Am I right to feel a bit miffed?

[zukiecat]

First time posting for a long while so please be gentle!

I don't know if I'm just being a bit miserable or what but today I promised to look after a friend's three dogs in her home while she attends an appointment in a different city.

I am here from 9-4 and I have to go to work at 5pm (work a few shifts at my local shop)

Friend offered to pay me and said she would leave the money on the table, I arrive and find a note saying sorry can't pay you but here's your bus fare home (£4)

Am I right to feel a bit used as I have given up an entire day, for free?

I still have to work 5-10pm and again in the morning 7-1, so there will be no time to do anything else or see my daughter ( she's grown up, but we are very close)

Maybe I'm just a miserable cow and I'm all for helping a friend, but I always do the helping!

Have the bacon. Seriously. Eat. If you're not going to be paid in money at least have something to eat at her expense.

Actually I think that's a good idea; if you leave the receipt with a polite note stating that this was the cost of lunch, then at least that is pushing back a bit. She may not openly acknowledge it, but she'll know what is meant.

Oh Zukie

Come on, lass - you can do this. We're all holding your hand, up you get now and walk out that door. Don't look back

oh and leave a note saying ...."I got your heating working, see how lovely and hot it is, I had to open the windows - smile face"

I would crank up the heating to max, eat the bacon, leave the washing up and then leave and cut her off

Oh, fuck her off! She's a fucking bitch. Block her block her block her.

Take the fucking bacon, turn her heaters on full blast and leave.

Get your daughter to text her back if you can't (before you block her). 'You pisstaking bitch. Fuck off out of my life.'

Get the bacon out of the packet, cook it, share the sandwiches with the dogs, let them out for the toilet, go home. They'll be fine now (even I wouldn't be worrying).
If you can't be bothered to make the bacon sarnie then just open the bacon and feed it to the dogs.
Better still - give them something to do this afternoon by hiding bits of bacon down the back of the sofa, in beds etc. They'll be happily entertained

'I did wonder about popping out to the shop and leaving her the receipt but if she's not going to pay me for my time, then she will certainly just ignore any notes or receipts I might leave.'

Yep. So eat the bacon. She's a bullying cunt.

You can't go straight to work, work late, and work early again tomorrow morning if you haven't had a proper meal today.

I'd leave a note to that effect. "I'm leaving to get something to eat before work. I stayed X hours, let the dogs out, you can pay me next time I see you"

She probably won't pay you but at least she'll know you're on to her. Then don't do anything for her ever again.

You sound lovely Zukie, I would treat you much better than this if you were my friend.

I have just counted the money she did leave and she hasn't even given me £4, she's left me just under £2!

So not even enough to get home!

X-posted with expat who always give the best advice. Only in a more... forthright way.

Thank you Cheezy,

I am just putting my coat on as we speak!

I am dying to know the table story too!

Good to see you back zukie. [I have had so many namechanges in the past 7 years, but doubt you'd recognise me anyway].

Zukie you're still there? Please sweetheart, please leave now. Go and get something to eat and get warm

Well done

She agreed to pay you - was the amount discussed? Not that it matters really because it's the principle that's important, but I just wondered.

If she has a) not paid you and b) left you nothing to eat but bread and no fillings to make yourself a sandwich, I would honestly leave. I really love dogs and don't like it when they're left on their own, but you've spent a decent amount of time with them now. Let them out into the garden so they can have a run round and do their business, make sure their water bowl is full and go home. Presumably your friend must leave them for a couple of hours now and again - I wouldn't leave a dog for more than four hours but they will be fine now until she gets home.

Text her and say "As you've only left me dry bread to eat and you haven't paid me as we agreed, I'm not keen to go out to the shops to buy something to put into a sandwich. I've made sure the dogs are fine, they've been fed and had plenty of exercise, and I'm going home now to get myself a late lunch."

If she texts you back or tries to phone, ignore her. Forever.

Just RTFT. zukie, it's time to go. Pocket the measley £2 and go! If she contacts you, say You have taken the piss too many times. Do not contest me again then block her!

Send the cheeky mare a bill, £8 per hour is standard.

cancel the cheque Eat the bacon and leave. Text her saying you got called to work for an emergency meeting and so will obviously halve how much she has to give you next time she sees you.

An incentive if you haven't left is the thought of seeing her face to face at the end of the day - will she breezily float in and thank you whilst pushing you out the door?

Awkward!

On my way home now!

Good for you zukie - you are kinder than most of us would have been.

Well done

Excellent! Well done that lass!

Well done Zukie!