How much would you judge this family at the playground?

[RedStripeLass]

Sunday afternoon. Family of three, Mum, Dad and daughter aged 3 arrive at a small, quiet playground. Within seconds she drops her banana and starts shouting loudly "fucks sake, fucking hell" etc .

Then she goes to get on the roundabout and a younger child about 1-2 ish tries to get on to. She screams and pushes him off saying "no babies" he starts crying and her mum apologises profusely, very embarrassed and tells her dd to apologise too.

Mum and daughter then go on to play happily in the playground whilst dad hangs back on the grass with a beer and a joint. Mum tries occasionally to get him to join in their games.

I'm ashamed to say this a snapshot of me and my family. After starting a thread elsewhere I've become increasingly worried about our family and am gearing up the courage to talk with our health visitor today but I'm very afraid that she'll escalate it.

Honest opinions please, would you judge us if you were at the playground that day?

", I would assume you were a couple of benefit losers"

I would have left the park with my little ones.

I'd call the police. Smoking drugs in a children's playground?

I would judge. Sorry.

The good news is, however, that you can seemingly see just where it's going wrong. That's the very first step you needed to make.

Now start enforcing some new rules and behaviours lady!!

Good luck to you and your family.

"Benefit losers"? What an ignorant comment, Oops.

I would judge. Heavily. I'd go as far as ringing the police or social services if I'm being honest. I'd find the language and attitude of the child shocking sure, but the main issue there is dad's behaviour and it'd seem mum lacks the confidence/ability to put not put her child in that situation at all.

Hope you do speak to your health visitor, they can actually help with various support systems. Best of luck.

If I saw a parent with a child smoking pot and drinking, I'd phone the police to report welfare issues. Your 'partner' is a fucking disgrace!

If he's in a 'bad place' go to the GP and get real help instead of 'self medicating'- you should be disgusted with yourself for allowing that around your child. And the swearing is vile, I'd judge and report.

We never know the pressures other people are on so should treat them with compassion and kindness and being English probably say nothing. Internally most of us would be thinking - ah law breakers (drugs).

Do you know what, it doesn't really matter if we would judge you. What does matter is that you sound like you're judging yourself, that you know it's not how you want to live, and that means it's time to change.

Why has this thread kicked off again a month later?

"He's depressed and in a bad place."

Join the club. No excuse for drinking beer and smoking weed in the park.

I was just going to ask that Lancelottie??

Laughing at all the posters tell op that the swearing is f.....g vile!

I was confused reading your OP, I thought the mum was swearing and pushing!

I'd be judging hard and probably moving my child away from your family. Sorry. Booze and drugs do NOT belong near a playground. The child swearing would suggest she overhears it regularly, which also hoiks my judgy pants high.

I'd judge, I'm sorry to say. Not you, you addressed the swearing, and dealt with the pushing (which if it had happened with none of the other things, I wouldn't have given a second thought to - these things happen, and you handled it well); but I'd definitely judge the dad, and wonder why you were with him.

I hope you get the help you need.

I'm afraid I would judge both parents, but not the child for swearing. The dad for not parenting properly and thinking it is even remotely acceptable to drink and smoke at a playground and in front of his daughter, and the mum for allowing this to happen. The child I would feel sorry for, being exposed to all this at such a young influential age. She deserves better.

Sorry OP. I think you knew the answer to your question - it is impossible not to judge.

The 3 yr old obviously hears that language used because she used it in its proper context. It's not great. It's not the worst thing in the world, but it's not great.

The pushing off the roundabout is within normal 3 yr old behaviour I would say, and the mum made the kid say sorry, so I would probably not think too much about that.

Dad sitting at the side smoking and drinking and not joining in- I would think he was a pretty poor excuse for a dad and would feel sorry for the mum and the kid.

Each thing separately would bother me only slightly, all of them together would make me think that was a family to avoid. Sorry. (But I would blame the dad)

But then I've got three rowdy boys of my own to contend with so I'm not really in a position to be judging anyone else in real life, apart from the drugs.

I don't know why this has been resurrected a month later

And the OP has left him anyway.