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To tell this bride to go swivel?!

290 replies

Badger84 · 28/10/2016 19:30

A friend of a friend is getting married and she had asked me to do her makeup as a favour. I am not a MUA but I enjoy hair and makeup and have a huge selection of makeup. I was shocked but agreed when I highlighted the point that I am not professional and she was happy with that.

5 makeup trials later and we have come to the understanding that she has unrealistic expectations of what I can provide. Her SIL has been at each of these trials and completely picked apart what I have done. The brides style is quite errr alternative (think gothic) so I've found it incredibly hard to recreate the look she wants. We finally came to a compromise and the bride was happy.

We went to the hen do previous weekend and the SIL kept making comments about makeup. Today I have received a message from the bride basically saying if I didn't want to do the makeup then I didn't have to 🤔

Not sure how to reply? AIBU to be annoyed that I have spent over 5 hours with the bride, using my makeup FOR FREE and now she is essentially ditching me. The wedding is next week! My DH says I should be relieved but I can't help but feel really annoyed!

OP posts:
ohtheholidays · 28/10/2016 21:36

I'd go to the wedding and I'd spend the day going oh look they've chosen the same church that we got married in,oh look they've picked the same venue we had for our wedding,oh look you picked the same flowers,button holes,cake,dress(what ever she's copied off your wedding)that we had for our wedding.

It's lovely that you like my tast and style so much Halloween Grin but then maybe that's me just being a bit of a witch Halloween Wink

ohtheholidays · 28/10/2016 21:37

taste*

tictactoad · 28/10/2016 21:37

Ask her why it's taken five hours for her to decide she didn't like the style and report back to us immediately

RentANDBills · 28/10/2016 21:40

Go to the wedding. Particularly if there is a free bar.
I personally need updates on her make up on the day!

QueenLizIII · 28/10/2016 21:42

Go so she doesnt get to slag you off for not going

drink out of the free bar and get royally pissed.

user1477427207 · 28/10/2016 21:43

I read that as 'tell this bride to go swive' which is an old word meaning 'shag' lol

FluffyFluffster · 28/10/2016 21:48

Go to the wedding - for the food if nothing else :D

MrsJamin · 28/10/2016 21:54

Wow how entitled and bridezilla of her! I wouldn't go, I can't see how she sees you as a friend! Not even a thank you!

ThoraGruntwhistle · 28/10/2016 22:15

'Well, the five hours I gave up and all the make up were rather wasted, yes. But as long as you're happy with your decision. I won't be available on your wedding morning if you find it's not as easy you thought. Best of luck.'

didireallysaythat · 28/10/2016 22:27

"Yes it is five hours of my life I'll never get back, but looking on the bright side I've enjoyed sharing it on a chat board and I know now to charge up front for my time."

paddypants13 · 28/10/2016 22:35

Make sure you switch your phone off on the morning of the wedding op!

Lottapianos · 28/10/2016 22:36

I like Thora's message Grin and do not, under any circumstances, be available to fix any disasters on the morning of the wedding

2kids2dogsnosense · 28/10/2016 22:51

Just go to the wedding and eat more than your fair share of the buffet to even things up

And take tupperware for any leftovers Wink Grin

RortyCrankle · 28/10/2016 22:56

What a bridezilla. I wouldn't turn my phone off - I would enjoy reading the begging messages to fix her make up on the morning of her wedding and ignoring them - or you could reply 'are you on glue?' Grin

BerylStreep · 28/10/2016 22:57

Seriously though, just don't respond further and block her number. I wouldn't bother going to the wedding.

paddypants13 · 28/10/2016 23:02

You're right Rorty, a much better solution!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 28/10/2016 23:02

Bit late now but 'no problem , you've been terrific entertainment tonight' would be a great reply.Grin

ShelaghTurner · 28/10/2016 23:03

I'd reply thank fuck for that you tight arsed user then switch your phone off, buy chocolate and wine and spend the day in front of Netflix and not at her rotten wedding.

Only1scoop · 28/10/2016 23:09

'To be honest I found the five practice sessions a little challenging, usually my brides only need a couple, natural beauties are easy to subtly enhance, enjoy your day'

JustFoundADairyMilkCaramel · 28/10/2016 23:57

Stop texting!

Speak to her. Or this is going to go bad and neither of you will come out of it well.

She doesn't sound like she wants you to do her make up.

After all the work you've done I'd see it as a blessing.

laurenandsophie · 29/10/2016 03:29

(shameless placemark)

OP, for the love of god pls continue with the updates. This bride and her SIL are so loopy they're quite entertaining!!

hotdiggedy · 29/10/2016 03:47

Cah indeed. What gets into some people??

3luckystars · 29/10/2016 04:03

Go to the wedding, make sure your own make up is amazing (even if it takes you 5 hours) and wear your own wedding dress.

Only joking! But do eat everything and enjoy yourself no matter what is said.

NightWanderer · 29/10/2016 04:03

Oh, god stop texting! Just wish her all the best with the wedding and move on. Its annoying but not worth the aggro.

crje · 29/10/2016 04:24

Go to the wedding

Make sure your makeup is fab.
Then keep her at arms length.