Page boys' parents won't let them wear their outfits (that I picked)... AIBU to think it's ridiculous?

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I have 2 best friends, who are like my sisters, and I'm really close to their little boys. I wanted them to be page boys - my friends were really happy about this. Now they don't want them to be, due to the outfits... They 'came to a joint agreement' whatever that means...

I'm really hurt - I also think it's a bit ridiculous!

Hate to say it but pink waistcoats could well be the problem.

My DS would have freaked even at that age at having to wear anything pink.

I don't like toddlers in suits, maybe your friends don't either. But they're rude to impose their will on your wedding.

I can't see anything wrong with those outfits
Would there be any other reason they no longer want them to be Page Boy's and they're using the outfit as an excuse?

I think they are lovely. The only thing I can come up with is the colour of the waistcoat, pink. If that's their reason they are being utterly ridiculous.

I really do worry what's up with people sometimes. Your friends are weird

You have paid for the outfits so hasn't cost them a penny.
You naturally want the page boy outfits to match your wedding colours

Them outfits btw are fairly standard for a wedding. Have your friends ever been to a wedding before?

Well the outfits don't seem horribly offensive so what reason have they given you for not wanting the boys to wear them?

Maybe they wanted their ds s in sailor outfits? That does sound cute
Could their be another reason OP?

The outfits are lovely and even if they weren't to their taste as I say they should just get on with it . Would be different if they were ridiculous outfits or unsuitable say shorts and short sleeve shirts for a winter wedding with an hours worth of pictures outside etc etc

Deffo no other reason why they don't want to do it ???

Send the outfits back and do

Say you have taken their concerns on board, changed your mind and want them to wear kilts instead. Pink ones.

If it is the pink, I'd be looking for new friends.

The only thing I can come up with is the colour of the waistcoat, pink. If that's their reason they are being utterly ridiculous.

3 and 4 yos do have opinions. Whilst ware all thoroughly PC here and would never question a boy in something pink, many boys would. I would rather that they were happy in what they were wearing rather than throwing a tantrum halfway down the aisle.

Suggest a different colour for the waistcoat, or leave it out completely - they will probably be too hot anyway.

It's probably that they don't like the idea of toddlers in suits. Many people don't. Their body shapes make suits look like weird dressing up outfits.

I'm with seeline - having worked with that age group for a while I could easily see 3 & 4 yo boys kicking off at wearing pink of any sort sadly. Suits and waistcoats may not be the most comfy outfits and also quite tricky to keep them looking smart for photos etc. but you are not bu! I'd cut your losses and bin the pageboy idea

They don't sound like great friends tbh Nothing wrong with the outfits at all, pink is just a colour and what did they expect pageboys to wear at a wedding?! Honestly even if they have some imagined-up problem with the colour or whatever, it's just one day which is hardly going to have a lasting negative impact on their sons. Sorry you're dealing with this OP.

Oh sorry just seen you said the ages.. maybe they think the boys won't be comfortable in them?
Why don't you ask them what the issue is?

it's never because of the colour, surely?

these are absolutely not my taste at all, sorry OP, and it's not about the "gay" or the "pink". Seriously people, how backward are you? pink = gay now? You must confuse with rainbows. Your friends are weird if they had already agreed. It's like being a bridesmaid, you know that you can end up in a dreadful outfit, it's part of the game.

Why don't you see if they'd be happy with the waistcoat if they provided their own black / navy (whichever works for you) trousers and a white shirt?

Its the pink.
Seeline its a waistcoat, presumably one that goes with the colour theme of the wedding.

If my 3 or 4 year old threw a strop about it they would be made to wear it. That might involve bribery or whatever but I wouldn't pull them out.

Its not PC to wear pink. Loads of boy's clothes are pink. Ironically the sort looked down upon by MN.

If you don't like the idea of your small boy being in a suit why would you ever say yes to them being a page boy as wearing a suit is pretty standard. My 4 year old would be extremely happy wearing a pink waistcoat as he loves pink and if all the other men were wearing the same he would be over the moon.

Oh come on OP, this thread is ridiculous.

Instead of pages of speculation about why they don't like the suits, is there any chance you could actually tell us what they said?

Will they be wearing matching pinking Converse? The last three weddings I've been to the page boys have worn a suit and Converse which looks ridiculous to me

Maui people are very stupid about pink

But surely friends that op describes as like sisters could dress there ds in something not to their own taste for one day ! To make her happy

And if not then surely it would be far less hurtful to say you know what we really don't like the outfits can we all maybe pick something else rather than just out right say the ds are not going to be pageboys now ?? How rude !!

Sound like the type of "friends" I ran a fucking mile from growing up