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You don't give chocolate to 1yr olds!

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MrsA2015 · 09/12/2016 22:32

Ok not exactly but definitely not bloody 10pm at night! I just give up. Currently staying at my nans house, it's always a constant battle regarding food and DD (13months). She's wandering around playing with toys all quiet after a terrible day battling a cold and mild temperature.Usually asleep by 8 o'clock, today she's out of sorts so I'm letting her wear herself outBlush

Well now she's just walked in the room with 4 squares of chocolate and a packet of pom bears.Angry she's never had pom bears or anymore than a couple of chocolate buttonsSad

I just bloody give up. She's throwing a tantrum now because I've taken them off of her apparently this makes me unreasonable.I'm going to give them back to her just for peace I've been up since 6

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NavyandWhite · 10/12/2016 09:15

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LottieDoubtie · 10/12/2016 09:17

Yanbu OP and to the poster who let her 1 year old eat dominos yesterday Shock

Yeah I'd say that is a big deal- the salt content makes me a very fat adult feel ill god knows what it would do to a toddler. I still eat it occasionally obv but I'm old enough to be responsible for myself

Hysterectical · 10/12/2016 09:17

Can you explain exactly what is going to happen? I don't get it.

SnorkelParka · 10/12/2016 09:42

In what way is food always a struggle with your dd? This may be quite relevant.

Ethylred · 10/12/2016 09:51

I thought it was dogs you couldn't give chocolate to.

00100001 · 10/12/2016 09:58

lottie its not as if the child who ate dominoes eats it every day. so it;s not a problem if they have a piece of takeaway pizza as a "one off". Looking at the nutrional info, a "portion" (usually 1 slice) of their pizzas seems to have about 1-2g of salt, depending on the pizza. some have 0.5g.

so it's not such a huge deal really.

Tootsiepops · 10/12/2016 09:59

...and to the poster who let her 1 year old eat dominos yesterday...

You're seriously going to have to explain to me what the problem with this is? She's a bit poorly and refusing most food and milk. I was just pleased she was eating and enjoying something. I don't see what harm a one off of a few bites of pizza and a mouthful of brownie is going to do.

LouBlue1507 · 10/12/2016 09:59

My 4 month old was sucking her advent chocolate at 7pm last night! Don't fall out over it OP!

IndieBamBindi · 10/12/2016 10:02

I honestly wouldn't have stressed so much about that. Not the end of the world.
If she hasn't been well and was happy and awake I probably would have just let it go.

But that's just my opinion.

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Camomila · 10/12/2016 10:12

If anyone needs an excuse to stop interfering relatives giving their babies chocolate...it's official advice not to give under 1s chocolate (in Italy but they don't need to know that) because 'it's hard to digest' Grin

I would be pretty cross if someone fed my 8 month old chocolate or Pom bears (he has allergies and we don't know quite what they are yet so tbh I'd be cross if anyone fed him anything he's not eaten before without asking me or DH first)

snorkle I read that as food being a constant struggle when she stayed at her nans.

Maz2444466 · 10/12/2016 10:15

We did the same yesterday, DC was totally out of sorts the day before - had just eaten two biscuits and one carton of juice. Refused all usual favourites like chicken and avocado, cheese sandwiches etc. The next day, DC said 'mouth hurt' and I checked and DC had loads of pin prick red dots in mouth so we went to the doctor and apparently kids can get this with a virus but the doctor said to go to the hospital and get a blood test done to make sure nothing serious so we spent 4 hours at the hospital. I took DC's favourites, wouldn't eat any of it - so in the end I bought Pom poms, a chocolate coin and chocolate biscuits. DC said 'tasty' and scoffed the lot. I was so glad DC was eating something! And felt awful from the blood tests - they had to attempt it three times in three different places because DC's vein was hard to get to. Luckily the hospital rang me back the same night and all OK but after all that stress I really wasn't bothered by chocolate at 9pm! But obviously this is not an everyday occurrence. Usually I'm really careful with what DC eats. Don't worry about it though, it shows you are a good parent for caring.

Maz2444466 · 10/12/2016 10:16

Forgot to say DC is 2 and a half years old, so a bit different than 1 so I totally understand how you feel at that age. X

pictish · 10/12/2016 10:23

I'm confused at the strength of feeling over this. Can someone explain to me what negative thing would happen as a result of this snack at 10pm?

Pluto30 · 10/12/2016 10:29

Really doesn't matter whether it was 1pm or 10pm if it's a one-off.

Do what you have to do to keep the kid happy when they're not well. No point stressing over a couple of squares of chocolate. It's not going to kill them.

Sparrowlegs248 · 10/12/2016 10:30

I don't get it either. I'd be more bothered at 16 month old ds still being up at 10.

Pluto30 · 10/12/2016 10:32

Yeah I'd say that is a big deal- the salt content makes me a very fat adult feel ill god knows what it would do to a toddler. I still eat it occasionally obv but I'm old enough to be responsible for myself

Not responsible enough to not eat the devil food that you've admonished the PP for giving her child when they're sick.

Camomila · 10/12/2016 10:41

Pictish It's quite a big snack for a 1 year old? And just before bed?...I don't know about toddlers but my DS is still at the stage where he spends a lot of the night farting/unsettled if he has too much dinner.

pictish · 10/12/2016 10:44

What...she might fart?
Anything else worthy of angst, her upset and a fall out?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 10/12/2016 10:45

It was 10pm and the OP wanted her DD to be winding down (though I wouldn't do that, IMO they just keep themselves awake, better to put them to bed) - crisps & chocolate really aren't going to help! 4 squares of an adult chocolate bar is a lot of chocolate.

How long are you staying with your Nan?

Camomila · 10/12/2016 10:48

I'm was thinking more fart...wake up...cry...need to breastfeed...sleep...fart...wake up....cry....etc on repeat every hour or two all night, I probably would have an argument with DM or MIL about that when it's me doing all the waking up and resettling (not with my nan though she's 87!)

ifonly4 · 10/12/2016 10:49

I suspect Mum is tired, on top of which someone else has given her child rubbish to eat without asking. Most adults would ask if it was okay to give someone else's child a treat, especially when you want them to wind down and get some rest.

FrankAndBeans · 10/12/2016 10:50

The main thing is she's gone against the style of parenting OP wanted.

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pictish · 10/12/2016 10:59

I suppose you're right about the presumption on nan's part and just wanting to get her to bed for a bit of peace (totally relate to that)...and it does seem big in the moment
My perspective is different now having been through three toddlerhoods of my own kids. This sort of stuff isn't worth the drama. x