 4 ft 10.5 and dh is 6ft 3.5.

Not unreasonable. We wll have our preferences.
Height isn't a deal breaker for me but things like weight are.
Although I suppose the difference is I wouldn't have dated a woman who wasn't thin for 5 months before coming to that realisation.

It's only a few months in. If you don't fancy him enough now to make the height thing a non-issue, then you don't fancy him enough full stop. I'm a fat woman and if my partner was trying to 'look past' my body because I'm nice or whatever, I'd be fucking mortified. You deserve to be with someone you really want, and he deserves to be with someone who really wants him. Fgs end it so you can both move on to better things.

Now Gilly this annoys me! What chance have we hulking six-footers got when all you petite lasses are swiping the tall guys

I've had relationships with men taller and smaller than me. I'd have missed out on many wonderful times if I'd ignored the ones under 6ft.

But really I wanted to post because it reminded me of a similar thread where a poster with small sons was so saddened by women's attitudes to shorter men. So any mumsnetters with small sons I hope you've noted all the positive, lovely things people have said about their DPs. For many women height's not an issue. OP, set the bloke free. How great it would be if his next girlfriend's a mumsnetter who's read this thread.

I am 5'7, DH is 5'4. All my previous boyfriends were tall but I love him and I don't care at all about the difference! I have to reach for things on high shelves. Other than that, no downside at all. And he has no ishoos whatsoever.

Short men are pathetic. They should be shunned by society. Like women with small tits or fat arses.

(The above is sarcastic, just to make sure I get flamed from the correct direction)

Maybe OP he doesn't like your fat arse or saggy tits but is mature enough to look beyond it.

He can do better.

user ooohh bitchy ! but yes, he'll find someone who deserves him and will love him for who he is.

Height is like any other factor. If it doesn't float your boat then it doesn't float your boat. It doesn't make you a bad person, and he doesn't deserve better. If you like a taller man then you like a taller man!

Holy shit User

WHOA WHOA WHOA

What is 'short' for a man exactly?

(I'm 5'3 juuuust about so everyone is fucking massive)

If you were both six foot would it be an isshoooo for you?

One of the nicest men I know is 5' 9" and his lovely wife is 5'11". He is intelligent and caring.

As a 5'6" man this thread makes me sad. It was a shock when I looked in my daughter's growth chart book thing to see for a man I am bottom 0.5 % or something equally depressing.
Luckily I make up for it with my amazing looks, sense of humour and personal wealth. That's how I snared my wife who is a whole inch taller than me.
To all you tall ladies who are "short person racists" (to borrow an IT Crowd phrase) - please think about breeding with a short man to help the overall gene pool improve. It's the only way we will all be gloriously tall!

There are six foot men who would think you are a short arse OP. Don't sweat it.