Absolutely fuming

[AldrinJustice]

Only posting on here for traffic.

Parked up in a car park and the owners of the car in question had seen me return to the car on my own with a baby on my hip so they obviously could see who was driving it. Was in the car with DD (14month old) Scraped someone's car as I was leaving the car park, owner of car was standing having a chat next to the car with his sister and bro in law. I didn't notice as I left, only noticed the whole family's reaction so I stopped not far from them and got out.

Immediately I realised what had happened and went over to the damage (had to leave DD in car seat) but - and this is what has me angry - the whole family, so that includes owner of car, his sister and her husband start yelling and shouting at me before I've even had a chance to say anything. It was a small scratch to the back bumper of his car.

I apologised yet his sister carries on her Tyrade of verbal abuse, saying horrible things like don't you use your mirrors, are you stupid, and some crap about how I drive a car worth £2k I told the owner to tell her to stop because I'm trying to talk to him and she's getting involved, and the owner says "no, I'm not saying it, you tell her" - all this is happening while my DD is in the other side of the car crying because of the shouting, they can all see her But don't stop. Owner of car wants my details but I said I'll take photos first.

Got back into the car, calmed DD down, called up dad and DH to come help, obviously am shaken at this point. Got back out to take photos but DD started crying again so I take her out on my hip while trying to take photos, family standing there just watching me, owner of car sneers at me and says "did you call the police or something" then laughs.

I finish taking my photos and sit in the drivers seat with DD on my lap and the door open, DH calls me and I answer but then spent the whole phonecall arguing with owners sister who feels like she has to start on me again shouting crap at me about my observation skills! I had to shout back at her this time to tell her to piss off as it's not her car, not her concern, I'm talking to the owner not her.

I've apologised, I stopped, I was going to give my details, I even offered to pay for the damage if they got a quote from the garage, yet again all that was happening was this arsehole of a woman can see I'm on my own with a baby but decides to make this whole ordeal harder for me. Accidents happen. Shit happens. I just do not understand it.

I'm now trying to feed DD a fruit pot as she's roaring hungry, has a dirty nappy but I couldn't change her. DH and dad arrive and DH gets out the car and asks who was shouting, at this point, sister and her husband get into their own car and drive off. Absolute cowards! Dad starts taking photos while DH starts arguing with the owner of the car about why they were all shouting at me but owner now wants to talk about the car and the damage!

Anyway we have exchanged details but is it a bit silly to report this altercation as verbal assault to the police? If I had my DH or someone else with me or at least not had DD with me then at least I wouldn't have been so shaken up but I was on my own and they were a family of 4 adults. I followed the relevant procedure for a RTA and it's not like I drove off. I just don't know what to do I'm so angry and so upset that this has happened. The damage to the cars isn't even a concern anymore like I said I would pay or go through insurance but I'm more upset about how they've gone and spoken to me about the whole thing. The car park was packed so plenty of witnesses but didn't get anyone's contact numbers for statements.

I'm sorry I don't know where I'm going with this post I'm just so upset. Now I have to find out what route's the best to take to deal with the damage but I don't even know where to start with that

No I don't think she should stay home - I think that's a pretty mental suggestion. I think she should put it down to a human error which I personally feel is more likely when you are caring for little ones (which was my point). I don't think she should now stay housebound 😆😆 I think she should move on and so should you 💋👍🏻

OP I'm sorry you had such a shite day and met such unpleasant people. I'm also sorry you came on here and posted about your shite day and got such a tirade of judgemental, unpleasant bile from a bunch of judgemental, unpleasant pass-agg a-holes.

And not one person has said its okay to damage other people's property, not even the op. So calm down HeCant.

Its a lump of fucking metal.

Nobody got hurt so theres no need for everyone to get all upset. The rest can all be sorted.

Looking at the responses on here, there are an awful lot of idiots with very little perspective on the important things in life.

Sorry it upset you 💐 The police won't do anything I don't think but from a repair point of view go through your insurance (I work for an insurance company) they will do all the work save u having to talk to them and make sure they r not ripping u off at the same time xxxx

You poor thing - accidents happen. They are revolting people who clearly get a kick out of being abusive.
Unfortunately, I feel that although it would be nice to report them to the police it will not go anywhere as these sorts of people always seem to get anyway with it.
I agrees with other (kind hearted) posters - pass all over to the insurers with a note on the file about how abusive they were so it is on 'record' and have a cup of tea and a cuddle with your children.
You cannot change the world - accidents happen.
All you can do it behave and teach your children how to behave in the right manner
Ps: I'm glad your dad and hubby could make it to you. Count your blessings for family. 💐💐💐💐💐

What a load of rubbish, I have never been asked whether I have children or not by a car insurer

Admiral group have been asking for at least the last 18 years. And still do now.

As do Direct Line, More Than, Liverpool Victoria.........

If you didn't realise and were going slow I'm guessing this was the sort of scrape which causes no real damage and would probably polish out no harm done, even if there was these things happen it does not make you the worse driver in the world and them getting nasty and verbal about it is completely unnecessary, you stopped and offered your details you could have driven off, I'm going to mention though - hubby was in a similar situ pulling out into stationary traffic wasn't sure if he'd brushed someone's car couldn't see any damage didn't know if he'd hit it or not, but stopped gave his details anyway and carried on - next thing he knows they're claiming back and neck damage, not been working etc etc ...turned out she was in the habit of making false insurance claims and the insurance company took her to court l'm just wondering if all the gestating and shouting was to make you think you'd done something... was there any damage at all to your car?

Haven't read full thread but they sound like a right lot of arseholes. Accidents happen, no need for all the shouting especially when you had your DD with you. Unfortunately some people think it's their right. Big difference when you had someone arrive to help you out. Typical of cowardly bullies. 💐🍰

What makes you think that the owners of the car in question had seen you return to your car (with a baby on your hip)? Why would they? It was very observant of you to notice their reactions especially since you didn’t notice that you’d scraped their car but you did notice their reactions as you left. You said that you immediately realised what had happened – really? If you realised what had happened, I have a sneaking suspicion that you knew what you had done and were attempting to get away with it. They could have been reacting to anything but as you say yourself, immediately you realised you had damaged their car.

I can’t say I’m surprised that they were yelling and shouting, as they see it, someone has just hit their parked vehicle and attempted to drive off. Personally I wouldn’t have shouted, I’d be on the phone to the police already. People do get cross when an accident happens and when the perpetrator tries to get away with it naturally they will have vented their anger. Having to organise repairs to the vehicle damage is an inconvenience and could mean that they need to take time off work to take the car in for repair and they could be without their car for a day or 2 which also could affect their ability to work. You might like to consider the impact you’ve probably made on the car owners own life.

Another thing, I definitely would not leave my baby in the car whilst this argument is going on. Clearly you were distracted by events unfolding and bearing in mind you didn’t notice that you’d ‘scraped’ the other vehicle – how would you notice if anything happened to your baby????

You didn’t even have to get out of your car, you could pass your insurance details through your window and be on your way.

I do feel sorry for your DH & Dad, I hope they weren’t really busy at the time.

Basically you messed up, was told off and now you’re throwing your dummy out of the pram. Clearly you are a high maintenance attention seeker.

Btw this started as a family of 3 adults arguing with you but at the end of your post they have become a family of 4.

I think you’re lying about the entire charade and are looking for some sympathy to feed your attention seeking self.

As for reporting the matter to the police – really? You’re the one who attempted a crime. There could be people needing the resources of the police because they are the victim of a crime like rape, murder, theft, paedophilia etc etc. People like me don’t pay taxes for people like you to have a hissy fit and then get the police to attend.

PS: Women have fought for generations to be seen as equal to men and certainly not to be seen as poor weak things that could cry at any moment because someone shouted and there was a baby on their hip.

Are you mature enough to have children?

Get a grip!

Real women are invincible and as soonas you grow up, you could be too.

l'm just wondering if all the gestating and shouting was to make you think you'd done something... was there any damage at all to your car?

OP has already said there is paint crossover so she did do it

Wow Sweet, that's a lot of fantasising you've done there. That's some imagination you have.

Sounds like a nasty, bad tempered bully to me. Cowards are always bullies. Try not to be too upset, you did the right thing. Thank goodness your DH and DD came to the rescue!

Asking the op if she is mature enough to have children then told to get a grip and grow up as real women are invincible

Gosh, Sweetserendipity that's an incredibly angry post. Why so vitriolic towards the OP? Was it really necessary to be so nasty to her? Anyone would think it was your car that got damaged.

It fucking amazes me how some of you are so bloody self righteous. You don't give two fucks about the upset caused to OP and her DD and instead revel in the opportunity to add to her upset by spouting spiteful and nasty comments about how right the other party were because after all their car got a minor scratch and that means it's OK to intimidate and abuse a woman, in front of her young child, who made a mistake. Fuck the OP, fuck the OPs child as long as you get to stick the knife in a bit more and feel great about it, that's the important thing here.

OP I have reversed from my drive then questioned whether I had caught my dh's car, parked behind on the opposite side of the street. I had properly dented the door but the crumple must have been so quiet that I didnt realise.
The adults who faced you were awful. What is it with some people? They feel they have to jump on the defensive, complain loudly as if they were on some youtube channel or Jeremy Kyle TV. I do feel sorry for you and well done for holding it together in public.
Some of the questionns and comments on this thread are ridiculous. As if you had time to react in a certain way when you had the surprise of a car accident followed by abuse. Definitely a police case!

Sweet, your angry and bitter post says way more about you than it does about OP.

Best advice DW was given by her cousin (who is a copper) in this sort of situation is to write your name , registration and insurance company on a bit of paper , hand it over and leave . No address, no phone number etc so the psychos can't look you up or harass you.

I bet this lot would have calmed down, looked at their policy excess and decided it wasn't worth pursuing. You'd never have heard from them and that would have been the end of it.

Sweet seriously, it looks like you're bringing your own shit here.

Chill out and stop being a cock

I have been involved in 4 car accidents that have not been my fault (either they ran in the back of me or scraped my car on a car park.

On none of those occasions did I feel
It necessary to shout abuse at the perpetrators. Indeed on one occasion I reassured the driver (who had a child with her) that a piece of metal could be repaired, the important thing is no one was hurt & that's what we have insurance for.

Sweet seriously, it looks like you're bringing your own shit here.
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Chill out and stop being a cock* 

Hahahahaha^ This!

I think you might win wanker of the internet tonight, sweet^. Although you keep on thinking dreaming you're invincible there! Because that won't end in disaster!

Just wanted to give you my sympathy. I've been involved in traffic accidents once my fault, three times others - two when stationary! Never did I shout or be shouted at. It's abusive bullying.
Years ago on my way to work, I got hit by car. I was crossing road - no crossings nearby and car pulled out and didn't see me. It wasn't bad, luckily, it clipped my elbow and I hit ground. Man got out and started yelling at me as I lay on road a bit shocked. It was others running up telling him it was his fault and to back off that finally got him to stop.
Moral of the tale? Basically some people, are arses and horrid and get off on being abusive.

I've not read all the recent posts but... I believe the OP was most upset at the abuse levied at her by the other driver's sister. I would say the way the other party acted had nothing to do with their car being hit, they would have acted this way in any circumstance. They sound the type of people to rant over someone accidentally queue jumping or bumping into them. I've come across a few in my time and you learn to shrug it off and realise they have the problem, they're angry for their own personal reasons or just ignorant. Imagine how miserable their lives must be OP. It's not nice to be shouted at but you did the right thing. You kept your dignity. Let it go.