WIBU to get my haircut in a way that DH won't like?

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I've always been keen to have my hair like this, even as a teen, but always kept it long.

DH says no way, but I really want to not exactly like the picture, but that's as close I can get showing you what I mean.

WIBU to get it cut like that even though he would hate it?

I would never discuss my hair with my partner because he wouldn't care, it's just hair. I recently went from long and blonde to bobbed and dark brown and he didn't mention it, I do change it a lot though and he's never said he doesn't like it. I don't know what his hair preference is. Go for it if it doesn't suit you just grow it back.

Cara how wrong you are, short hair can look sexy and funky. Long hair can age you and make you washed out. Haoir grows, tattoos are permanent.

Klingy probably not but by the time I'd finished moaning,if I ever did, he'd wish I'd have left

So true that ^ I don't suit long hair, it puts years on me. Short suits me and takes years off. My husband hast really given a preference, as for tattoos he detests them but offered to pay for one for my next birthday. Coz yanno, he's not a dick.

Your hair your rules. If you have wanted to try this style for ages then you should do so. Go for it.

My OH discourages me from cutting my hair short, but only because after 12 years he knows the drill. I cut it short, hate it, spend years moaning and growing it out, get bored, cut it short again, hate it and repeat. He couldn't care less what I do with my hair, it's the moaning he objects to.

I had to hold my tongue recently when my recently turned blonde friend was moaning about the shit condition her naturally dark brown hair was in thanks to all the bleach but that her husband prefers blondes. She was brunette when they met...when they married

Pauline dh is the same with me and a fringe. Every. Bloody. Time

I think ultimately it's your decision as its your hair. I think he's a bit of a dick for saying no way as well.
He like the vast majority of men obviously prefer long hair. His mistake was trying to dictate rather than express a preference.

My dh doesn't really like tattoos either but gave me a gift voucher towards one last Christmas as I do like them and wanted one. Ultimately it's your choice

I'm the opposite of Pauline. I know I look better with short hair, always have but every so often I get bored. About six months in, I remember why I wear it short and complain to my husband for not warning me (even though he always does). I have instructed my hairdresser to ignore me next time.

(I know - nothing much to do with the thread - just thought I'd share )

The short hair will you look less attractive...

What rubbish.

I like long hair, on myself and others.
I like short hair, on myself and others.

I have gone from long to short and back to long again several times in my life time - I am now 50.
IME it makes not one jot of a difference to how 'attractive' other people find me, men, woman, children, animal, vegetable or mineral.

I've had bad hair cuts - they certainly makes a difference about how I feel about myself and that projects on to others.

It is a bummer that it takes far longer to go from short to long than the other way round because I do get bored with either from time to time

Just have your hair cut the way you want - your DH will get used to it.

I know my DP prefers my hair when I straighten it (probably because I rarely straighten my hair and when I do I'm normally all dressed up) - which is fine because I hated my curly hair for 20 years.

He loves it either way anyway and would never ask me to wear it straight. He is allowed a preference but not a say in how I wear my hair.

I like his hair short and will remind him that he needs to get it cut but if he doesn't want to it's not up to me.

Do it!

Really - to spite your husband, the person you like, respect and love more than anyone else in the world?

Palliser he was my ex and a nasty abusive arsehole.

I'm quite fond of DH deep down although "respecting him more than anyone in the world" I'm not a 1950's housewife.

Plus DH isn't a twat so he doesn't tell me how to dress or do my hair. If he did I wouldn't be married to him

Many men are stuck in the sexist past when it comes to female fashion. Some of them fetishise what it means to be a "woman"

Long hair. High heels. Stockings. Etc.

Do you see many transwomen with pixie hair styles and boyfriend jeans ? No. This is the same thing.

LOL, I agree with this. I think DW looks her best in a flowery dress, and if she ever decided to wear heels I'd be delighted in her appearance. However, I don't think there is anything sexist in this and therefore discussion of the latest trans fashions is irrelevant.

Your decision OP. Do what you want, and don't feel pressured by a bunch of strangers on the Internet any more than you would by your DH (hopefully, not at all).

I don't think the vast majority of men prefer long hair. Long hair is associated with traditional femininity while the more masculine style of short hair has a connotation of women's lib/women who are not traditional and therefore represent a challenge to male dominance.

I think many men feel pressure not to appear gay to other men, or not to appear 'pussy whipped'. Being non-committal about women's hair length has implications for perceptions of masculinity by other men. I think there is a cultural thing where being a 'real man' means you like 'feminine' women, and wearing the trousers in your home (another element of being a 'real man') is demonstrated by having a partner whose hair is long.

Toxic masculinity is unfortunately a very strong element in our society.

That is not 'the latest trans fashions'.

Trans is like drag in that it caricatures women. Like all caricatures it exaggerates and presents a one dimensional view featuring very salient features.

Toxic masculinity prefers a caricature too.

Of course you wouldn't be unreasonable can't think why that's even a question?!

Ok this is simple.

Cut your hair however you like.

If he doesn't like it he'll leave you.

Do it! If it's awful it won't matter for long as it will grow out.

Get the hair you want. You only get one life.

I chopped and bleached my long hair after 10 years wanting to do it and family/friends/exes telling me, horrified, that I look nice with long, dark hair. But the thing is, it would just hang there, miserably and lankily.

One day I just fucking did it without telling anyone. And I look incredible.

If he doesn't like it he'll leave you.

Who is that shit? Really, I can't believe that anybody is that shallow.

Do you see many transwomen with pixie hair styles and boyfriend jeans ? No. This is the same thing

LOL. Take a look at 'Transtimelines' on Reddit. Plenty of transwomen wear casual clothes and have short hairstyles!

If he doesn't like it he'll leave you.

Who is that shit? Really, I can't believe that anybody is that shallow.

Agreed! I'm not sure I live on the same planet as some people at times. In what world would a normal person leave their spouse because they didn't like their haircut?