Am I right to feel a bit miffed?

[zukiecat]

First time posting for a long while so please be gentle!

I don't know if I'm just being a bit miserable or what but today I promised to look after a friend's three dogs in her home while she attends an appointment in a different city.

I am here from 9-4 and I have to go to work at 5pm (work a few shifts at my local shop)

Friend offered to pay me and said she would leave the money on the table, I arrive and find a note saying sorry can't pay you but here's your bus fare home (£4)

Am I right to feel a bit used as I have given up an entire day, for free?

I still have to work 5-10pm and again in the morning 7-1, so there will be no time to do anything else or see my daughter ( she's grown up, but we are very close)

Maybe I'm just a miserable cow and I'm all for helping a friend, but I always do the helping!

Hello zukiecat I remember some of your previous posts, and I do recall reading about the lino before (under another name).

I've read about some users and this one is right up there with the worst. You sound like you'd be an awesome friend, shame this woman couldn't value you but just tried to use you instead.

I'm at work just now folks but I'll reply properly later on at home

Nowhere have I said I couldn't afford the bus fare, just that friend didn't even leave enough to cover it Pictish

What an absolute COW. Friend, not the OP. Delete her number from your phone. Remove her as a FB friend. Do not contact her.

You really don't need people like this around you, life is too short.

Zukie, did you tell her you'd left early? Does she know, or does she think you were actually there all day?

Well done for leaving early. Cheeky cow.

Obviously it isn't an issue of OP being unable to afford the bus fare, given that she got herself to her friend's house and back home again. But the point is that if you ask someone to do you a favour then basic good manners requires that, a a minimum, you make sure they're not out of pocket as a result. You also make sure that they're not left in your cold house all day with only dry bread to eat.

Does your friend know you left early?

Just RTFT, what an absolute bitch this woman is! I'm horrified, Zukie you deserve so much better than this, this woman is NOT a friend. Dry effing bread?! I'm vegan and I think you should have eaten that bacon! I probably wouldn't pay a friend for a similar favour but I'd have loads of food on offer and would probably give petrol money.

I'd love you to message her saying some real home truths, but I get that that's difficult for you so please, just never speak to this woman again. Disgusted anyone could behave this way towards an apparent friend.

Thanks everyone for the kind messages, I appreciate them!

I sent her a pm on facebook to say I'd left early as I was cold and hungry, all the support on here enabled me to do that, and I just thought What have I got to lose, what can she do about it?

A few years ago I'd never have been able to do even that much, so it maybe won't seem like much to some of you, but for me that's massive

She tried to get you in trouble with the police for something she did and you were still speaking to her after, never mind doing her favours?! I also struggle with being assertive so I understand it's difficult but you really need to keep this toxic person out of your life. Stay strong and don't give her any more chances.

Sorry x-post. Well done for standing up to her. You have nothing to lose as she was not a true friend. Even if she apologises still consider going NC as she has a history of treating you badly.

Well done Zukie. Now stop worrying about the reply!

Well done you! and have a big congratulatory as well! Sounds like you've made loads of progress, you should feel really proud of yourself (CBT can be great if you let it, I had it myself years ago and still use the techniques all the time)

I cannot believe that people like this exist!

Really pleased to see your name, Zukie!

Then I read the thread

Then I read the end!

Yay! Well done you, onward and upward.

Hi I'm back everyone, was doing some Xmas shopping

To answer one or two questions there is no DH on the scene to mention anything to, and I don't know her finances in detail, but pretty sure she isn't skint, she has more money coming in than I do, her rent is cheaper than mine and she has never bought anything on credit, so no costs there.

Don't know if I said but her appt wasn't medical or shopping, the reason for it is a whole other thread, and very identifying if I say anything about it!

Have blocked her now, so she'd have to write if she wanted to say anything,

Well done- please just keep her blocked and don't engage in any way, shape or form

Stay strong, I promise you'll feel better for it

Thanks Fourfox!

I am determined this time to stick to my guns and never let her back in again!

If ever I feel like I might I'll remember just what a user she really is, feel better already just knowing she's blocked

I had one 'friend' like that. She disappeared like a flash the minute I stopped doing stuff for her and needed some help myself

Well done Zukie. The cheek of her is unbelievable. If I was you I would block her from your phone and Facebook and have nothing else to do with her.

You're awesome Zukie and I totally understand how bloody hard that was for you. I am a no confrontation, fuck all self esteem person. You are an inspiration.

Hope you enjoyed your Christmas shopping today. Any bargains? :o

Yay! Well done ZukieCat 🐱

Just read the thread in one go & am delighted to hear Awful Woman has been blocked&binned.

You really are worth much MUCH more.