To not make nephews Christmas outfit

[Cindbelly]

Bit of backstory as I don't want to drip feed.

DH and I have been NC with MIL and SIL 1 for roughly 2 years. MIL due to her refusal to accept that DH primary family are me and the DC and that coupled with her controlling behaviour. It had been going on for years slowly grounding him down and then one day She said some nasty things to him about not being able to love DD the same as DS as she looks like me and he walked away (long story short it wasn't that simple) she's never apologised and at the time couldn't understand why DH was hurt as her feelings are valid and she has every right to express them.
SIL 1 and I had a falling out 4 years ago when I cancelled babysitting for her as I was in the process of miscarrying. Apparently I was selfish as her DS would have been in bed and her sofa is more comfortable then mine anyway

I've also got SIL 2 who I used to be close to but we don't see that regularly now due to the strained relations between DH and family.

SIL 2 came over upset yesterday as her DD has just started nursery and needed a costume for the nativity which she couldn't find. I've told her it's not a big deal and a top with the character would be fine etc but she is young and financially struggling and was upset so I offered to make one.
Not a problem I'm fairly crafty and as it turned out had all the materials. I dropped it to her last night took about 6 or so hours in between dinner etc.

SIL 1 has just text me out of the blue to say that she has seen the costume it is not fair I am playing favourites between my nieces and nephews, her DS needs to be an elf for his school play, costume due in on Monday so she will be over Saturday afternoon to pick it up incase there are any adjustments that need to be made.

WIBU to text her back to fuck off?
Nephew doesn't even know I exist as they took down all the photos etc of us from MIL house.
Or am I letting my view of her cloud my judgement and should I make it seeing as show I've made one for my niece?
I will think IANBU to refuse but I'm doubting myself now

Tell her cheap elf costumes are widely available.
I make most costumes but bought an elf one as it was cheaper than the cost of the materials.

I would ask your DH how he feels about his sister and would he like to be back in touch and then if he isn't bothered to be polite but firm in your no and if he is bothered then reply something like Sonders said, be firm though, don't let her think that she can walk all over you or it will never end!
Good Luck OP!

Yea, she can fuck right off

Ha! Entitled, much?

Say no, I can't do that, and text her links to Asda & Tesco costumes.

-- or say Fuck Off, which would be more satisfying, probably.

In fact, don't say "can't", say "won't".

No, I won't do that.

YANBU

You make costumes for who you damn well please, or not. You could text her with "Ha ha, nice one." And then be out.

Firmly in the Fuck off camp here!!!
Or you could go with the old classic ... 'Are you on Glue???'

op, PLEASE tell her to fuck right off. I think I would probably go with 'You have some brass neck, I think NOT. If you come here, there will be no costume waiting for you'

A simple "You have got to be joking right?" would be my response. Then I wouldn't reply to anything else - or maybe I would see what her response was first and then and share it with MN.....

I would love to say I cant believe people would be so cheeky but sadly I can! Just wow really...please do not do this.

Have you replied yet OP?

Crikey, she sounds delightful

'Fuck off' is the only acceptable answer to that text OP

Lunde - so what if the entitled twat makes a wasted visit to the house. Op can just not answer the door - its her house! My experience with my entitled twat of a DB is people like that hate to be ignored, so I would just ignore the text, however, I do also like QueenofallIsee's reply!!

But honestly, ignoring her is best, you have been NC for 4yrs, why re-start contact now?

she's crackers!

Ha ha ha!

What the actual fuck.

This can't be true, who on Earth is that entitled for real?!?!

Just send a message saying 'SIL2 had emergency and couldnt find one. Not playing favourites. Don't even know your DS' and link this www.ebay.co.uk/itm/BOYS-ELF-FANCY-DRESS-5PCE-COSTUME-CHILDRENS-CHRISTMAS-XMAS-OUTFIT-HAT-BOOTS-BELT-/361824621754?var=&hash=item543e6d94ba:m:mISyyipK4U_XLU0qZBBTmmA

Heck of a cheek!

I think you have to say something to her about not making the costume or your nephew won't have one in time. Just 'I'm not making his costume' and leave it.

She's an utter cockwomble obviously.

Don't tell her you're making it. She is clearly crackers. Just ignore her completely. If her DS doesn't have a costume then that is 100% her fault and her problem. If she turns up on Saturday, tell her you don't know what she is going on about, of course you weren't making an elf costume and shut the door on her. It's the only way to deal with her and her total unreasonableness.

some people astound me with their utter arrogance and twatish behaviour.

I agree tell her to fuck right off.

I'd love to know what the exact wording of her text was, how rude of her! Give her directions to the nearest costume shop

I would be tempted to text her back to tell her she's got more front than Blackpool but be the bigger person and just ignore her. That will probably annoy her more! Despite reading these type of threads for years I am still amazed at the temerity of some people!!

Me too MrsA!

Presumably she likes sex and travel?
So tell her to fuck off.