Ear piercing WWYD

[Tryingtostayyoung]

Hi all. Not really an AIBU but a WWYD.
DD is 3, 4 in March. She has expressed multiple times over the last month or so that she would like her ears pierced as one of her Xmas presents. Now I will admit that I have done something in wrong by nodding along and saying ok without speaking to DH, this is because we ALWAYS said that we wouldn't get it done just because we think it's looks pretty but that when she starts saying she wants it (if she ever did) then she can. Admittedly I should have checked first.
Today we were having a conversation about Xmas presents for her and I said, "well one present is her ears pierced so we can buy her some earrings to unwrap" he then starts to explain that he didn't actually think we were doing it and that it turns out when she had said it to him about doing it at Xmas he had been saying we'll see.
So his reasoning is that 1.He doesn't actually think she understands what she is asking for and that she doesn't realise it will actually really hurt (she is quite a sensitive emotional child) and worries that as she is quite fickle she won't understand that it doesn't just go away when she gets bored of it. No.2 He in general doesn't like it on children so young but admits that if No.1 wasn't an issue for him then he wouldn't mind No.2 IYSWIM.

My issue is that I have now told her she can (I know I know) and she is going to be really upset. We've left it as we'll discuss it again early December but I know were going to be back here. WWYD?!

I have experience of instances at Claire's where there has been a problem.

There are many of these instances and some are really REALLY horrible.

My DD's are 2 and 4 and haven't asked about ear piercing yet...possibly because I haven't got anything pierced....but if they did it would definitely not be happening at primary.

6mo is deemed 'old enough'... Who knew?!

Claire's are pretty much the cancer of the ear piercing world.

How offensive Beauty.
Comparing a horrific and often deadly illness to a chain of retailers, there are better ways to describe your obvious hate of Claire's but that's low.

It wasn't meant to be offensive, it's descriptive of how they're viewed in our industry, but I apologise if it upset you Zoflora.

It wasn't meant to be offensive, it's descriptive of how they're viewed in our industry, but I apologise if it upset you Zoflora.

Apology accepted, I'm attending a funeral in the morning and maybe it's touched a nerve as the lady died from C ( my partners grandmother ) thank you.

Zoflora, I'm so sorry to hear that I should probably think before I post a bit more!

I hope the funeral goes as well as it can x

Thanks beauty :)
Were forecasted snow! North west. Can't see it somehow, I probably have over reacted but once again I appreciate your apology. She will have a beautiful send off :)

Parenting of the year award to you then Astro

Personally I think that age is too young. I would not let my daughter do it and would say No and she'd have to live with the disappointment, which she'd get over and survive.

I don't have a problem with it. I had mine done when I was 18 months old and they are perfectly symmetrical!

I had an additional hole in one ear when I was 15 and it actually doesn't hurt at all with a gun, just sounds loud.

As long as you keep them clean etc its much easier to get them done now as when she goes to school she can just take them out/not wear them on PE days rather than having tape over them or waiting till the summer holidays. I have a little boy of 21 months but if I had a girl I might get them done now.

My DSD was 5 when she got hers done. It was a disaster. She hated the pain of turning them everyday and the feel of having something in her ears. We managed to remove one after 3 months when they were supposedly healed and she wouldn't let anyone go near the other one for another 8 weeks. She went back to Year 1 with one earring in looking like a pirate. Eventually we managed to get the second one out but it caused much, much upset. Three is too little. Try 13 instead.

No it's chavy and unnecessary. I'd simply say no. End of.

Actually doesn't hurt at all with a gun - It does hurt!!!!

Your DH is right, shes too young to fully understand what it is she is asking for. My mum had mine done when I was young, she took them out to clean my ears or swap the earring and I refused point blank to let her put them back in.
I worked in a well known high street jewellers and qualified at piercing and they wouldn't allow the piercers to do childrens ears that young. I think the minimum age was 7 or 8 years old.