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Am I right to feel a bit miffed?

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zukiecat · 02/12/2016 09:50

First time posting for a long while so please be gentle!

I don't know if I'm just being a bit miserable or what but today I promised to look after a friend's three dogs in her home while she attends an appointment in a different city.

I am here from 9-4 and I have to go to work at 5pm (work a few shifts at my local shop)

Friend offered to pay me and said she would leave the money on the table, I arrive and find a note saying sorry can't pay you but here's your bus fare home (£4)

Am I right to feel a bit used as I have given up an entire day, for free?

I still have to work 5-10pm and again in the morning 7-1, so there will be no time to do anything else or see my daughter ( she's grown up, but we are very close)

Maybe I'm just a miserable cow and I'm all for helping a friend, but I always do the helping!

OP posts:
MadeForThis · 02/12/2016 12:09

Eat the bacon and just say you checked your texts after it was eaten.

MangoBiscuit · 02/12/2016 12:09

OP, if your DD was being treated like this, what would you advise her to do?

Trifleorbust · 02/12/2016 12:10

Do you know what, I honestly have to say, I would assume my mate must be absolutely on her arse to behave like this: not paying me, no food in the house, instructions for no heating. Maybe she is properly skint. But there is still no excuse to treat you like this! Go.

OohhThatsMe · 02/12/2016 12:11

All I got back was "No, the bacon is for me and Xxxxx (her child) Bread is for you"

Did anyone else laugh out loud at the sheer cheek of the woman?

BewtySkoolDropowt · 02/12/2016 12:11

I'd message back and say

'in that case I'm taking the dogs out for a walk now, then I'm heading home for a proper lunch, not just plain bread. I'm sure the dogs will be fine till you get home '.

And then do exactly that.

ohfourfoxache · 02/12/2016 12:11

Arf at taking the bacon and leaving the packet with the dogs Grin

Oh Zukie just leave, please. This is majorly taking the piss, love

OohhThatsMe · 02/12/2016 12:11

Stick up for yourself here, OP, and send a text saying, "Please make sure you go to the cashpoint before you come home as I need that money tonight."

Whatthefuckis1tnow · 02/12/2016 12:12

This behaviour will continue as long as you let it happen. This will not be the last time you feel used and angry. Put a stop to it today.

Chocness · 02/12/2016 12:12

What a cheek! I'd stay with the dogs until the agreed time but then make this the last favour ever for this so called friend.

Sixweekstowait · 02/12/2016 12:13

Make a toaster bacon sandwich, eat the grapes, turn the heating up to full and then text her to say you are leaving. Leave. And wtf has she 3 dogs and no proper food in the house ( judgemental face but don't care).

Whatthefuckis1tnow · 02/12/2016 12:14

No don't stay. You will be seething all day long. Not to mention cold and hungry.

ohfourfoxache · 02/12/2016 12:14

If she were skint and told Zukie that she was on the bones of her arse then I know Zukie would help out in any and every way she could.

But to promise payment and go back on that, and leave her in the house with just bread and no heating for the whole day just shows what a piss taker she is

Trifleorbust · 02/12/2016 12:15

ohfourfoxache: Oh I agree. She sounds awful

WouldHave · 02/12/2016 12:16

Tell her you have no choice but to eat the bacon as dry bread is not enough for your lunch, and she'll have to get something else to replace it. I'm sure she can stop at a shop on the way back from her appointment.

And absolutely never do her any favours again.

ofudginghell · 02/12/2016 12:16

You didn't say in your first post that she has form for taking the piss.

If it was me I'd be sending her a text asking if she treats all her friends like this or is it just you???
Make her squirm a bit. She can either then apologise for the lack of snacks/food and lack of money as per agreement and sort it out or she can get shirty and at least then you know she won't be preying on you again Grin
If a friendships not working both ways it's not a friendship in my eyes

LagunaBubbles · 02/12/2016 12:17

All I got back was "No, the bacon is for me and Xxxxx (her child) Bread is for you"

That is simply outrageous and not the actions of a proper friend. People treat others badly in life because they get away with it, you need to say something.

Sixweekstowait · 02/12/2016 12:17

No way is she skint but she may have very odd priorities on how she spends her money. I say again wtf 3 dogs?

IrregularCommentary · 02/12/2016 12:18

Bloody hell, what a dick! Put the heating on, eat a bacon sarnie and leave!

ohfourfoxache · 02/12/2016 12:19

Absolutely Trifle. But then I think we'd all hope that most normal people wouldn't behave like this.

Although there are so many stories of entitled people on MN I wonder if this is normal behaviour now Sad

OohhThatsMe · 02/12/2016 12:20

Is your friend saying the dogs can't be left alone at all? So she's with them 24/7 normally?

wizzywig · 02/12/2016 12:21

Is it ok to ltb?

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zukiecat · 02/12/2016 12:22

Hi Ohfourfoxache Smile,

I haven't had anything decent to get into Mumsnet with so I've been mostly lurking!

My lovely DD2 has just got me an iPhone so I'm still finding my way around with it.

You're right in that I won't be able to just leave, but I will remember in future not to be so obliging and learn to say "No" more often!

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Pillowaddict · 02/12/2016 12:22

This is making me so cross. I know it's difficult if you don't like confrontation but you really must respond and say that doesn't seem fair, you need to leave to get something decent to eat (and warm up!) and ask what she's going to do about the money she'd agreed to pay you. Please don't let this go - because she will just behave this way again in the future if you let her do it now. You deserve more respect and you need to remind her of that.

Cagliostro · 02/12/2016 12:23

Wow :( utter gall of some people

Pillowaddict · 02/12/2016 12:24

To clarify cross with her not you, assuming you do let her know it's not on!

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