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Original poster

To tell this bride to go swivel?!

290 replies

Badger84 · 28/10/2016 19:30

A friend of a friend is getting married and she had asked me to do her makeup as a favour. I am not a MUA but I enjoy hair and makeup and have a huge selection of makeup. I was shocked but agreed when I highlighted the point that I am not professional and she was happy with that.

5 makeup trials later and we have come to the understanding that she has unrealistic expectations of what I can provide. Her SIL has been at each of these trials and completely picked apart what I have done. The brides style is quite errr alternative (think gothic) so I've found it incredibly hard to recreate the look she wants. We finally came to a compromise and the bride was happy.

We went to the hen do previous weekend and the SIL kept making comments about makeup. Today I have received a message from the bride basically saying if I didn't want to do the makeup then I didn't have to 🤔

Not sure how to reply? AIBU to be annoyed that I have spent over 5 hours with the bride, using my makeup FOR FREE and now she is essentially ditching me. The wedding is next week! My DH says I should be relieved but I can't help but feel really annoyed!

OP posts:
LagunaBubbles · 06/01/2017 10:12

Shame OP never came back to update.

Olympiathequeen · 06/01/2017 10:25

Think of it as a lucky escape.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 06/01/2017 10:27

what this poster said, and then some

phew! Glad you've offered as through the trials I felt we had a miss match of styles and I really didn't want you to feel obligated to go with me. Hope you find someone more suitable

then add

I would advise you put aside a budget though, as most professional make up artists obviously wont work for free, I advise to budget an additional £300. good luck

Quintessing · 06/01/2017 10:35

Ah! It worked, I got an email notification!

So, if we do @Badger84 she may come back and tell us what happened?

Kirstyinnorway · 06/01/2017 10:39

Ugh guys I thought this was an update and got really excited!

HmrTron · 06/01/2017 10:47

I'd be very relieved and grateful! Imagine what will be said on the day by her/sil??! They sound very ungrateful. Let someone else deal with them.

GlacindaTheTroll · 06/01/2017 10:50

"So, if we do @Badger84 she may come back and tell us what happened?"

Yes.

And that's exactly what the MNer who reanimated the thread did, and said she'd done!

QuimReaper · 06/01/2017 11:17

But Badger has to activate the @-mention setting for it to work, no?

Or is it activated by default and she'd have to deactivate? Which she still might've done.

I need an update too now!

Original poster
Badger84 · 06/01/2017 12:07

Hello! I completely forgot to come back and update, so I shall do that now! Sorry!

So we had agreed that I would not do the makeup, via text and to be honest I was left with a very bitter taste in my mouth about it all and didn't want to go to the wedding but my curiosity got the better of me and I thought I would be the bigger person

I don't know whether the bride had done her own makeup or the SIL had done it but quite frankly it was hideous (and that's not me being bitter, just honest) She had very very dark purple eyeshadow on with lots of eyeliner and mascara, no base so looked very pale and a dark pink lipstick on. I have to say that a lot of people took the piss out of her when the photos went on Facebook.

The wedding was almost a carbon copy of my wedding and I realised that all the questions she had been asking me at the makeup trials was to get information for her own wedding. She even stood up and did a speech (as I did at my wedding) and copied the first part of my speech!!

Later on in the reception I noticed the SIL kept staring me in a really uncomfortable way, almost giving me evils. I then had her husband approach me in the evening reception to ask where I had got my shoes and dress from as his wife liked my style! However the SIL continued to look at me like I was a piece of dirt.

Since the wedding the bride has been trying to copy me in every way - for example asking friends of mine where I buy my clothes, we changed our car and she told her new husband she wanted the same, she went on honeymoon to the same place we did and most recently had been asking my mother what kind of boxsets I watch on Netflix so she can do the same Confused

Needless to say I've got very pissed off with this and no longer have contact with her and have told close friends and family not to discuss me with her because I find her incredibly odd to be honest!!

OP posts:
TheMaddHugger · 06/01/2017 12:12

She is wayyyyyyy Creepy.

((((((((((Hugs)))))))))) Thanks for the update.

Original poster
Badger84 · 06/01/2017 12:14

My husband says it's like single white female for married women Grin

OP posts:
TheMaddHugger · 06/01/2017 12:32

He's right. Be careful Ok ? Sad

TheMaddHugger · 06/01/2017 12:33

I wonder what else of 'Yours' she wants

Original poster
Badger84 · 06/01/2017 12:35

Probably my husband and he jokingly said today that maybe that's why she wants to watch "The Affair" on Netflix to get some tips!!!!

OP posts:
RogueStar01 · 06/01/2017 12:37

creepsville...i hope you told her completely incorrect information about where your dress and shoes came from!

LagunaBubbles · 06/01/2017 12:38

Thanks for coming back, I can only imagine how awful that make up was! Grin
However this sounds quite creepy, I know what they say about imitation etc but this...Shock

AlpacaPicnic · 06/01/2017 12:41

Great update! I'm a terrible person so I would probably try and mess with her head a bit, start making up 'unique' clothes shops that you found online etc... but I think avoiding her is honestly the best course of action.

She sounds a bit pathetic to be honest - it's one thing to be inspired by someone you admire but another thing entirely to copy but be so blatent and unpleasant about it.

LuluLovesFruitcakes · 06/01/2017 12:41

Keep coming back to this thread to see if the update had been poster - YES!!

Her make-up sounds a bit...much !

She sounds really creepy though OP - be careful with that one!!

DartmoorDoughnut · 06/01/2017 12:41

Bloody hell that escalated!

Snowflake65 · 06/01/2017 12:43

Thanks for coming back OP - but yes agree keep your distance from her, she is very odd.

SpartacusWoman · 06/01/2017 12:46

Hold on, hold on, hold on.

If you put @ before a username, that person gets an email alerting them they've been mentioned? How long as that been in place and how didn't I know? :)

RuggerHug · 06/01/2017 12:48

Anyone else think SIL is giving evils because she's in love with bride and bride only has eyes for OP/talks about how wonderful she is all the time? No? Just me? Grin

MadisonAvenue · 06/01/2017 12:49

Bloody hell, I'd missed this thread originally so was really glad that you've taken the time to update it!

What a creepy situation - be careful.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 06/01/2017 12:53

YDNBU. Its her sil. I'd be more annoyed at. Sitting there like a Parrott on your shoulder passing fucking comments, when you're doing someone a favor. How did you not tell her to to STFU.

TheMaddHugger · 06/01/2017 12:55

Badger84 Fri 06-Jan-17 12:35:43
Probably my husband and he jokingly said today that maybe that's why she wants to watch "The Affair" on Netflix to get some tips!!!!

But she just got married Oi <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Angry" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/angry-BLHnmhGV.png"> at bridezilla
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