To be fucked off with in laws always asking me?!

[NickNacks]

DH owns a mobile phone.

In laws even have his number.

He answers and replies to messages to that number.

However every question is directed at me? What shall we get the dc for Christmas being the latest one. Argh. Ask him! I can't imagine for one second my aunt or brother or mum texting DH to ask our plans for new year. Isn't it sexist? Aibu?

Also, it isn't so much thr word, it's context. Whether you don't always get the 'nuance of british usage' or not, you know perfectly well the context of 'sweetie' in your 16.06 post wasn't in an innocent 'ooh I call everyone that!' way. So lets drop the 'oo you're so antagonistic' eh?

Oh please don't get me wrong, it was absolutely intended as patronising and condescending. Just not sexist. As I assume we're your pmsl, 4-year-old, etc comments. Let's not either of us pretend to be something we're not.

I'll leave you to your obsesion with pyjamas and mentions of genitals. Sorry the single principle I set out a few times, and applied to your pyjama situatikn, was too high level.

Surely that's what the threads been about. MILs ringing their DILs about day to day stuff.

Navy, no. It's about MILs ringing only their DILs about day to day stuff and other family admin regardless of whether the DIL wants to take on that role for her family.

So am I a 'numpty' for not knowing what games the dc want for the xbox? is it ok in your fussy world for my dm to ask dh, or is that sexist for not consulting me?

I don't know, up to you how you divide the labour in your house, if you're happy with it and you've communicated that to the other people who need to know it.

Does it bother your DH? Is he happy to be Games Knowledge Guy?

If so, what's the issue?

What I don't get is your posts labelling anyone a 'numpty' for not knowing what their DC may want.

Sigh. Anyone who's assuming that it's the woman's job to know this stuff is a numpty. And I'd say any parent who doesn't have any idea what their kids want for Christmas is a bit of a numpty, yes. Given the original numpty comment was in response to Navy's 'would men even know what their kids want' suggestion which I thought was pretty offensive to a lot of dads.

Where have I mentioned anyone being 'rude and aggressive?'

I used to do all this shit, because I'm a teacher so I get Christmas off. Except that we are nowhere near family so it all had to be done in advance.

Then one time MIL slapped me because I had forgotten her wedding anniversary. DH had just walked past her, and she didn't say a thing to him. We never ever did anniversary cards anyway, but one year she just decided that I should have done it.

So from then on I point blank refused to do a single card for anyone in his family, at all. And he hates cards and refuses to them.