WIBU to get my haircut in a way that DH won't like?

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I've always been keen to have my hair like this, even as a teen, but always kept it long.

DH says no way, but I really want to not exactly like the picture, but that's as close I can get showing you what I mean.

WIBU to get it cut like that even though he would hate it?

i'm quite opinionated about facial hair on men, i happen to like it and DH does have a beard, but if he chose to shave it off it would be of no matter, any more than he gets to tell me what to do with my hair. I am aware he likes it long.. its currently in an inverted chin length bob!

Do what you like, its your hair (or your face for the guys reading)

Fuck him.

But also, go and get some honest advice from a hairdresser or friend who you can trust. I'd love short hair, but it just wouldn't suit me - my brutally honest hairdresser told me I'd look butch, and I agreed with him.

But if, after getting honest advice you still want to do it - Do it.

Go for it. I had long hair for years (down to my waist at times, then shoulder length and everything in between). I went short at 32 and haven't looked back.

It's your hair, do what you like, not his business
Great cut, if my hair was capable of being like that, I'd do it.

I love that hair style op, so much nicer than boring swishy long hair. Please have it done for me - I have very curly hair from my Celtic ancestors and while I'm fond of it, anything shorter than a medium length bob and it just sticks up and out like I've put my finger on a socket.

I would like my DH to have a six pack and muscly arms and legs.

However he doesn't and I still love him.

Get your hair cut!

I chopped my long long loooong hair off to a shaggy crop when I was 24 and I've never grown it back...I'm 41 now. I have thick hair that I cba fannying around with and it sits in its short style with minimum effort. It is also more flattering to my face shape than it ever was long.

Took my bf (now dh) a few days to get used to it, but he did.

Go for it! Hair grows! The only opinion I'd be asking is the hairdresser as they might have a good idea if it will suit your face shape.. I was like you always wanted to try it. I did eventually and it was gorgeous, kept it for a few years but then after kids couldn't afford and didn't have time for all the cuts.. 100% will be cutting it again even though DP prefers long hair. He wouldn't know a decent hairstyle if it bit him in the ass

a lot of men...and in fact women as well, don't like short hair on women because it detracts from their role as an ornament that's conventionally supposed to look a certain way. Yes, quite pictish. I mean, really, why would anyone's DP/DH/DW prefer them to feel comfortable and happy with the hair on their head (or face).

I do agree with ungoogleable. Definitely get a PROFESSIONAL opinion about the hair cut that you want. It might be that one, it may be something slightly different. If I wasn't so fat of face I would have a super short hair cut. But I know that I would feel it didn't suit me.

Have you ever had short hair?

Mine was long then short then long then mid length, you get the picture. I've been blonde, brunette and ombre.

If you haven't ever had short hair before, then go to a wig shop and try on some wigs to give you an idea of what you would look like.

I am hoping that it is just the unknown that is making your Dh act like an arse

I think I've had every colour and hairstyle going...

Of all the styles I've had over the years, I prefer short. Here's the pic I took to the hairdressers.

I think people just like a certain "look". I don't like very short hair- even on men, so it's not that I am conforming to the idea of what is seen as feminine.
Difficult I guess if your partner doesn't like that look.

You have to do what you like. My friend had her hair cut very short just before having her DC and I hate it. She has a massive nose and the short hair just makes it look even worse. But. She's my friend I love her and I would never ever say anything because she loves it. Your DH should be the same.

If he is worried haircut is going to put him off you, then there's bigger problems!

I do love the look of long hair on other people, but sadly my hair just won't play ball. It's about what suits you at any given point, not just the look you like. I used to have long hair and thought I suited it, but recently it's all gone to pot, hence the cut.

I think my DH prefers the look of long hair too, but even he admits mine looks better shorter. At least in better condition than it was. It was getting all straggly and horrible.

I don't think there's anything wrong with either partner in a relationship having - and discussing - their preferences.

The problem lies when they try to control the other. I know my partner loves my hair long. Actually so do I but he gets no say. If I want to cut it I will.

OP if you want it, go and chat to your hairdresser

My husband prefers my hair long. I recently got it cut into a bob because it's MY hair and so it's quicker to dry and less easy to grab by my baby dd. Get the haircut, unless they all think you don't have they right face shape, that would be different.

Yabu, if you love your dp why would you want to look a certain why that you know he doesn't like?

And if he loved her, he'd see her as more than a head of hair and get the hell over it. She's a human being, not a wig on legs. He should be attracted to more than just long hair.

Don't assume that short = low maintenance though.

I have bobbed hair. I have to blow dry it every day or it looks crap, whereas when I had long hair I could tie it back and not bother with it. My shorter hair is definitely more work.

Cropped hair though - I guess that might be more of a wash and go look. I wish I was elfin enough to pull it off.

I think it's worth asking if he just doesn't like women with short hair A does he think it unfeminine/butch, or is he saying it because he thinks it won't suit you? I certainly think it's worth asking the opinions of your hairdresser and/or trusted friends to see if they think it would suit you. Short hair is more high maintenance, you tend to wake up with it flattened on one side or in a strange quiff in the middle, so I think you'll end up washing and drying/styling it more (but it's quicker to dry obviously).

I would love a heavy fringe, as I have dead straight hair and there's not much you can do with it, but I've been told by my hairdresser that it wouldn't suit me, (long nose, not a great jawline), so I have to trust her!

He'll say, "I don't know what it is...I suppose I just prefer long hair." while his tiny brain tries to comprehend a woman that doesn't exist soley to appeal to the socially conditioned preferences of men...and fails.

I think it's fine to have preferences though. I don't think people have explain preferences, and just because someone likes a certain style doesn't mean they have a small brain.

Just do it op.

I had a super short pixie cut (in the manor of a small boy) it looked great.

Also he finds you attractive I doubt a haircut is going to suddenly make his m repellent in his eyes.