Am I right to feel a bit miffed?

[zukiecat]

First time posting for a long while so please be gentle!

I don't know if I'm just being a bit miserable or what but today I promised to look after a friend's three dogs in her home while she attends an appointment in a different city.

I am here from 9-4 and I have to go to work at 5pm (work a few shifts at my local shop)

Friend offered to pay me and said she would leave the money on the table, I arrive and find a note saying sorry can't pay you but here's your bus fare home (£4)

Am I right to feel a bit used as I have given up an entire day, for free?

I still have to work 5-10pm and again in the morning 7-1, so there will be no time to do anything else or see my daughter ( she's grown up, but we are very close)

Maybe I'm just a miserable cow and I'm all for helping a friend, but I always do the helping!

Get rid of this cunt! Just block and you can't get your daughter to do it. I'd have taken the fucking bacon, but then, I'd have seen her twat note about not paying you and left, then texted her, 'You tried to take the piss out of me again, well, it didn't work this time. You need to find someone else I'm off.'

You should have left the heat on when you left.

And if she asks you what time you left, just say lunch time. Don't let her think you waited round until nearly 2pm. And then tell her why.

I'm sorry that you stayed this long however at least you have now left and hopefully from reading all the replies you can see that she is definitely not your friend. If you can't handle the confrontation then just cease all future contact with her.
I wonder if you will hear from her today when she gets home as she will probably just think you left at 4pm as agreed and not give it another thought.

She might message me later, but I can only get on my phone during my break at work, we'll see what she has to say then!

Anyway, I've sat in her house for nearly five hours today with nothing to eat so if she does have a moan she's got a bloody nerve!

Late to this thread but just wanted to say well done for leaving. Awesome! You sound lovely OP.

Do you think it's perhaps time to sever all ties with her Zukie? She's not good for you and that isn't going to change

I've just read the thread like this

The gall of some people!

How are you supposed to go to work without a full meal?

Glad you've left. Don't let her bully you like that again

Yeah Fourfox I think you're right, and I did after all the nonsense with the table and Lino, I can't remember why I caved after all that!

Things will never change now

Honestly, cut her out for once and for all. She's a piss taker of the highest order.

Things WILL change now.

She won't, but you will.

You're going to be free of this leach and have a wonderful life without her.

And you're going to stay on MN because you're great to have around

Sorry- leech, not leach

Thanks Fourfox

You're all lovely to be around too, The support I get on here is second to none!

I will be sticking around

EAT THE BACON!!!!

Then when you're leaving (after dogs have weeed) send her a text saying "Sorry got hungry" and leave her to it. She's out and about, has saved money on a dog-sitter so can afford, and has the opportunity, to buy more bacon.

Are you able to share the table story for those who don't know it?

You don't have to of course

I need to go and charge my phone now, have some food and get ready for work

Thank you all so much for your kind words and all the support!

Welcome back, Zukie

Good for you zukiecat - onwards and upwards!

Glad you're on the way home. I expect you'll get loads of pouty bullshit from her, but just be clear that you had to go home to get something to eat before going to work.

I'm wondering if she's struggling with money at the moment, but if she is, she should have been upfront with you before asking you to dog sit, then you would at least have had the opportunity to take some lunch with you, if you'd agreed to do it, NOT expecting payment. As it is, if she is skint and has been less than honest, all she's achieved is stirring up bad feeling in an already strained friendship.

The table story, in a nutshell:

Friend offered Zukie her old dining table & chairs, but Zukie had to dismantle & move it herself (including shifting all friend's crap off the top of it.) Another friend helped Zukie move it.

The hall lino got ripped, but it is not clear whether it was already ripped or whether moving the table caused the rip. However, the friend insisted Zukie pay to replace the whole of the hall floor. Z offered repair and/or a mat to cover the rip. Friend refused, insisting on replacement with new lino.

Z asked MN for advice, the general consensus being that it should be possible to repair rather than needing to replace the whole floor, and that Z should inspect the rip as it should be possible to see if it is really new or pre-existing.

Z tried to make arrangement for her and 3rd party to come and inspect the rip prior to possible repair, when friend suddenly announced it had miraculously been fixed.

. Some people really do take the piss!

Well done to you for giving her a second chance but it's obvious she hasn't and will never change

That friend is horrid. If she treats her friends like that, I'd hate to see how she treats people she doesn't like!! I really sounded like my Mum then

When we know we're going to be out longer than we like to leave our dog, we will ask for someone to sit with her for the extra time she'd be on her own.....not the whole bloody time we're out!!

Don't apologise and don't say you were called into work early . You'd be the mug and the bad person who abandoned her pooches.

Don't talk to her again now. Nothing good can come of any conversation. Ghost the bitch. Take your power back.

Well done Zukie