WIBU to get my haircut in a way that DH won't like?

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I've always been keen to have my hair like this, even as a teen, but always kept it long.

DH says no way, but I really want to not exactly like the picture, but that's as close I can get showing you what I mean.

WIBU to get it cut like that even though he would hate it?

OP I'd love that haircut !! I showed a friend earlier and she said yes!! pnut that'd really suit you. I showed my ds tonight and he said urgh I don't like women with short hair except Charlize Theron in mad max 😑 He's 23 BTW.

I cannot believe that your DH has said 'no way' and you're letting him dictate how you have your hair.

Or possibly he's just expressing a preference, which he's perfectly entitled to do. "Your hair, your choice" is true, but there is no rule that requires anyone to pretend to like your choice.

It's your hair.

I bet your OH doesn't have a gaggle of people telling him how to style his.

I'd do it out of spite.

In fact I did it's still red 2 years later. Dyed it back brown for my wedding (and toned down the make-up/tan) and I really regret it. I don't look like myself in the photos.

I like DH with a beard but I don't dictate he has too have one. I can see the principle but facial and head hairs a bit different really.

Christ there are some shit relationships out there. Who the hell does your husband think he is to control how you look, and how did you wind up with such little self respect?

Cute your own damn hair any way you damn well please

I like long hair it's nice short hair can be nice I prefer long more have your hair cut how you like...it's your hair

I see the LTB element are out.

I'm surprised how one sided this thread is! I'd never get my hair cut in a way my husband found unattractive, simply because his opinion on my appearance is the only one that really matters to me besides my own. Even when the gal in the mirror looks particularly fat and frumpy a few compliments from him can make me feel desirable. So no way would I do anything to make myself less fanciable for him!

If you were single and found out your crush preferred long hair would you get it cut anyway? If the answers yes then go for it. If not then I think you should afford your husband and the most important relationship of your life the same benefits you'd give any person you were trying to attract.

I would not cut my hair short as I am fat and would loose my femininity, I would feel dowdy and frumpy. I cut it short once and felt really bad about my looks. However, if I was thin, with only one chin and a nice, un lined neck, I would chop it off immediately. I love pixie and many short cuts. I would copy Pink, as she looks amazing.

I'd do it out of spite.

Really - to spite your husband, the person you like, respect and love more than anyone else in the world?

OP, do what you want with your hair.

A friend of mine has naturally blonde, curly hair. It used to be waist length and was "stop in the street" beautiful.

She expressed a wish to cut it short. Her DP of several years threatened to leave her if she did.

After careful consideration she cut her hair.

He left.

She very wisely pointed out that he was meant to love her not her hair.

She is now married to a lovely man who doesn't care what her hair looks like.

Sometimes I wish there was a like button here on MN, AmeliaJack.

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Your husband does not get to have a say in how you have your hair. Why would he?

I've gone from long to a pixie cut three times. I only change because I get bored easily. I say go for it, by the way you don't have to be 'elfin' suit short hair I am
living proof.

What does 'elfin' even mean??? - Short in stature with pointy ears?

You need advice from a good hairdresser not your husband. I've had long hair and short hair - my DH prefers long hair, currently it is short. I might grow it, I might not, either way the decision is mine (and if he fancies me less then I'm afraid I will think less of him so it cut both ways )

If my DH said 'no way' to ANYTHING I would immediately go out and do it. Like red rag to a bull. Quite frankly, no one tells me what to do.

I wouldn't even ask my DH about haircuts. None of his business.

I think a lot of men prefer longer hair. Clearly it's your decision, but if your family is also telling you not to, I'd think there was more to this than just a typical male preference. Once it's cut, it takes a while to grow back. So you're kinda stuck with it for awhile If you're sure you'll suit it go for it.

Dh likes long hair too but it didn't stop me getting it all chopped off a few years ago. Shorter hair requires more trims and upkeep to make it look good so I'm in the process of growing it a bit again. It is now just above shoulder length. I also grew out my fringe and then got it cut back in again

The great thing about hair is that it grows again so if you don't like it/suit it then it's not stuck like that forever. I'd go for it or you will never know whether or not it is the hairstyle for you

Honestly? Your hair will grow back if you don't like or suit it.

Fuck what anyone else thinks. Your dh sounds a tad sexist

I'm always trying to get dh to grow his hair, I really like the floppy on top short at the sides look. He's having none of it though. I'm quite vocal about it too. I'd be a terrible man, there would be threads on here about me telling him to leave me

I've had short and long hair and short hair was the hardest to maintain tbh.

If you have wanted it that way for such a long time then you will regret never trying it out. Be brave, try something new

I'd never get my hair cut in a way my husband found unattractive

Personally I'd never be with someone so shallow.

I've had my hair almost sorts of ways. My DH would never say don't do that because I won't find you attractive