To think it's shit I feel pressurised to wear a bra?

[Bambambini]

Sitting watching telly, and I can feel the constriction of me wearing a bra. I have small boobs, why do I have to sit here wearing a bra? Why can't I go about my daily business bra free - without being judged!

Stop moaning about having small comfortable breasts to those of us who need the support. If I didn't need scaffolding I wouldn't bother.

That also goes out to fashion police who criticise said scaffolding because you can "see" it's a bra. Yes, that's unfortunate for me and I don't need your judgy little comments on it, thanks.

(To OP. Have not RTFT because too enraged by someone complains about having small breasts. Grrrr).

I don't shave anything or wear any make-up and I don't wear a bra normally. I have been called into question on all three counts. Siblings tell me I am 'disgusting' and constantly draw attention to my appearance (and have done so for 3 decades, you think they'd get bored). In feedback from certain work activities I have had disparaging comments written about me re all three. Once, in a sauna I had a male say 'ewww that's disgusting - why don't you shave' ... to which I replied 'because I live my life for me and have no inclination to please you...' which led to me leaving the sauna and not coming back (yes, I did complain, but nothing came of it). I now compromise and wear a vesty-thing in summer. Frankly I hate bras and think they are instruments of torture. I may look for one that is 100% cotton and loose, soft and comfy, just for work because the vesty-thing is rather tight and suffocating.

? I was bra-less at my own wedding - better no bra than a bra strap or bit of bra showing. As you say, nobody can tell, anyway, if you are young, pert and your breasts aren't so large they make the fabric of your dress sway about... Large, unsupported breasts hanging loose all day cannot be comfortable, though - any more than men's genitals would be, hanging free without any support. Mankind invented the loincloth for a reason - ball ache exists...

Sorry to say Ive heard women remark about other women not wearing bras or not wearing the right fitting one in their view. I think that's partly a factor in so many hoiked bosoms - literally not the MN way! I'm not ready to go bra less either, in fact I'm pissing myself off at the moment because I'm starting to feel the odd one out in the whole bloody town for not being well groomed etc (well I am well groomed at work but that's another sad thing).

So I get what op means though I don't appreciate the dumb fuck remarks.

Don't wear one. Simple. I don't expect you'll be receiving a knock on the door from the brassiere police any time soon?

Why do you care? Why are you wearing one if its annoying the hell out of you?

Have a little Bra fire (in a safe controlled way)

Personally, I wouldn't be without mine. That's my choice.

I wear one because I have big boobs and it is really uncomfortable for me not too. I wear stretchy ones.
I dont wear them because of society, i wear them for me

If I didn't have a bra I'dhave nothing at all to put in my jumper (I have two fried eggs - without the whites!).

But I do love to take it ff in the evening and get DH to scratch where the straps/band have been.

X post worth yet...your siblings remark constantly? I'm surprised you've not gone NC.

With not worth?!!

OP, I regularly go out without a bra! Always wear a bra for work though.

Why are people engaging,did they miss the post where the OP called them dumb fucks?

X post worth yet...your siblings remark constantly? I'm surprised you've not gone NC.

It's on the cards ... but not for that... :)

What elodie2000 said.

I don't feel pressured to wear one; I do so because the back pain caused when I don't, is excruciating.

If you don't want to wear a bra then take the fucking thing off and don't bother. The world will still turn and bears will still shit in the woods.

I have big boobs. I've given up wearing a bra. So far nobody has let on that they've noticed. I wear a jumper and/or coat to school run. If we're in a hurry I do feel self-conscious at the bouncing, but not enough to outweigh the discomfort of wearing a bra. For special occasions (work meeting or something), I might wear a crop top. So far I have felt comfortable and haven't felt judged, but then I'm not one to give much of a fuck tbh.

DameDiazepam

I didn't see the DF post (Wasn't interested enough in the topic to read through.) I did what I rarely do these days and just binged in a post.

OP now that your contempt for us all is evident, I hope the stiffeners in your bra prong you most painfully at the most important moment of your life.

If id you OP who are the DF - for hating this particular "societal pressure" and yet kow-towing to it. Cowrd!

Why do you feel that way at home?

you shouldnt feel pressured to wear one, but since its perfectly legal to not wear one, then im not sure what else there is to do. Wear one or dont wear one. Noone can change how you feel about that except yourself

I agree that it sucks that there are constant appearance demands on women: shave everything, wear makeup, have equal sized perky breasts, wear the right clothes, look attractive etc etc. It's a very unequal world we live in and always has been.

But I also think bras are helpful and sometimes liberating - mine are huge and it would be painful without them just walking, let alone running. I'd love to not have big breasts and not to bother with them.

If you can get away without them (no pain) then seriously, try it. I bet fewer people would notice than you'd think. Most are too self-obsessed!

And the daily mail shames everyone for everything, it's not indicative of all society.

I am saying, BE the change, it starts with you. Your posts read as hand-wringing but not taking any action, unless I've missed something, it just feels like you're telling the rest of us we're doing feminism wrong, tbh

Fair enough re your point that change starts with you. I do NOT however agree that I am telling people they are doing feminism wrong. You are talking to someone who DOES wear a bra and shaves her legs. I wouldn't tell people they were doing feminism wrong. What I DO have an issue with is people saying that there is no problem, that nobody bats an eyelid if you are unshaven, that you would not get judged for not wearing a bra at work, that it's all in the OP's imagination. Because it's not- that does exist. I think it's good to say that change starts with you, but that's not the same as denying that there is a problem there in the first place.

Hopefully that has clarified things.

I doubt you're being pressurised. I don't even think you're being pressured. You might judged for not being able to use a dictionary though

Hmmm well if YOU used a dictionary, you would see that the Oxford dictionary defines pressurise as "Attempt to persuade or coerce (someone) into doing something". The exact same definition as the word 'pressure'. HTH.

I only judge when I see larger ladies running in inadequate sports bras and think 'ooh, that must hurt'! Other than that, wear what you like

I do wear a bra all of the time except when I'm in bed, despite not actually need the support. In my case it has more to do with being a teacher in a secondary school and not wanting to give the adolescent boys any more distractions than they already have. (Our classrooms get quite warm so I am frequently working in my shirtsleeves and some of my blouses can be a bit transparent.
However, i loathe underwired bras - I don't want to feel uncomfortable in my clothes - and after finding it increasingly diffcult to buy nice bras without underwires I just buy whatever I fancy in Primark and as soon as I get them home I cut out the wires.

I almost never wear one.