But it isn't mine!

[Wallywobbles]

Definitely more of a WWYD.

My exh is planning to take me to court for having a Facebook name using his surname. I live in France and I do not have the right to use his surname since the divorce and never have. Been divorced for nearly 9 years.

But, it's not my page. It belongs to an American lady which a cursory glance shows. It's clearly not mine. Not entirely sure how to tackle this.

Please can someone let me know what they would do. I am secretly delighted that he googles my old married name after all these years.

He is not a nice person. EA DV massively controlling etc.

Sit back let him make a fool of himself. contact his solicitor? not sure who in France, but have a letter ready to send to authorities proofing you don't use his name and leave it at that. Are you still in contact? how did you know he was going to sue? is he doing it to get a rise out of you at Christmas?

Do nothing. Let him to demonstrate his own stupidity in public by taking you to court and wasting his money!

Hahahahaaaa! I'd be tempted to be 'very scared' and take it seriously just for a fucking laugh. The bloke obviously lives on a different planet. He honestly thinks he's the only person in the world with that particular surname?
Unless it's Mr Imfuckingonads I highly doubt it. He probably came across this ladys page (amongst millions of people both real and fake) on Facebook and logically thought it simply must be you.
His solicitors hands must be on fire with rubbing them together so furiously every time he instructs them to do something. Go for it, turn up then screw him over for wasting your time.

What a cock head.

Another one with the "sit back and smile" ethos.

All over Christmas you can ignore him until you need a smirk...

Send his letter to your solicitor, give them a giggle too! Then forget it! He can only get to you if you give him head room...

And just think... after 9 years he still misses something in you that he just can't let go of... if you can ignore then he is wasting so much time and energy, let alone money, on sweet fuck all!

Maybe, for future twattery, you could just post all his letters directly to your solicitor, unopened. So you don't have to do a damn thing!

But definitely keep laughing at him!

Your lawyer sounds like a safe pair of hands (and a hoot!).

Let him take you to court. Get some popcorn in. We'll all come.

It's more along the Imthelordofthemanor but it's not rare in France. It's unusual with the same first name as mine though.

What Gazelda said. My guess is he will still continue anyway, and then you can let your solicitor slaughter him in court.

Tell your solicitor, apart from anything else, it'll make everyone in your solicitor's office piss themselves laughing!

Can you counter-sue for harcèlement moral or violences psychologiques?

Does he do that strutting round the court-room with his thumbs in his lapels thinking he's some top notch tv barrister. Please say he does!

I've no doubt it got him wondering although why he's paying so much attention to it God only knows. If you can be bothered I'd milk this situation for all it's worth. Any normal person would report it to FB and keep an eye on it for anything dodgy relating to you personally.

*ignore the 'I'd' !

Well, he's about to make himself look like a massive arse isn't he? Also, why do you even have to gather 'proof' that it's not you, surely even in France the onus is on the court system to make sure they're hauling in the right person? And regardless of what the law is in France regarding going by your exh surname, do Facebook state you have to use your real, legal name, can't you potentially make one up? I'll let you all in to a secret.....I'm not really called Isitjustmeorisiteveryoneelse.

He is properly bonkers, isn't he?! I would send all the info to your solicitors along with quite a bit of screen-shottage of this US woman's FB page just so they have everything to hand. Then, when your solicitors have stopped roaring with laughter, they have all the info they need. I would be very tempted to goad your ex a tiny bit to stir him into court action and then counter sue for harassment! He'd get a bit of a shock.

Also, can someone with legal training tell me - can he be done for being a vexatious litigant? I mean is there a proper punishment for that like a fine or (please god) a jail term?

So his problem is that there is a woman in America on Facebook who happens to have the same name as your no longer legal/valid married name?

Unless that name is extremely unusual, aren't there likely to be dozens/thousands/millions of women worldwide with that name? Is he planning to sue you in regard to all of them?

He really is very stupid isn't he?

I'd love for the courts to fly the American lady over to prove it isn't you and make him pay costs.

can you friends request her? i would be tempted to so i could ask her for a photocopy of her birth certificate or something proving its her name so i could go even further in court and prove she has the right to use that name

Has he sent you a screen shot of the account he's accusing you of having?

It might be worth you searching the name and screenshoting the 'found' list and printing it with the date, so you can show the active accounts when he started this - just in case he sets up a fake account with your profile picture at a later date.

It's more along the Imthelordofthemanor but it's not rare in France. It's unusual with the same first name as mine though.

Oops double post

This is hilarious. I mean, really? Even if it was your Facebook page, it wouldn't be illegal. People are entitled to use any name they want. No need to do anything at all.

In France you're not actually entiteld to use any name you want.

But that does not matter, considering it's NOT even your page. Just ignore him - but take the screenshots as advised above.

He seems to be using nuisance litigation as a form of harassment so get legal advice to see if there's anything you can do to protect yourself from that. Apart from that I wouldn't worry about this case as there is no basis for it. Take screenshots to prove the account is not yours. I don't see how it would be provable anyway, anyone can set up a Facebook account in a fake name. He's wasting his time and showing how pathetic he is.

That is so funny.Let him get on with it. But take note so that you can include it in any ammunition you may need in the future to get him on harrassment/ stalking etc

FWIW, one of my good friends had an acrimonious divorce. He is a lovely guy, his ex was cheating on him all over the place (she went away with one of her affairs the weekend before they got married for a last fling for example). One day when he went to work she changed all the locks then went to the police claiming that she was terrified of him because she had found 'weapons' in the loft. The police did not take it seriously, but her solicitor repeated this allegation during the divorce proceedings.Turns out this is what she 'found' below. It is fair to say that this episode damaged her quite severely.

Oh that pic ended up being bigger than I expected! But yes, the 'weapons' was a slingshot.