But it isn't mine!

[Wallywobbles]

Definitely more of a WWYD.

My exh is planning to take me to court for having a Facebook name using his surname. I live in France and I do not have the right to use his surname since the divorce and never have. Been divorced for nearly 9 years.

But, it's not my page. It belongs to an American lady which a cursory glance shows. It's clearly not mine. Not entirely sure how to tackle this.

Please can someone let me know what they would do. I am secretly delighted that he googles my old married name after all these years.

He is not a nice person. EA DV massively controlling etc.

This is just insane :o. I'm guessing you're at the stage where "you have to laugh" isn't such an easy approach, though, after however many years of grief from him. What you could do is message the American woman and ask her to email you/him/your solicitors confirming that the FB account is hers.

I wouldn't do anything at all, just let him make himself look like a dick.

He might just be bluffing anyway to get a rise out of her and make her scared.

Well I've facebook messaged the lady. Her page is pretty tied down. I can see her friends but no photos of her - she doesn't have or I cat see the banner/personal photos on her page. Her security settings are pretty good!

Have you responded at all to the name issue? Because tempted as it may be to say nothing if he then litigates whilst he obviously can't win, if it comes to wanting your costs the courts might take the view that it could have been avoided if there was a clear unequivocal message that it wasn't you. So personally I would do a one time message either yourself or via lawyer making clear

• this isn't you
• neither he nor you have worldwide exclusivity of the name Jane Poncyarse

Then he can knock himself out with litigation if he wants but nobody can accuse you of not seeking to resolve matters.

Surely it would be up to him to prove it's your page as opposed to you having to prove it's not yours, given he is the one bringing the complaint. I would be tempted to simply state that in court, "it's not mine, I don't have anything to do with it..." if he can't prove it's yours (which he can't because it isn't) where will this go? I'm not familiar with French court systems but in the UK they would ask the complainant how they know it's your page. He's going to look like a real twat I hope they give him a bollocking in Court.

It is good that you forewarned the other party. I don't understand FB, but I'm thinking just in case he does try to get her page shut down or something via FB(I don't know if he can do this).

Well I've facebook messaged the lady. Her page is pretty tied down. I can see her friends but no photos of her - she doesn't have or I cat see the banner/personal photos on her page. Her security settings are pretty good!

Sorry for double posts. Phone says it hasn't worked so I post again n

Why would you message her?

Is this a way for him to find your 'real' facebook page? I'd be wary of saying anything like 'of course that isn't me, my page is set up as Jane Smith' in case he uses that to try and harass you further.
BTW facebook don't allow 'fake' names. But it's hard for them to tell whats fake and what isn't, as I've not used my real name on there for years - you just have to pick something real-sounding and believable...

Is there a procedure in France similar to the one we have for dealing with vexatious litigants? I think if someone is declared a vexatious litigant they have to have permission before they start court proceedings, which would stop this sort of nonsense in its tracks.

Just let him. He is the one who is going to look like a dick, not you.

As far as I understand if you go to Court in France you cannot self represent (ie be a litigant in person) so if the OP were to defend this she would have to hire a lawyer etc an awful lot of hassle for something that is a load of rubbish.
I second what a previous poster said let him know quite unequivocally that it is not you an any inconvenience or expenses he incurs after that are purely down to him, you have pointed out his error.

Got a bit of a persecution complex has he? Obviously believes that you still consider and think about him after all these years.

Sounds bonkers. I wouldn't get the third party same name person involved though - it's nothing to do with her and why would she want to get involved with someone else's acrimonious divorce?

Surely even if you had used your ex's name that's not a crime? Facebook isn't a legal/civil thing. Loads of people use false names on there.

What I find most strange about your ex is that this happens NINE years after your divorce...that is one obsessed control-freak...

If you have any lawyer friends, I'd be tempted to tout the case round (as free to you) as some light relief for them.

You could dine out for years on this one, irritating as it must be to even see the name on a letter these days.

IGNORE HIM

he will make a fool of himself and waste money

do you get any maintenance from him

I'd file his letter in the bin, let him crack on with his nonsense and enjoy your life without him

On Facebook, you can call yourself Little Fluffy Bunnikins if you like ...

OP just ignore, ignore, ignore.

No never paid any maintenance. Never paid anything at all of any sort. Wouldn't even get them socks when the youngest had bleeding feet.

My SHL (you'd all love her) says send a recommended letter back. I will eventually but I'm kind of thinking if this can get added to the February court case it'll help my case rather than his. My SHL is pretty good at making him look nuts.

The last 4 x in court he has self represented. Last time he read out a 58 page rebuttal statement. A rebuttal to SHL 2 short paragraphs. Needless to say he wasn't popular.

The judge also asked him if he would agree to let us hear the recording I made of his telephone death threat (30+ mins of drunken raging) so that's on record too. He claimed I'd written it and got friends to record it pretending to be him. But as the judge said "that sounds very like you" so he has to fess up. His explanation was that it wouldn't be in his interests to kill me.

Lucid NOT.

Planes taking off Prague here I come. I'll be back soon.

dalmatianmad Why the homophobic slur?

OP I, like many pp, would just let him get on with it and ignore him. He sounds a little obsessive though so hope you're safe? He's not likely to do anything is he?

Jeez, every time I think I've read about the ultimate twat of an ex on here, then another one comes along and tops it.

Mumsnet should do annual cockwomble of the year awards. Would be tough picking a winner though.

Oh my goodness he sounds delightful!

I'd love to be in court to watch him make a fool of himself

He sounds a delight!
Definitely just sit back and watch him make an idiot of himself again.
Enjoy Prague