But it isn't mine!

[Wallywobbles]

Definitely more of a WWYD.

My exh is planning to take me to court for having a Facebook name using his surname. I live in France and I do not have the right to use his surname since the divorce and never have. Been divorced for nearly 9 years.

But, it's not my page. It belongs to an American lady which a cursory glance shows. It's clearly not mine. Not entirely sure how to tackle this.

Please can someone let me know what they would do. I am secretly delighted that he googles my old married name after all these years.

He is not a nice person. EA DV massively controlling etc.

You can't provide evidence it's not you though. You can put any photo, location etc. So there's really no way of proving that, unless the real owner gets in touch.

That was in response to those saying to screen shot all the details and prove it's not you

Does the system about costs work the same way in France as it does in the UK - i.e. if he loses does he have to pay your lawyer's costs?

Hahaha he is utterly batshit!

Please keep us updated OP

Hahaha let him take you to court to make an utter fool of himself then come back and update us

PM us all what the name is and we can all set up FB accounts in that name. Then he can bring us all to court

Really, you can call yourself what you like on FB. So even if it was you he wouldn't have a leg to stand on. It would be different if you were opening credit cards etc. in the name, I suppose.

Take some screen shots of the page. See a solicitor. Give them copies of all the messages from your es.
When his solicitor contacts you, get your solicitor to reply that they need to contact FB not you, as the page clearly has nothing to do with you.
Dont let himn stress you out. He doesnt have a leg to stand on.

What a prick. I'd just ignore him for now, but I know nothing about French law.

Is he taking you to court in the UK therefore under UK law? I know nothing of the law but I can't imaging anything bad will happen to you. Let him rack up some legal costs, he can't win. It will also show him to be hugely stupid and unreasonable harassing you with bogus legal suits. Twat.

Blimey, he just gets better and better every time you post.

Does he even realise just what an arse he is making himself out to be or does he think that this is normal behaviour?

It is often said that when you are in a hole, stop digging. He just sounds as though he is going to keep digging until he has completely sunk himself.

Take the precautions others have suggested, but otherwise just let him fuck himself over. He sounds as though he is doing a great job building up a reputation with the judges.

You should tell us what the name is so we can all make Facebook pages in the same name and watch him try and Sue us all...

Fuckwit

Do nothing, let him waste his time and money

You should tell us the name so we can all make a Facebook page in the same one then he could sue us all??

Seriously though, do nothing, don't reply, dont do anything at all (except updating here) and let him waste his money

Surely you can use any name you want on fb?

This is bonkers. Presumably the name law in France is only to do with things like having a passport or bank account in that name? Not a bloody FB account! And surely the onus is on him to prove it is your account? I can't see how this wouldn't be thrown out of court.

I think the name law is pretty all encompassing in France. But it's fine as I don't ever use it. If any one calls using the old name I hang up as it's a sales call.

He is convinced that he is right always no matter all evidence to the contrary. He thinks that the kids choosing not to see him is a punishment for them. Prior to the total rupture in contact he was seeing them in a visitors centre over 4 months. Visit one having not seen them for 5 months he said to them "Dont touch my body" when they went to kiss him hello.

At the end of the 4 months he wrote each of them a list of what he had found positive and negative about seeing them. He was seeing them for 2 hours every 2 weeks and thinks that his behaviour is/was appropriate.

What an utter arse.

A lot of people have not read the thread, or have stated as fact things that are not true.

Facebook name policy "The name on your profile should be the name that your friends call you in everyday life. This name should also appear on an ID or document from our ID list."

I doubt m/any people have ever read any of that Trills

After all you just sign up, doncha?

He surely has some sort of personality disorder. Any chance of getting the court to refer him for a psych check?

This time last year there was some controversy about the real name policy.]]

People saying things like "you can call yourself whatever you like on Facebook" are wrong - you should never assume that people on the internet know what they are talking about. Even when it sounds quite plausible.

People say things as if they are true, when all they have done is assume something without ever checking.

He sounds quite entertaining, OP. Why don't you suggest he runs against Trump in 2020?

Mmmm LOTS of similarities with Trump but less charm! And he doesn't have orange hair.

People saying things like "you can call yourself whatever you like on Facebook" are wrong

No... we're not wrong. You can call yourself whatever you like on FB. There's no mechanism to stop you.

The policy quoted above is just an arse-covering exercise on the part of FB. It doesn't apply in reality.

Facebook would like you to use the same name you use with your bank, utilities companies, store cards and so on, because you have more commercial value to them that way - they make their money from your data.

In reality, I've known a couple of people who had to change their name on FB, because FB said "we don't think that's a rwal name unless you've got evidence." One changed her name on FB, the other binned her account. In most cases, FB won't know unless someone dobs you in, or if it's really obvious. (Am now wondering if anyone's ever tried to open an avec count for Cunty McCuntface or similar.)

Some people have very good reason for not using their RL name online - such as if they have an ex who they don't want any contact with, or have had a stalker (not that those two things are mutually exclusive.)