To tell this bride to go swivel?!

[Badger84]

A friend of a friend is getting married and she had asked me to do her makeup as a favour. I am not a MUA but I enjoy hair and makeup and have a huge selection of makeup. I was shocked but agreed when I highlighted the point that I am not professional and she was happy with that.

5 makeup trials later and we have come to the understanding that she has unrealistic expectations of what I can provide. Her SIL has been at each of these trials and completely picked apart what I have done. The brides style is quite errr alternative (think gothic) so I've found it incredibly hard to recreate the look she wants. We finally came to a compromise and the bride was happy.

We went to the hen do previous weekend and the SIL kept making comments about makeup. Today I have received a message from the bride basically saying if I didn't want to do the makeup then I didn't have to 🤔

Not sure how to reply? AIBU to be annoyed that I have spent over 5 hours with the bride, using my makeup FOR FREE and now she is essentially ditching me. The wedding is next week! My DH says I should be relieved but I can't help but feel really annoyed!

Don't be goaded into an argument. Agree with a reply like the one suggested by mickeysminnie but perhaps make her aware of your feelings about the time. "You're right, I have spent a lot of time and make-up on this but the most important thing is that you get a look that is perfect for you on your big day. I'm pleased that at least I was able to help you you crystallise your style. No hard feelings and best of luck with the make-up."

Oooh, is the wedding this Saturday op? That's given me something to look forward to from Friday afternoon onwards

Yes, be sure to go and have your phone turned off on the morning. If someone comes and taps you on the shoulder asking you to come and do a last-minute touchup, reply sweetly that you are terribly sorry but you don't have your kit with you and you were under the impression that you are only attending as a guest. Definitely no gift. Looking forward to hearing how it goes this Saturday.

< impatient waiting>

Not placemarking.

I'd be tempted to text back "Your comments are akin to Mona Lisa blaming Leonardo Da Vinci because her face looked a bit dull. He had to work with what sat in front of him, and like me, he did his best but he couldn't work miracles" burn baby burn
I bet it's the sil texting on the bride's behalf.

I can't wait to hear the update and how the lovely brides makeup turns out... Or doesn't...

Will be an interesting update to wait for:)

Cheeky cow.

She was making it your decision, so she didn't have to say you were no longer needed.

Coward's way out.

Badger, say "I'm glad I was part of the five hour process we went through to find your own wedding look. Hope your groom recognises you with a no makeup look"

Then spit in her drink. And then give her groom a BJ wearing waterproof signature black lipstick, like in Muriel's wedding

Eek how very galling to have someone behave like that, even if egged on by her stb-sil!

Hope the wedding went well for you :)

^And then give her groom a BJ wearing waterproof signature black lipstick, like in Muriel's wedding

She's looking for an out. I'd give it to her. I would reply and say that as you are not a professional makeup artist you would completely understand if she wants to get someone else to do it, otherwise you are more than happy to oblige. It's definitely not worth falling out over.

"No problem. I'll pop the bill for the 5 hours in with your wedding card. See you Saturday"

Updates please!!!

You make sure you drink enough free booze to make up for it OP

placemarking..

its today, isnt it?

I really hope you go to the wedding, even if it's just so that you can report back to us!

Oooh what a cheeky bitch. I'm excited to hear what the wedding was like.

I'm glad I can just be a guest now instead of being under pressure to do your silly emo face

The replies you have on here are golden OP.

I hope you went to the wedding, drank enough free booze to sink a small battleship and consumed your own body weight in scoff (and took tupperware for the stuff you couldn't manage to eat on the spot!).

I will also be very disappointed in you if you took a present - a tasteful card, wishing them well and saying that you are delighted to gift her your make-ip practise sessions for free, should be more than enough.

If there are any unopened bottles left lying about, bring them home for us.

*make-up, not make-ip

So what happened OP? Did you go to the wedding?

Yes update please. Did you go op?