to say no visitors at hospital when I have my baby?

[teabags]

My view is I will have 2 days to be by myself with my new baby in the hospital before I go home. I already have a DS. In laws presume they will visit me in hospital. DH says it is normal for family to want to do that, I guess he has a point.
(I hated having visitors last time)

I WAS 22 WHEN I HAD MY FIRST CHILD, HAD 3 DAYS OF LABOUR THEN AN EMERGENCY C SECTION. I HAD MY SON 11PM ON SUN NIGHT AND BY 9AM MY PARENTS IN LAW WERE UP THE HOSPITAL WITH POLAROID CAMERA HAPPILY SNAPPING AWAY I FELT AND LOOKED ILL AND WASHED OUT THEN MIL HOLDS BABY AND TELLS ME HES THE IMAGE OF HER DEAD UNCLE .
I WISH I'DE BEEN BRAVE ENOUGH TO TELL THEM TO FCUK OFF AND LET ME GET SOME REST.
I HATE LOOKING AT THOSE PHOTOS TO THIS DAY [23 YEARS LATER]

I had a really difficult birth, was very poorly, and trying to titivate myself and appear like I knew what I was doing with dd was just too much pressure. You want to see people when you have rested and recovered. I'm completely with you. Although a sneaky peep for the grandparents I think should be allowed, but they shouldn't be hanging around.

aleciawalton

Sorry I think you misunderstood I was not say that you were being unreasonable I just meant that My MIL is a right piece of work and had complained that we asked her to make an appointment too. Old bag that she is. A few people locally have always thought that I gave her a hard time until she has opened her mouth and been downright awful in front of them.

But on the basis of that I would never have kept her away from the maternity ward but let my parents/family come. Yes I gave birth and was the one with all the hormones etc but my dd and ds are my DH's children too and that awful woman is still his mother and their grandmother just as much as my mum is.

I think if people don't want visitors then that is what they should do it is your family after all but I am like others shocked at the amount of people that would keep their IL's out of the hospital and let their own parents in. I may not like either of my IL's but I do Love my DH and would never put him in that position.

I think that's the point really isn't it. Yes as a new mum your wishes should be respected, but your dh/p will also be a new dad, and his wishes are important too. Definately something to discuss and agree on before hand if you think it's going to be a problem. But then I wanted more visitors and was very envious of the lady in the bed next to mine who had her very large family with her all the time, who brought presents and lovely smelling food all day! I felt quite unloved in comparison (this was second time - first time dh was there a lot of the time).

Of course a new mum's wishes should be respected, but I thought what I wanted was precious time for just the 4 of us, but we actually had a big party for the whole family/friends/neighbours the night ds2 was born, and it was wonderful.

The desire I had throughout my pregnancy for quiet and privacy disapeared the minute the baby was born, and I wanted celebration, and everyone around me.