To not give up our bedroom or DD's for guests

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We live in a small 3-bed. We have 1 bedroom, DD (15months) has another and the 3rd is an office/storage room. There's also a double sofa bed in the lounge but it's open plan with the kitchen so not ideal.

We usually give up our bedroom and sleep in with DD as there's a double bed in her room (it used to be guestroom). But I'm sick of all the work this entails- moving all our stuff, changing bedlinen, deep cleaning en-suites then changing it all back a few days later And then disrupted sleep as we wake DD up sleeping in her room. She's just started sleeping through in her own room and backtracks when we have guests.

I think we should explain situation to potential guests, offer them the office/storage room if they don't mind a campbed, and suggest they book a hotel if they want a proper bed.

Guests are mainly family members and close friends. I want to be able to enjoy visits instead of hours spent cleaning and swapping rooms around. But DH loves having guests and thinks IABVU.

AIBU?

You can take them with you! But it's true they are not cheap...

Yes the family bathroom is always clean as we rarely use it. A quick wipe down would have it ready for guests and would be for their exclusive use.

The office is a small double but has cardboard boxes stacked along one wall (we moved from a larger house and don't want to get rid of stuff until we move again, as hopefully next house will be more spacious). Unfortunately there's nowhere else to store these boxes. There are 2 desks. No-one needs to work in there while guests are here. There's a double air bed (camping bed) but it takes up all the remaining floor space. Also the office is at the far end of the landing and you need to go down 3 steps to reach it (so not ideal for bathroom access in dark) though there is a nightlight on landing.

Glofrog I love the design of that study bed!

Jesus, just find somewhere else for the cardboard boxes - loft, cellar, garage - either yours or a relative/friend who lives nearby and would be happy to store them for you. Although I always think if you can do without something for a year, you don't need it.

Do you use both desks all the time? Could you change one for a desk that folds up or folds away?

Given that your office is actually a double bedroom you could clearly have a small sofa bed in there.

Just declutter like I said in my first post FFS.

And so the hell what if they have to negotiate a few steps to go to the bathroom?!

Sorry you can't stay over because we'd rather keep a bunch of cardboard boxes in our spare room

What is in these boxes?! Are you hoarding crap?

You're making rubbish excuses TBH.

We are in the middle of cleaning out our attic conversion to make it a proper guest room. I like having guests over! It takes effort but worth it.

OP, you can do as you like and save the "big bright" double bedroom with ensuite for a tiny child and the study for your cardboard boxes and send your guests to a b&b.

But if I were one such guest I wouldn't visit you again. I wouldn't feel at all welcome. As I said on the last such thread, it's like making yourself a fry up and giving guests a bowl of cereal.

To be honest, it does come across as though you are setting up every possible obstacle so that you can justify not having visitors. If it makes you so anxious that this amount of wrangling and effort, it would probably be worth discussing it with your husband again. Visits from friends and family shouldn't require anything like this much pointless work.

What's the design of the spare double bed? Is it a frame that you could store boxes under, or a divan with drawers that you can store things in? Do you really need all the stuff?

I am aware that I'm becoming ridiculously over invested in this thread, but I just can't agree that there's no solution!

Im confused you say your DH loves having guests but you also say he works long hours to the point he can't even help with the room sorting - so are they his guests or yours, since it sounds as if he isn't even around much to do the hosting/entertaining?!

I don't like having guests much so I don't encourage it but in your shoes tbh Id tell him to sort the rooms/have DD in with me. Why give yourself loads to do, there are 2 adults in the household

I would find it really bizarre to put my kid in a small room to keep the big nice one open for guests who came every few months. That's just weird

I agree, find someplace to put the boxes and get a little sofa bed or just leave it as is and put the mattress in there just when guests are staying.

I have a friend who is like you, OP. Guests are just not fun or relaxing for her. It doesn't make her a bad person.

For those who are saying the DH should sort out the place for guests. He works and doesn't have much time. How lovely a partner one would be to not try and help facilitate something that our partner liked. Especially if one is a SAHP or works fewer hours

The OP's excuses are pretty feeble TBH.