AIBU to be annoyed if clothes I passed on have been re-sold

[iklelis83]

Hi I have been passing one Kids outgrown clothes to a friend (call them F) to whom I'm under impression are a bit tight on money.
im aware of other people also passing on clothes too.
It's come to my attention that F has re-sold a set of some of the clothes been passed onto F.
So I wanted to get others feeling on this as initially I'm a bit Pd off if F is not buying clothes for their kids, taking clothes off other people & selling them to make a profit.
I've not sold clothes before because Im under impression F is bit tight on money so want to save them money. However I have 2 kids & need to buy 2 lots of clothes & a little annoyed at others around me assuming I am financially comfortable more so than F.
Would anyone else be annoyed or just let it go & say good luck to F if they can make some money back?
Many thanks all

I agree with Live

There's an undercurrent of ' you have to use what I've given you and every time you look at it you must be over come with gratitude and doff my cap whenever I see you' here, yuck!

And I agree, once you give it away it's no longer yours!

I agree with Live , and calling her a 'cheap scab' is nasty and uncalled for.

If I hand clothes over, that is literally the last I think of them.

I genuinely couldn't care less what happens to them next.

If loads of folk are giving F stuff maybe she's got so much, and because she's cash strapped she's seen a chance to realise some actual cash instead. It's still an appreciated donation, she's just converting the donation to cash. Maybe she's using the cash to buy her weekly food shop or buy the kids Christmas presents.

Clever woman really.

I'm in F's position and have been given a few bits for DS, by 3 separate families. Most of the clothes are past their best but very wearable, so I really do appreciate the donations. I recently had a situation where I ended up with 3 of the same item and have tried to sell 2 of the duplicates so that I could afford a pair of much needed shoes for DS, I'd be really upset if one of the families who were giving me the clothes felt I was trying to pull a fast one.

Wouldn't bother me. When I've passed clothes etc on it was because I wanted rid of them.

I loaned sil a playpen many years ago. She contacted me to ask if I wanted it back as she knew someone who was interested in buying it. I replied that I didn't need it back, so if she knew someone who would buy it, fine. Many months later, after not hearing anything, a friend of mine was after a playpen. I contacted my sil to ask for it back. I was told......I've sold it! Err.....thought I might have been offered the money from the sale! Or....AIBU?

Seriously? Yabu!

There is a difference between giving and lending!

You were asked if you wanted it back ,you said no. You were told she was going to sell it. Why didn't you say you wanted it back?

I can't see what the problem is - you gave them to her because she is short of money - so she uses what she wants/likes/fits her kids and sells the rest or sells after use - so what? You gave them away, she can do as she pleases with them - you didn't want them so why does it bother you? I just don't get it.