Short men

[luellami]

I have been dating same guy for about 5 months. He is lovely and really caring...I couldn't ask for more. Only thing is...he is short. Same height as me...I'm 5'6". I thought I would get over it but I can't...am I being a twat? I'm thinking of ending it as it's just not fair on him. He really deserves better.

Anyway too short for what? I'm 5ft1, am I too short? Or is it just men who can be too short.

Maybe he really isn't bothered about being (not very) short.

IShoulCocoa "Hmmm... IMHO, short men always have ishoos... Difficult to put my finger on, but certainly are a bit more aggressive and prone to chips on their shoulder types.
As I said - only my opinion!"

It may well be "only my opinion" - but it doesn't excuse saying such a horrible thing.

Nobody said he should or shouldn't be bothered, or speculated whether he is happy with his height or not. Op just doesn't find it attractive. That's her choice

I was dating a man who was the same height as me for a bit when I met my current bf. I thought it would bother me, but he was lovely (and gorgeous). Often, short men are left ton the shelf because women prefer men to be taller, but ime that just means you can get a better quality short bloke, because they are less in demand!
I didn't end it with mine cos he was a shorty, but because I met someone I fit with better.
I think 5 months is quite a long time for it still to bother you, so something is obviously not right in other areas, otherwise it really wouldn't.

I hate when this issue pops up.
I am a great believer in breaking up with someone for whatever reason you like, or no reason at all. you don't have to be with anyone or do any damn thing you don't want to do.

BUT...
It just seems so shallow to me to break up with someone because of their height.
Personally, i'd rather have a short and decent partner than a tall arsehole.

Well hopefully the OP will find a tall and decent partner. They exist too. As do short arsehole men.

My husband is 5'6, as am I. He has always said that he knows a lot of women would dismiss him out of hand because of his height. I thought he was talking bollocks, but judging by this thread I guess he was right...

Like OnionKnight's partner I where heels, and I've never thought of hugging my husband was like hugging a child!

Daniel Radcliffe is 5'5. Ben Stiller is 5'7, as is Al Pacino. Hasn't held them back.

But you only get one life OP, so if you can't get past it you can't get past it. I do think it's a bit pathetic though.

Fucking hell, I usually hate "if this were a man" posts, but seriously, if a bloke posted here saying he was thinking of dumping his girlfriend because her breasts were too small, you'd all be saying he was a shallow creep.

You'd be right.

Or just find a nice AND tall person pinkie? If that's what you're into of course.

They're all the same height lying down ;)

mountain I agree with the 'dumping because of...' Mentality

But people can't help what they are attracted to

I'm not attracted to very thin people. I can't help that. Chubby tall hairy men are my thing. It doesn't make me shallow, it's just my taste. If we all fancied everyone the world would be weird

Often, short men are left ton the shelf because women prefer men to be taller, but ime that just means you can get a better quality short bloke, because they are less in demand!

Very true! My short man is certainly pretty fabulous!

OP:
Why? It's not as if he is shorter than you. And even if he were, that shouldn't matter
My OH is 6 ft 2 so it might be easy for me to say, I guess.

All the shorter men of my acquaintance are coupled up so there's obviously plenty of women who do fancy them.

Before I was married I was never offended when men said I was too tall- I get that a lot of men don't like being with tall women. That's their choice. Just as some people prefer dark hair or red hair or dark eyes or whatever else

If you're not attracted to him then break it off, but obviously don't mention his height. But you never know what the future holds with any other man either, in terms of accidents, disabilities etc.

It's really sad that there are a couple of people on here who genuinely believe in short man syndrome. There are many grumpy/angry/moody people in the world - some fat, some tall, some short, some female - and yet no one mentions it in relation to anything other than a short man. It's only from a handful of posters but stop treating shorter men like they're a different species and stop judging people on things they have no control over.

Ok so I am clearly in a minority then.

I've been with my DH 4 years. I wouldn't say I was crazily physically attracted to him to begin with - I wasn't repulsed by him or anything, he was perfectly nice to look at, but if I'd just seen him in the street or whatever I'd not have given him much thought.

As I got to know him and realised how bloody awesome he is I became more and more physically attracted to him

Surely that's how it ought to work? Just seems a bit ridiculous to say you "don't fancy" tall/short/thin people as surely it's their personalities which come first?

My current DH is tall, dark and thin. My ex before him was short, blonde and a bit chubby. My ex before him was black and very muscular and stocky.

I loved them all and I was physically attracted to all of them.

'You obviously are vile.'

No she's not. I get you're feeling defensive on behalf of your son but as I said, all the short men I know are in relationships and seem to be doing just fine. We all have physical attributes we look for in a romantic partner and height is one of the OP's.

We all have physical attributes we look for in a romantic partner and height is one of the OP's.

I don't.

Looks fade. They can be changed forever.

Personality sticks.

mountain you are SO COMPLETELY RIGHT!

The double standards on Mumsnet are almost cringeworthy to read. If this was a bloke pointing out something that they considered to be a physical imperfection they would be ripped to shreds. Note the recent thread about boob size.

If it was that much of a problem to you OP you shouldn't have seen him after the first time. I would bet that his height is not the only doubt you dislike about him. If it is then, well...... that's pretty fucking shallow isn't it and he's better off without you.

Fair enough. Whereas I like to be attracted to their body and their personality.

Mountain I've always found personally I have a type. Obviously not everyone is like that. I think as a much taller than average woman I have been naturally drawn to much taller men, it doesn't mean I think there's anything wrong with shorter men, it's just what I'm attracted to. If men don't like my height/weight/skin colour/hair colour I couldn't give a toss, I've found someone who does. Who also happens to be a giant.

My husband is always going on about the Short Man Syndrome - he sneers at anyone he considers short & as a tall man himself 6'3" his cut-off point is 6'

Last weekend we saw my DB, who is 6' exactly - since then twat DH has been going on about DB "only coming up to here" & chopping his hand on his arm, just below the shoulder

He really is a shithead, isn't he?

It would bother me. I was always the tallest growing up and hated it, it made me feel really self conscious. Being with a short man now would throw back to that tbh. I like to think that it I met the perdect man and he was short it wouldn't be an issue, it just never happened.