AIBU to think it's silly that DS can't wear these to nursery?

[GracyEvans]

DS had some leggings on today - they're gorgeous! They have monsters on (not scary) but apparently he isn't allowed to wear them? They don't have a uniform, but apparently a Mum said that they scared her daughter WTAF.

Ooh I have those in grey for my toddlers! (Dd and Ds) Perfectly practical for nursery!

They'refab.

If they made them Generously-Proportioned Lady sizes, I would wear them.

TBH, I think that the other precious little flower should have some reassurance that a bit of material isn't going to hurt her.

I can honestly say that neither of mine would have been worried by cloth at that age.

DD was scared of a kids club mascot recently. If her friend wore a t shirt with it on to pre school inwould work with DD to explain why it wasn't anything to be scared of, I wouldn't dream of asking the other child not to wear it!

Oh and leggings are super practical clothes for pre schoolers. Comfy, stretchy and not restrictive. For boys and girls.

They are lovely op.

You need to speak to the nursery manager and that mother is 'mumsnet favourite' unhinged.

Well the nursery may have gone about it the wrong way. They shouldn't have to them. Surely a conversation saying that a child was very upset by them would be enough for a parent to go to the not particularly enormous effort of putting different pants on their child. We have no idea why the child was distressed by something that seems relatively minor. Maybe she has sn, maybe she has lost a parent, maybe she's spent her short life being shifted between foster carers or maybe she's just a very young child that is irrationally scared by something. Going by some of the replies on here maybe the nursery felt they had no choice but to bam them. Send the child in them anyway? Yes that'll teach her I'm sure the nursery will also be working on the child's fear but maybe in a more gradual way at first than her having to look at it the whole time she's there.

So cute!

Of course boys can wear leggings. To suggest they look stupid because they are male is ludicrous. All toddlers look stupid. They're toddlers.

It's not enough to just say it's ridiculous that the mother is pandering to her. You have no idea about her needs. My child is terrified of skeletons. Like, wet himself sobbing and screaming. Couldn't go in to the doctors until she moved the spine from her desk. I can teach him that skeletons aren't scary until I'm blue in the face, and I do. Doesn't make much difference though.

If this was a tshirt and not leggings you would be getting slightly different replies. But because you are extremely 2016 and thus cool and forward thinking for dressing a boy in leggings the little girl and her mother are being called all sorts of names.

Love those leggings!

To all the people who say boys shouldn't was leggings, why?

The only was to keep socks on a toddler is to put them in tights (with the added bonus of keeping them warm).

It's so sexist and last century to say a certain item of clothing is for a boy or girl only, get with it, it's 2016.

As for these being banned at his nursery I'd say that life is stressful enough without having to consider the impact your choice of clothing may have on others. Ridiculous IMO.

When are a little boy's leggings joggers though? Stretchy trousers are a minefield. And don't start on about tights. DS has just gone out in his running tights. I would say they were leggings.

You scared the bejezus out of me there OP. That photo needs a trigger warning.

It's "cool and forward-thinking" to put a boy in leggings now is it? Where do you live, 1953?

I think they are cute, and there's nothing wrong with boys wearing leggings at all.

However, monsters are usually portrayed as scary things, especially in childrens stories. So I don't think that it's particularly surprising, or particularly irrational, that a child is scared of monsters (however cute they may be).

While the parents/nursery may need to address the girls fears, I don't think it would be fair of you to send your DS to nursery in leggings that you know someone is scared of.

You are not being unreasonable.

Also, the leggings are pretty cool.

Errm I put my boy in leggings all the time and these are lovely ones. Nice and comfy for crawling and rolling around, better than stiff scratchy jeans.

It's a bit much for a nursery to ban him from wearing them rather than having a word and explaining that that particular pair upsets a particularly sensitive child, and though they can't say he's not allowed them on, it'd make their lives a touch easier if you reserved them for at home. That's how I'd go about it. So YANBU.

South, are you on glue? Why would a boy toddler look ridiculous but not a girl toddler? Toddlers are all toddler shaped.

TBH it's only South who's objected to leggings for some mysterious reason. That totally isn't connected to homophobia of course And possibly Justwhy but it's not entirely clear what Justwhy is about other than sneeriness.

So basically, there are no "all those posters" objecting to leggings on boys, just two people and everyone else going eh wot?

A toddler is banned from wearing an item of clothing? Just when you think you've heard it all.......

Suspect someone is after a bit of advertising

It was badly phrased to ban them, but if they'd just told you the monsters were upsetting another child and asked if you'd mind saving them for home for a few weeks, I think most parents would laugh and cooperate.

Eh? Not my company!

I wouldn't really even class them as leggings there just like soft skin trousers really pretty standard for toddlers even back when my ds was small and shopping in primark / George they were pretty staple

I don't get it

Skinny *

No I'm not. But this is mumsnet remember hence everyone saying how much they LOVE the leggings and how fab and comfy they are over say, a pair of tracksuit bottoms. Point of OP completely missed because people are so keen to remind everyone that this is 2016 and IT IS FINE FOR A BOY TO WEAR LEGGINGS YOU BACKWARDS THINKING, SEXIST TROGLODYTE. If it was a tshirt people wouldn't be saying the same thing and you know it. They would be, you know, commenting on the actual OP.