WIBU to get my haircut in a way that DH won't like?

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I've always been keen to have my hair like this, even as a teen, but always kept it long.

DH says no way, but I really want to not exactly like the picture, but that's as close I can get showing you what I mean.

WIBU to get it cut like that even though he would hate it?

Your hair your choice I say

why would your hair be a matter of upset to him? you have your hair as you choose.

Depends on his reasons. If he is genuinely and kindly concerned that it really won't suit you and you will be upset or disappointed that's one thing. Still not his decision but valid concerns.

If he just doesn't want you to change your hair he is being vu

YANBU, go for it. My husband has a beard that I can't bloody stand but it's not up to me and obviously I love him regardless.

It is your hair. You should do as you like. I'll admit though, I wouldn't get my hair cut in a style if dh didn't think it would suit me. Not because I'd be concerned with dh being upset, but because a negative reaction to the idea would make me worry it wouldn't suit me. Dh regularly tells me styles of clothes that he thinks would suit me but I'd never buy them in a billion years because I don't like them. You can't style yourself to suit someone else.

He can choose his own hair style. Presumably you'd let him grow an awful moustache without complaint?

He says he doesn't like short hair and that my long hair will look better, my family think so too. However, I really want to!

Your hair, your choice.. Hair grows! Why wouldn't he like it? It might be a shock if you've always had it long but he'll get used to it. Lifes too short to not have a haircut you want!

Yanbu. I've just had my hair cut short. DH didn't like the idea but it really wasn't his decision to make and now it's done he rather likes it.

Fwiw I love my short hair! I was so sick of my hair being round my neck all the damn time and it was so out of condition and a weird shape. I think this suits me better.

...my family think so too

My sister was horrified by my short hair for some strange reason .

Mine is (supposed to be) like this

Of course YNBU. Its your hair,; isn't it.
You have to like it though. Its no point just getting it done simply to piss him off

He says "no way"?? I say fuck him.

It's your hair just get it cut the way you want it.

Utterly tedious the way the majority of men say they prefer long hair on a woman. Snooze.

Seriously, I know I sound like an old battle axe but women fought for the right to self determination. You decide your own appearance. He is not the boss of you. Neither are your family.

There's something so lacking in imagination about men who don't like short hair. You can tell your husband that from me

Your hair your choice. It's a shame if he doesn't like it but in the end, as long as you are happy with your choice then he should be supportive. I'm afraid we still have a long hair equals feminine in society - my dds would love me to have long hair to be more 'girly' (they tell me I look like Tom from Topsy and Tim) but it's important that they see me being strong about my choices that are right for me, not for others. I also want them to understand that women come in all shapes/sizes/styles and not one image of femininity.

That is my favourite hairstyle Klingy. Is it easy to manage? I'm just growing my fringe out....

Anyway, OP, it's YOUR HAIR ON YOUR HEAD! I had my mid-back length hair cut off earlier in the year. Yes, DP may have liked it, but I love my shorter hair and he sees that I feel better, so he likes it too.

Huh? It's YOUR hair. Have it cut how you want.

The only time I've asked DH his opinion on changing my hair is if he thinks something would suit me rather than if he would like it.

Your hair, your choice. That's really all there is to it.

If he argues the point, you could try telling him you sincerely dislike his hair the way it is, and could he now change his hair to the way you want it. That way you can both hate your own haircuts but really like your spouse's haircut. Equality and all that.

My family keep trying to get me to cut my hair short and have a fringe. My DH likes it long and I like being able to tie it back and curl it, but hate a fringe.

Apparently (according to my mother) now my hair is growing grey rather than brown I should go light caramel to disguise it and have chin length hair. I have long hair and it's bright red instead, maybe in a spirit of defiance?

OP if your husband doesn't like short hair does he have a reason, or is it just a preference?

What in earth has it got to do with him? Or anyone else

It's just hair. If you regret it afterwards you can re grow it.

Don't ask permission- just go and do it.

I hate the whole "I like women with long hair" thing from men.It can smack of control to me. (Just thinking of a family I know, wife and dd had hair past their arse. As soon as he was shown the door they all had easy, flattering haircuts)

Very easy heman!

I don't even bother drying it really, just fire some salt spray into it and scrunch it a bit.