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Original poster

You don't give chocolate to 1yr olds!

116 replies

MrsA2015 · 09/12/2016 22:32

Ok not exactly but definitely not bloody 10pm at night! I just give up. Currently staying at my nans house, it's always a constant battle regarding food and DD (13months). She's wandering around playing with toys all quiet after a terrible day battling a cold and mild temperature.Usually asleep by 8 o'clock, today she's out of sorts so I'm letting her wear herself outBlush

Well now she's just walked in the room with 4 squares of chocolate and a packet of pom bears.Angry she's never had pom bears or anymore than a couple of chocolate buttonsSad

I just bloody give up. She's throwing a tantrum now because I've taken them off of her apparently this makes me unreasonable.I'm going to give them back to her just for peace I've been up since 6

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GloGirl · 09/12/2016 22:34

Don't give them back, distract her with something if you can. She'll forget about them shortly.

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MrsA2015 · 09/12/2016 22:38

I'm dying for a shower and can't trust she won't be given it anyway. I could cry out of frustration. If I hear"well it didn't do you any harm" one more time I will cry

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TheWitTank · 09/12/2016 22:39

Distract -she is only one, it won't be hard to switch her attention to a book/cartoon/silly game. Chocolate and crisps at this time of night is silly for most people of any age!

LunaLoveg00d · 09/12/2016 22:39

4 squares of chocolate and a bag of Pom bears - although not an ideal diet - is not going to kill a child as a one off treat.

Gymnopedies · 09/12/2016 22:43

DD was trying to steal my chocolate bar at 4 months old (but she never got more than a lick before 6 months, ebf baby).
Chocolate lovers here, it's a misconception that children get high on sugar (but you might feel grumpy if you blood sugar is down).

Tootsiepops · 09/12/2016 22:45

My daughter is also 13 months, she's snottery and has a slight temperature. Today, we ate dominos pizza and brownies for lunch. I don't think it matters massively, does it?

Crunchymum · 09/12/2016 22:48

Urm at 22:45 I think even the most "food liberal" of parents would object?

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MrsA2015 · 09/12/2016 22:54

I'm not so much fussed about the food itself it's more the time of night. Suppose it's better than the cat food shes been trying to eat all day.

I'm more annoyed because I've been looking forward to some quiet time and thought her little run about was the last bit of chaos for the day.

I did end up distracting her and it worked after a couple minutes of tears.

I'm having a crap parenting week where nothing I do feels "right" and I know it's the horrible cold she has that's making her miserableSad

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Needastrongone · 09/12/2016 22:56

As the parent of teenagers, just Smile.

Let it go. There's more stuff to worry about than some crap food, whatever time, as a one off.

SheepyFun · 09/12/2016 22:58

Was going to tell you that a dietitian actually advised us to try chocolate buttons with our food refusing DD when she was 1, but not at 10pm at night - YDNBU

00100001 · 09/12/2016 23:00

YABU one year olds can have chocolate.

DixieNormas · 09/12/2016 23:07

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Rixera · 09/12/2016 23:16

Tbh I was against giving the baby chocolate for ages, despite the generosity of every in law. Eventually someone will do it anyway at which point you give up. We reached 14 months.

NoMudNoLotus · 09/12/2016 23:17

In the grand scheme of things I don't it's worth stressing.

LittleBearPad · 09/12/2016 23:18

A square of chocolate won't really be the end of the world, whether it's at 10pm or whenever.

TheWitTank · 09/12/2016 23:21

I don't think the op has an issue with a bit of chocolate -she just doesn't want her baby eating it at 10pm. I wouldn't let my two older kids have it at this time (and I wouldn't eat it either). While it won't do any harm, it isn't exactly winding down for bed.

amy85 · 09/12/2016 23:22

Of course 1 year old can eat chocolate...if you don't want her eating it at 10pm then put her to bed and don't let her be up wandering about at 10pm especially when staying with your nan as most Nan's are feeders lol

Hayles88 · 09/12/2016 23:22

In the course of a lifetime, what does it matter.

TheWitTank · 09/12/2016 23:22

There is a big difference between one square of chocolate and four squares with a bag of crisps.

glitterazi · 10/12/2016 00:08

Oh, when my youngest was 13 months old, Id have been absolutely the same so know completely where you are coming from.
Would have massively pissed me off!
There's just no need for a 13 month old to have chocolate. (In fact my 13 year old didn't have a taste of chocolate until he was 5!)
Relaxed a bit when ds2 was born and he had some around the age of 3
Now though? Older, wiser, and say pick your battles. For your own sanity.
As a one off, let it go. It won't harm them in the long run.
As long as you don't make it a habit!

ruthsmumkath · 10/12/2016 00:12

It's not every night - it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/12/2016 00:21

If your nan has form then surely you should just keep an eye on her?

FrankAndBeans · 10/12/2016 09:05

YANBU OP. Even if it doesn't do any harm, it's your child and no one should be undermining your parenting choices.

Randytortoise · 10/12/2016 09:10

Ds 2 has chickenpox he was snuggled on my lap at 10.30 last night sharing a box of maltesers. It made him feel better and he went off to bed about 11.
I eat what I fancy/can stomach when feeling grotty and let dc do the same.

alseb · 10/12/2016 09:11

One off. Don't fall out with your nan over it.