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Page boys' parents won't let them wear their outfits (that I picked)... AIBU to think it's ridiculous?

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GabsViolet · 21/11/2016 11:05

I have 2 best friends, who are like my sisters, and I'm really close to their little boys. I wanted them to be page boys - my friends were really happy about this. Now they don't want them to be, due to the outfits... They 'came to a joint agreement' whatever that means...

I'm really hurt - I also think it's a bit ridiculous!

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GabsViolet · 21/11/2016 15:24

Oh and the reason we have chosen the light pink is because everyone will be wearing a breast cancer ribbon and that's what it resembles and we love it. Why?

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ChaChaBlah · 21/11/2016 15:26

I'm surprised by the amount of people who don't like seeing little boys in suits. I had young page boys who wore waistcoats, shirts and trousers and it didn't even occur to me that anyone would dislike it. I don't think little boys should wear formal suits every day, nor do I think little girls should wear those stiff dolly shoes every day but I don't see the issue if it's just for one day?

CondensedMilkSarnies · 21/11/2016 15:27

There must be an underlying reason for this . I wouldn't like the fact that they'd discussed it between themselves and made a decision . It sounds to me like this is an excuse and if you say that the boys don't have to be page boys then that will give your friends and excuse to not attend your wedding at all.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 21/11/2016 15:28

Yey Gabs!

Well done

Hope you can enjoy the rest of your planning with less drama from friends and family,
and your big day Smile

WhatchaMaCalllit · 21/11/2016 15:30

Personally, I didn't see anything wrong with the original suits that you had picked (and I'm guessing paid for)...If they were paid for I'd be asking the parents of the pageboys to pay the difference between the two suits (if there is any)...I really would have gone bridezilla on these parents too.

OldGuard · 21/11/2016 15:34

The only difference is the pink ? I am completely failing to understand

FeralBeryl · 21/11/2016 15:34

Glad it's sorted. Now remember not to let those two have ANY input other than showing up on the day.
If they're willing to stress you out about something kind that. Originals were lovely

DotForShort · 21/11/2016 15:37

So their problem really was the pink waistcoat? How ridiculous.

The next time we have a "pink is just a colour" thread on MN, I'll remember this one.

I hope your wedding is lovely and drama free, Gabs.

polyhymnia · 21/11/2016 15:38

I too can't see much difference from the originals. Strange . Unless it's the change from grey to pink which is a shame.
Can't really explain why I don't like little boys in suits. It's just a completely personal taste I'd never impose on others who liked it.

onedayimightforget · 21/11/2016 15:43

I find it really weird that your friends immediately went to "they're not going to be page boys anymore" rather than coming to you and saying "I'm really sorry to be a pain, I'm just not sure how the boys are going to be about wearing a pink waistcoat as they see it as a girls colour. It's silly but the last thing I want is for them to have a major tantrum which ruins part of your day so is it possible we could look for an alternative".

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GabsViolet · 21/11/2016 15:49

Thanks for being so nice Smile

They didn't say that they wouldn't like it, they said that they don't suit that much pink... That's why they don't mind some of the pink. I don't even know, I'm just glad people are happy now.

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JammyGeorge · 21/11/2016 15:51

Both of the outfits you chose were lovely. I preferred the first one for a little boy.

I asked my just turned 4 year old if he would wear a pink shirt and he said 'no pink is for girls, pink & purple' I was quite shocked. He has a pink t shirt upstairs and has never expressed an opinion on it - he wears it happily but when asked that's how he's responded!

Must be how they talk in nursery.

MatildaTheCat · 21/11/2016 15:53

They don't want their sons to sound like UN PC brats but be assured they were scared of a Pink Tantrum on the day. In all likelihood some of the male guests may prefer other colours to pink but are polite enough to not say so and aware enough to respect the breast cancer link. Small boys not so much.

Well done for resolving it, OP though frankly you did so after a single phone call so the drama here was pretty much self created.

ExGucciKing · 21/11/2016 16:01

I wouldn't expect children of that age to be asked to wear suits, for everyone asking. Sailor outfit or Nehru jacket and short trousers would be more traditional in this country.

SoupDragon · 21/11/2016 16:04

Your original choice was better and your friends are being ridiculous.

Nevertheless, I'm pleased you've sorted it now. :)

Backingvocals · 21/11/2016 16:04

"They don't suit that much pink" Hmm

They don't suit that much thinking it seems.

Looks like the gaying of their children was the issue. I'm sorry your friends are like this and I'm sorry they chose to make it all about them. Well done for caring enough about them to find a solution to this problem that's obviously theirs not the boys'.

Hope you have a lovely day.

PS, I like boys in suits. DS loves being smart and has already picked out his trousers and waistcoat combo for Christmas. He would love to wear any of the outfits you've chosen.

Redpony1 · 21/11/2016 16:05

I've been to sooo many weddings and the little page boys have always been in formal suits! Much cuter than an alternative

dizzygirl1 · 21/11/2016 16:07

My son.went to a wedding at 4 and had a suit - he wasnt a page boy but i wanted him to look smart. He had no issues with wearing a suit!
Op i'm pretty disgusted by your 'friends' there is no way they'd still be my page boys if the parents had acted that way to me.
Personally for me - as a bridesmaid/best man/page boy you wear what you're asked to as your friend is asking you to be a massive part of their special day - meaning you are massively important to them!

onedayimightforget · 21/11/2016 16:09

I know the issue is resolved but not suiting a wedding outfit is expected! Clearly this isn't about what the boys think, it's about what the mum's think and their opinion shouldn't come in to it. Ultimately, they're your page boys and what they wear should suit your wedding.

brasty · 21/11/2016 16:17

Surely if you have a child who refuses to wear clothes that are not comfortable and might lead to them having a massive meltdown, you mention that when you are asked if your DC will be a page boy/bridesmaid?
Not to is simply rude.

Geretrude · 21/11/2016 16:23

'They don't suit that much pink'.

FFS. I'm glad you've got it sorted but your friends are still rude idiots

BringMeTea · 21/11/2016 16:28

Your friends are thickos.

BackforGood · 21/11/2016 16:34

You have two weird friends Hmm

Initially I was expecting you'd said you were going to dress them in something like Uterus or Wet November linked to, but what you had chosen was lovely and - in truth - not a long way from what you've changed it to.

How very, very strange your friends are.

LumpySpacedPrincess · 21/11/2016 16:34

This colour thing is completely out of hand. I handed a boy a pink number line and he refused to touch it, the girls were fine with all colours but pink is now only for girls and an inferior colour too.

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