Page boys' parents won't let them wear their outfits (that I picked)... AIBU to think it's ridiculous?

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I have 2 best friends, who are like my sisters, and I'm really close to their little boys. I wanted them to be page boys - my friends were really happy about this. Now they don't want them to be, due to the outfits... They 'came to a joint agreement' whatever that means...

I'm really hurt - I also think it's a bit ridiculous!

OP have a hug.

They should have told you straight up not upset you, or just told the kids they were bloody well wearing them.

You have enough going on planning a wedding without people pissing on you.

Glad you are all happy now.

My DS wore a skirt to our wedding

(this isnt actually my DS, he just wore the same outfit)

If they wanted to change the colour why on earth didn't they just ask instead of making a big deal about not letting their sons be pageboys? Glad you've got it sorted, I hope they don't cause any more drama.

You're a nicer person than me OP!

I have a four year old page boy and his mum and dad are happy for him to wear anything we like. My fiancé's nephew was going to be one as well, till his mum said wearing a suit was ridiculous and they'd choose something from the children's shop. I said, in more diplomatic terms, he's your child and he can wear what you like but please don't expect him to be a page boy.

Our football team had pink as third strip last year. Loads lads under 5 wearing pink tops here :-)

Do they understand why you chose pink
Are they so thick that they think you catch 'gay' from wearing pink
Can't understand for one minute why you backed down if all the rest of the party will be matching
But it's your wedding

I was going to ask if they knew why you chose pink for your wedding colour. I am sure at that age DS would not have had a problem with wearing your original choice, and I would not have had a problem with it either.

I had to arrange the Y6 leavers' hoodies for DS's class this year. There were a variety of colours the children could choose from, the only ones who chose the bright pink ones were boys.

I can see you've sorted it now OP but I'd be so fucking upset with this. They're being completely ridiculous. Completely.

This would honestly colour my relationship with them so much - they went behind your back and 'came to an agreement' that their young children wouldn't suit that much pink? Even though they know the connection to breast cancer charities?

Fucking arseholes. I expect they're also the types that stress if their precious little men hold a baby doll.

Your friends are vile. Sorry

I am glad you have settled on something you are all happy with, but such a shame it had tò be so stressful. I was wondering, did they know why you wanted the pink? If they didn't, then I would have explained, but if they did, then they aren't really good friends. The pink cancer ribbon must signify something to you, and the should respect that.
I hope your wedding runs smoothly and I wish you and your (soon to be) dh a long and happy life together

Why is everyone saying they don't like 'toddlers in suits'? Four years old isn't a toddler, there's a good chance they've started school, and even at three they are most probably out of nappies and charging about the place rather than toddling.
Sorry, I skimmed about half the thread but noticed a lot of people seemed to be saying this. It just seemed odd when at that age they would probably enjoy the chance to dress like a 'big boy' for the day.

True they are not toddlers at 4, by a long shot, but they are still very little. Each to their own, I personally dislike tiny boys in suits, to me they look like they belong to the (Del Boy) Trotter family, and are a bit chavy. It's just my own taste, dressing them up or putting a bow tie on them is not offensive and I wouldn't tell any parents. As long as the kids are not uncomfortable, it's not that important especially if they are not my kids

What were they expecting? I don't see anything hugely objectionable there

Nice suits. I wonder if your friends are stupid enough to be upset their boys are going to be dressing homosexual like, in gay pink.

Don't blame you for being upset. They sound bitchy and ignorant.

Am glad you have it sorted now - sorry you were put through so much stress so unfairly though.

It sounds as if this is a more stressful wedding than average given reason you've chosen pink, too - I hope that this is the only problem you have & everything else goes brilliantly . (Also, given these women must know why pink is a featured/main colour at your wedding, demanding you change it is really REALLY off. So much worse than if it were simply that you like the colour. Still not ok in those circs, obviously, but this is a whole other level of awfulness.)

No doubt all the posters who think boys look so uncomfortable in suits aim to keep their sons in a 'crisp white babygro' until they leave for university.

Just read the thread. Sorry you had to change the outfits. I understand why you did it though. They are being unkind and daft. And pfb. Try to forget it and don't let it tarnish your lovely wedding

squoosh -

My son is 5, I love him in a suit! :)