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To use a Food Bank if I also had a holiday last month?

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NoseAboveWater · 09/12/2016 17:20

Checked my account this week and it's not good. I've had a few job options not work out. I now have an offer for February for part time so I'm obviously very happy, however it is minimun wage and freelance so I feel cautious about taking on a payday loan just in case. Not eligible for proper loan from bank as no income right now.

I went on holiday with a new bf last month before things got so serious with my money situation. Part of me thinks I need to prioritize rent and bills I can just about pay until new job starts, if I don't really buy food for the second half of December - I have plenty of food for about a week. However, I should not have gone away so it's my own stupid fault and so really don't deserve any help from the Food Bank. I've been hanging around supermarkets late for a few days trying to get reduced items but not having much luck. Been looking online for information about getting thrown away food from restaurants at night, not found anything yet, but if anyone knows where I could get that that would be great?

I cannot ask family or friends and certainly not bf. Wwyd? No children btw it's only myself so no worry there.

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NapQueen · 09/12/2016 17:21

Why can't you ask the boyfriend to help out with some food? Does he come round yours for food?

yorkshapudding · 09/12/2016 17:23

If you're serious enough to be going on holiday together then I don't really understand why you can't ask your BF to help. Wouldn't you do the same for him if your situations were reversed?

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 09/12/2016 17:23

Could you ask for cash for Christmas rather than a present?

YelloDraw · 09/12/2016 17:24

I cannot ask family or friends and certainly not bf. Wwyd?

I would ask my family, friends and boyfriend.

fishandlilacs · 09/12/2016 17:24

I think I may be wrong but you have to be assessed and referred to food banks don't you?

Chippednailvarnishing · 09/12/2016 17:25

Yes, most want a referral.

Ginmakesitallok · 09/12/2016 17:25

biscuit

PrettySophisticated · 09/12/2016 17:25

I don't understand how you could go on holiday with someone you can't ask for help in a situation like this either.

Ginmakesitallok · 09/12/2016 17:25

Whoops!Biscuit

ilovesooty · 09/12/2016 17:27

You would need a referral to a food bank. If you went away on holiday with the boyfriend I don't see why you can't ask him for some help.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 09/12/2016 17:27

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monkeysox · 09/12/2016 17:27

Yabu. Go to an agency get some work.

Soubriquet · 09/12/2016 17:27

Why can't you ask your BF for a bit of money?

Most boyfriends would be devastated if they knew they weren't approachable for things like food

Fairenuff · 09/12/2016 17:28

I can just about pay until new job starts, if I don't really buy food for the second half of December

Are you suggesting that you go two weeks without food? Confused

ArgyMargy · 09/12/2016 17:29

Yes, of course YABU.

HTH

WellErrr · 09/12/2016 17:29

Yes you were silly to go on holiday.

If you can't ask your bf he's not worth having.

WaggyMama · 09/12/2016 17:30

Martin Lewis advises you have 3 months worth of savings. This should be your priority before holidays.

Do you have any presents you can take back?

WellErrr · 09/12/2016 17:30

And yes, YWBU to use a foodbank.

WellErrr · 09/12/2016 17:30

And there should be plenty of temp work around this time of year.

PrettySophisticated · 09/12/2016 17:31

No, op is suggesting the foodbank pays for her food...

As with all these things it's whatever you conscience allows. I've worked at a foodbank and I know lots of the donors are ordinary people who haven't been abroad in years.....

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 09/12/2016 17:31

YABU. Do you have any supermarket loyalty card points you could use for pasta, tins and bread?

PeachBellini123 · 09/12/2016 17:31

Have you got any Boots points or other supermarket points you could use to tide you over? I've had to do that before.

You can't just turn up to most food banks. And they really are a last resort.

GlitterGlue · 09/12/2016 17:33

Can you not try and pick up some temp work for next few weeks until the new job starts? It will likely be things likely factory work if it's an immediate starts, but work is work.

Happybunny19 · 09/12/2016 17:34

Go freecycling in your local supermarket bins? Never tried it but apparently they throw out good, perfectly edible food.

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NoseAboveWater · 09/12/2016 17:34

Right, ok. MNHQ can have a look at who I am, I'm no journalist I have just name changed.

Circumstances have changed since going away. I can't tell anyone how tight money is right now. I have reasons I can't ask them that I can't really go into in detail. My mum would be really angry for example, but can't say more than that.

It was just a passing thought I won't actually do it.

No I wasn't suggesting I'd not eat for two weeks but I can get by on very little and I thought when searching for ideas that if I could get a food parcel they are normally 3 days but I could possibly make it last much longer.

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