Page boys' parents won't let them wear their outfits (that I picked)... AIBU to think it's ridiculous?

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I have 2 best friends, who are like my sisters, and I'm really close to their little boys. I wanted them to be page boys - my friends were really happy about this. Now they don't want them to be, due to the outfits... They 'came to a joint agreement' whatever that means...

I'm really hurt - I also think it's a bit ridiculous!

Sorry, haven't read the whole thread. Your 'friends' have been pretty horrible. If you want to stay friends with them, I guess you could ask them what they would prefer their boys to wear, and see if you can reach a compromise. Otherwise, don't have page-boys, and see if you can get your money back. They are being ridiculous, and you shouldn't give this any more head space.

Hmm. I think they're being a bit rude BUT i have boys that age and I would not be keen for them to wear suits, as I think putting boys under about
6 in grown up suits looks ridiculous, though am aware many think it's ok. Can't be comfortable for them for starters.
More to the point though, one of my boys would just refuse to wear anything like that.
Always thought sailor suits would be cute for toddlers, especially if it's a summer wedding.

first of all they have decided between them and talked about it behind your back, friends don't do this.
secondly, you pretty much wear what is asked, like pp have said.

I'd just reply, sorry you don't want your dc to wear the suits, they tie in with the colour scheme. Never mind will take them back, so sorry your dc will miss out on being page boys, though.

I bet they either don't like the suits, or the fact that they're pink (i don't see an issue with pink per se but bet some do)

Having read some of the reply's here in forced to ask don't little boys like suits then? Because mine does 2 years old I bought him a suit for a photo shoot I won he loved it! And later I bought him one when he was older (5?) he loved that one too he loves being smart

Just mine then?

Abbs
Both of mine would refuse. But they're massively stubborn.

Those outfits are lovely. Bog standard page boy wear. Nothing odd or shocking. Wtf were they expecting their kids to wear? I'd reply and say. Oh it's OK they can wear this instead.
Seriously though they don't sound like nice friends. I think the fact that neither of them contacted you individually about any issue speaks volumes. They sound like theyve had a right little bitch about your choices over a cup of tea.

Totally agree Gashley - the amazing thing here is not that little boys don't like wearing pink (or whatever the problem is) but that a good friend who is 'like a sister' wouldn't just tell you straight up. And that you wouldn't ask them to clarify in the original conversation.

For what its worth though I would have pulled my 4 year old out too, simply to avoid the very high chance of a huge strop about pink on the day. Mind you, I would have asked first about the possibility of an alternative outfit (navy trousers and waistcoat?)

Is this on the DM yet?

Suspiciously long absence by the OP

Abbs - mine have a thing for waistcoats!

I just wonder what the mum were expecting the boys to wear as page boys at a wedding.

When my DS was 3/4 I would have been more than happy for him to wear pink but he would have had a huge tantrum over it.
I probably could have, made him but you wouldn't have wanted him in the photos with a face like thunder!!!

Where do boys get this massive hatred of pink from?

I think it might not just be the pink, it might be the suits as well. I really do not like suits for little boys. The boy in the picture wearing his slim fit suit looks ok if you like that sort of thing, but he is about 12.

In my opinion a suit like that does not look good on a 3 year old and just looks silly and fussy and uncomfortable.

But that's just my opinion and I wouldn't have page boys anyway so what do I know?!

*3 and 4 yos do have opinions. Whilst ware all thoroughly PC here and would never question a boy in something pink, many boys would. I would rather that they were happy in what they were wearing rather than throwing a tantrum halfway down the aisle.

Suggest a different colour for the waistcoat, or leave it out completely - they will probably be too hot anyway.*

My point was, as much as 3 and 4 year olds might well have an opinion, I would not let it dictate what was happening at a wedding, especially if it wasn't mine!

Sorry, I had no idea how many comments I would get! I am out, atm.

Being honest. It's the pink. Obviously.

Would something like this be better? I know people are saying to not compromise, but they do mean a lot to me.

Would something like this be better? I know people are saying to not compromise,

I think you need to ask your friends.
theyre the ones who will either agree and come or not.

Thinking about this OP, if you have a picture of what the groomsmen/man will be wearing to show these unreasonable parents what their precious darling sons might be wearing if you decide to keep them as pageboys after all of this and how it all ties together and isn't at all unusual in appearance, then do that.

On the other hand, you could just say "Thanks but we wont be having pageboys after all"

This is ridiculous. You can't possibly solve the problem until you find out what the problem IS.

You need to ask them WHY.

Sorry, I was just trying to look for ideas. I'll be seeing one of them later on, but just thought I'd be prepared

Those are lovely outfits OP.

Well if the pink is the problem, it won't be any better, as I'm not sure the will see pink braces as any more "manly"!

Don't change the outfits in any way. They are lovely just as they are. I know you don't want to come across bridezilla on this but they are taking the piss and they should be pleased that you have even thought to include their sons in your special day.