Am I right to feel a bit miffed?

[zukiecat]

First time posting for a long while so please be gentle!

I don't know if I'm just being a bit miserable or what but today I promised to look after a friend's three dogs in her home while she attends an appointment in a different city.

I am here from 9-4 and I have to go to work at 5pm (work a few shifts at my local shop)

Friend offered to pay me and said she would leave the money on the table, I arrive and find a note saying sorry can't pay you but here's your bus fare home (£4)

Am I right to feel a bit used as I have given up an entire day, for free?

I still have to work 5-10pm and again in the morning 7-1, so there will be no time to do anything else or see my daughter ( she's grown up, but we are very close)

Maybe I'm just a miserable cow and I'm all for helping a friend, but I always do the helping!

No bargains I'm afraid Cagliostro!

But I got what I needed, and that's it all done now so I' m happy with that

Thank you all so much again for helping me see things clearly, if I hadn't come on here for advice I'd probably just have carried on letting her use me for her doormat.

A small matter maybe but her child's birthday is very soon and I haven't even got a card for him (he will be 17) She will be expecting one for him, but she hasn't sent my DC any for years!

I'd still send him the card.

After what has happened, with him being 17 and with your children not getting one, I wouldnt send a card. I'm all for not taking it out on the children, you dont give to receive etc but all things considered I wouldn't send one in this case

That's what I thought FeelingSmurfy, it's not the child's fault, but I really need to make this a clean break once and for all.

Zukie he's 17- he's nearly an adult and I'm sure he's not going to mind. She doesn't send to your kids and I really really think you need to not send one this year.

She's blocked anyway, you don't have to placate her.

Dear God! NO, no fucking card. Just get rid of this pisstaking lying user bitch once and for all.

Yeah, you're right Fourfox,

He really won't care about not getting one this year, he has a lot going on his life but that would be a whole thread again!

Content now knowing that she's blocked and I need never see her again

Crosspost Expat!

You're absolutely right!

How are you and your family doing?

That's reminded me. The friend who dropped me because I told her she'd upset me then didn't send my DD a birthday card. That felt petty and I took the hint.

Chuntering along, thanks. Really, this gal won't give you a second thought, so spare none for her. No more letting her back in. She's a cow.

would an average 17-year old even care if they get a birthday card from mum's 'friend'?

She expects you to buy her child a card but never buys them for you-???

well done zukiecat. i also remember you from years of old. that was a big, needed step. you'll find it easier to spot these users now.

Yes rollonthesummer

She hasn't bought mine a card for years, and has always tried to run them down

I can see everything much more clearly these days and she has never been a friend, I was lonely and vulnerable and easy to take advantage of

Starting my job has been a massive thing for me, and I really enjoy it, I've also made some good friends there who really do look after me and it's wonderful!

Been on a few nights out with them, and that's something I haven't done for years!

If she ever moaned about your lack of card, what would she reply if you said, 'but you never buy my dc a card?