But it isn't mine!

[Wallywobbles]

Definitely more of a WWYD.

My exh is planning to take me to court for having a Facebook name using his surname. I live in France and I do not have the right to use his surname since the divorce and never have. Been divorced for nearly 9 years.

But, it's not my page. It belongs to an American lady which a cursory glance shows. It's clearly not mine. Not entirely sure how to tackle this.

Please can someone let me know what they would do. I am secretly delighted that he googles my old married name after all these years.

He is not a nice person. EA DV massively controlling etc.

I hear Zuckerberg has got all day for court cases.

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Omg that hilarious! Let him piss the money away! Lol.

Anyone got Marks email address?

Ignore him you mentioned that he's controlling so this whole thing sounds like some sort of sick game

Let him spend his money. I'm assuming when it gets to court the first thing any judge will do is look at the account and will quickly come to the same conclusion as you (that it's the account of a woman in the US). He'll look like an idiot and probably get a telling off from the judge. And you get to have a bloody good laugh and so can we if you keep us updated.

Let him get on with it and prove himself to be the arsewipe that he is in court.

I wonder whether he has FB messaged the other person to tell her that she has no right to use this name. If so then I wonder what response he will have had.

I don't get how it's his name.

Surely it's like being called Jon Smith and then pursuing everyone else with the name Smith. How odd!

Christ alive, what a goon.

Let him fill his boots OP - and keep us updated!

OP, is his surname particularly rare, or is it the French equivalent of Smith?

Not that it matters - my surname is not particularly common, but there are still quite a few other "me"'s out there on the Internet - I don't mind; it makes me more anonymous, which is a good thing online. He's deluding himself if thinks there's only going to be one of a particular name combination. Leave him to waste his own money.

I hope the person in the US doesn't actually have to get involved at all, though.

Oh, and yes, shamelessly place marking here.

He sounds pretty thick to be honest.

Love that bombay

I second the 'let him do it' and also the 'but maybe get some sensible advice first'

What a knob jockey, leave him to it, he's obviously very bitter and twisted with nothing better to do!

I wouldn't dignify the letter with a reply but I would screenshot the evidence that the FB posts are clearly not you. I would then let nature take it's course, go to court and get my expenses paid if he's so desperate to get a look at you after all this time

PMSL. Let him go ahead and you should sit back and enjoy the outcome.

So basically he's doing it just to keep getting at you. Sigh.

Like the others say - get the proof that it's not you then let him waste his time. Not sure about the French system but if you can make sure you apply for costs.

I think you might have a good case for some sort of protection from harassment, as that's all this is.

Gosh I'd want to be in court for that. Just to say 'I have no idea what you are talking about, it clearly doesn't even belong to me.' With screenshots taken today from the account.

And make sure you change all your own passwords on a device that he would not have been able to put a keylogger on, just to make sure he doesn't set some random email account up in your name.

Another one to say let him get on with it. It's just too delicious not to.

Snort. Do make sure you provide quick hits of the big day in court. I can't be the only one who'd really enjoy reading them.

God, what a dick.

Let him take you to court. What a colossal waste of time and money. With any luck the judge will have him done for contempt or vexatiousness or whatever applies.

As OP said, in France you need permission to retain usage of the surname after divorce. It does work both ways, if he'd taken OPs surname, she'd have had to give permission. Other people who naturally have the same surname are fine, but as OP didn't, he could attempt to take legal action if OP was still using his name. Only a tosser would try and in this case, it's not even OP, but it does make France quite different to the UK/US where we can essentially use any name we like as long as it doesn't have nefarious purposes.

Best thing I've heard all morning

Seriously though, even if you were using his surname, he'd have better luck reporting it to Facebook as using names that aren't yours is against their rules (can't make money on the data of fake people). It's not illegal though. I'd let him pay to take you to court and simply point out that it isn't your account. I wouldn't even get your solicitor involved if it'd end up costing you.

Get evidence that it isn't your page. Then write to him recorded delivery to say that he the account clearly isn't yours, you have evidence to that effect and that if his harassment of you continues (after 9 years!?) you will Be contacting the police.

Flipping idiot.
I really hope this costs him a lot of money. You'd think he'd actually look at it properly before deciding it must be yours, but that must be far too obvious.

Another vote for don't do anything. Revel in the fuckwit that he his!

I agree with op about the control, my xdp regularly makes an idiot out of himself although thankfully he has not been stupid enough to escalate his idioticness to legal matters - not through lack of threats.

I can understand the worry you had reading that it was going to court. This happens to me, not on this level, but frequently he will try and spark my anxiety. They are pathetic really.

Ignore, it's will come to nothing