Page boys' parents won't let them wear their outfits (that I picked)... AIBU to think it's ridiculous?

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I have 2 best friends, who are like my sisters, and I'm really close to their little boys. I wanted them to be page boys - my friends were really happy about this. Now they don't want them to be, due to the outfits... They 'came to a joint agreement' whatever that means...

I'm really hurt - I also think it's a bit ridiculous!

Ok well your friends are tactless and rude. Send the outfits back, get your money back. Consider whether you really want to continue being besties with these unpleasant people

Ask them for more details incase there is something you can change?
I wouldn't put kids of that age in something so formal. They need room to move and be more comfortable. Or they will just whinge all day anyways. But if you ask what you can do to make them more happy about it then you'll know.

Or even better. Make it a no kids wedding except the wedding party. Or invite them to the evening only.
How do ya like them apples 😂

Ask them: what they expected to be worn? That's fairly standard page boy stuff, so why did they agree? Do they have something else in mind?

Oh they're definitely being idiots then. Half the fun of being the bridal party is the outfit which doesn't really suit everyone in one way or another flashback to handmade orange bridesmaid dress for a relative.

Accept resignation with grace "oh that's a shame, we were looking forward to little johnny and Jeremy sharing our special day. I assume they are still coming with you ?" And leave it at that. If they're good friends they would be honest. I get that not every colour suits every person but it feels a bit mean for two people to almost gang up and make it a problem.

So what did they say they would prefer?

And if you say you didn't ask them, I swear I'm going to throw a screaming tantrum all over the place

There is something more going on here.

They must have known that pageboys don't exactly wear an Arsenal football strip and that more than likely they'd be in a suit.

I think you need to clarify what the were expecting their sons to wear. And decide from there whether or not to just return the suits and stick with the remaining bridal party.

It's your wedding. Don't let them browbeat you. Just say 'Okay, no worries!' See if there is anyone else up for the duty, perhaps? They are being cheeky, thinking your wedding is all about them.

Weird. You know page boys are going to be in either in sailor suits or suits. If it is the pink very weird way to go about it.

I'd ask them why...

It might be that they know they're going to have to deal with stroppy DC all day because they'll object to being constructed by a suit?

I mean, it's what I'd expect a page boy to wear, but I'm trying to think of a reasonable reason why they're not happy.

three year olds tend not to be aware that pink is a girls colour.. .that develops sometime between four and five usually, boys go from being happy to dance around in frilly ballet tutus to being totally allergic to anything "girly". (ex nursery teacher) it is a development phase. some of them think that they will become a girl if they wear pink.

Good god

Imagine you'd asked them to wear a kilt!!

A boy in a fucking skirt!!

I don't like toddlers in suits either. Can't imagine many small children enjoying being forced into a waistcoat and jacket.

I don't get it The suits are fine, as is the pink waistcoat. It is for one day only?

I do hope you now say no kids during the day allowed unless they're part of the bridal party yes so petty but so necessary

I opened the thread thinking it would be Little Lord Fauntleroy type ruffles and jodhpurs

Nothing wrong with those outfits at all, but I will be anything that the problem is the pink,

I wouldn't negotiate with them or even discuss why, do you have another two boys who could do the job?

I'd ask them outright. WTF is wrong with those outfits?

"They don't suit our children"

Ok. Why?

I think you could talk it through with them and maybe change the colour of the waistcoats if that's what it's all about?
I know it's normal for weddings but there aren't many other situations where we expect to be able to tell other people including children what they should wear with no input from them?
Sometimes that expectation can cause problems? Especially where it involves young children?

What else can page boys wear? I'll try and negotiate with them.

Another one who does not see the problem. My friends had page boys at her wedding and they wore suits like these and converse shoes.

To be honest, no... I didn't ask why they don't suit them. I was a bit hurt and shocked. I wanted to leave ASAP.

Sorry, DS meant Sister, not son, just realised my fatal error in my previous post

Are you having these conversations via text op? That's the only reason I can understand for not having a normal conversation about it which goes along the lines of:

Them : dc aren't being page boys anymore
You: why?
Them :because the outfits don't suit them
You : what did you expect? It's standard wedding attire. What would you prefer?
Them : answer the questions
You: now have all the information

Or is this happening by carrier pigeon or semaphore to up the dramatic effect!?

Are these best friends your bridesmaids? Are they happy with their outfits?

I think full suits for that age are a bit ott. The pink is fine.

Personally I would swap the jackets and waistcoats for just a Pink shirt with the trousers. Can add trouser braces or navy knitted tank top. Then outfit can also be worn again so not just a waste and 3/4 year olds likely to nap at some point at a wedding so comfier