To tell this bride to go swivel?!

[Badger84]

A friend of a friend is getting married and she had asked me to do her makeup as a favour. I am not a MUA but I enjoy hair and makeup and have a huge selection of makeup. I was shocked but agreed when I highlighted the point that I am not professional and she was happy with that.

5 makeup trials later and we have come to the understanding that she has unrealistic expectations of what I can provide. Her SIL has been at each of these trials and completely picked apart what I have done. The brides style is quite errr alternative (think gothic) so I've found it incredibly hard to recreate the look she wants. We finally came to a compromise and the bride was happy.

We went to the hen do previous weekend and the SIL kept making comments about makeup. Today I have received a message from the bride basically saying if I didn't want to do the makeup then I didn't have to 🤔

Not sure how to reply? AIBU to be annoyed that I have spent over 5 hours with the bride, using my makeup FOR FREE and now she is essentially ditching me. The wedding is next week! My DH says I should be relieved but I can't help but feel really annoyed!

"make sure your phone is inexplicably silent on the morning of the wedding...."

Tondelaya's made a good point. Make sure you're not available to patch things up if it all goes horribly wrong on the morning of the wedding.

Be happy you got an exit, OP.

Ohhhh.

Slapzilla.

She knows she's being unreasonable and is trying to goad you into a response

Are you still going to the wedding, op?

A very wise friend of mine says that you need to charge for your services even if it is a small amount and people do not value things that are free. She is totally right! I have a friend who is a florist and she says that the people who want to pay a pittance are the hardest work.

I'm still shocked that you gave her five hours of your time with bitchy SIL!

You must be a saint! I'd have bailed after 2.

Utter Bitch, how do you know her?

Oh! Just read your updates. The cheeky mare!

I would go to the wedding (just to make a point) and then sack her off.

You should reply with, your skin is so bad I HAD to cake the foundation on to make you look half decent.

What a cheeky cunt!

'Did you mean to be so rude?' should cover the latest response.

If you don't want to spend any more time, money and effort on this wedding then don't. It's a shame you'll be having a nasty tummy upset/a streaming cold and/or tonsilitis on the big day.

So you didn't reply, "Go swivel." then?
I am so disappointed. That would have been funny.

Sounds like it'd be s lucky escape tbh.

ive just replied saying "did you mean to be so rude" missmoo and she replied saying "I feel like I'm wasting your time" lol

"oh no! I'm sorry, I totally misconstrued. I was basing what I did on your signature style, and what you told me you wanted...I didn't realise you were after a new look for the big day. Lucky escape for us both eh! Have a fab day. "

I really think you have too recommend the SIL now, since she knows so much about makeup. No, I've not RTFT yet.

Wow. Say "that surprises me, I'd thought you would want that face covered" then block her number

Ok, not really. But don't bother anymore and don't go to the wedding. Presumably you were only invited because you were doing the makeup seeing as you are a friend of a friend?

"I feel like I'm wasting your time"

What as opposed to the 5 hours of your time she has already wasted! I'd have to say that to her tbh. Probably "these seconds texting are nothing to the 5 hours of my time you wasted dicking about with your makeup"

Sadly you've been used. No more freebies for friends of friends

I think I'd have to go to the wedding:

It's a bit rude to drop out now and I'd want the moral high ground.

I'd have to see the make up in the day...

Reply and say you are wasting my time, five hours of it to be exact, not to mention my make up. I was asked to do it for you as a favour for X and explained from the outset that I am not professional. I am very sorry you couldn't have a face to face conversation with me about how you felt and quite frankly it wouldn't matter how much foundation you had on your face, it wouldn't cover both of them.

Then block her, you don't need freeloaders like that in your life!

"I feel like I'm wasting your time"

Tell her she's not, she's been great entertainment on MN

You've totally dodged a bullet though.

Just go to the wedding and eat more than your fair share of the buffet to even things up This seems to be my go to advice re:getting payback at a wedding!

Was that from the bride? Your friend? OR the SIL? If it was your friend reconsider your friend status, what a B! If it was SIL still go, eat all the food and drink all the wine and hope your friend knew nothing about this horribleness!

What a cheeky bitch
Lucky escape!

You do realise you HAVE to go to wedding don't you- if only to report back about how bad her makeup looked!

Yes, based on your updates she is a total cow. Just ignore her, OP.