Wedding with no food

[newnametoday12]

My husband and I have just been to a family wedding where there was no food. One drink on arrival and one for the toast. We paid to the travel there and back. It has cost us a fortune. It was an afternoon wedding, not just an evening party. There was no music/dancing etc. The couple earn far far more than we do. AIBU to feel resentful that I paid so much for a wedding present?

The issue here is that whilst the duration of the wedding didn't necessarily warrant feeding people they:

A) clearly didn't inform people so they could make their own arrangements

B) didn't take into account travel time for the guests.

In the case of the latter, whilst the wedding didn't cross "meal times" for anyone travelling over an hour it did.

I can't stand shit like this. If you can't afford to feed your guests then downsize your wedding so you can. At the very least let people know in advance.

Typically arrangements like this are in order to fund lavish honeymoons etc and stuff the expense of the guests.

How ever did it get to this. Did the couple have no living relatives who could have told them how much they are showing themselves up.

How embarrassing for the guests - all knowing it was totally shit, but having to smile and try and make it seem normal

Just attended a wedding (flights in/out and hotel stay) that had literally no food, and no drinks. Not even a toast. Nada. Nothing. Niet. The groom played his guitar and the bride danced for us. For several excruciating hours. Required taking 2 days annual leave to attend. Still reeling from with it all.

God youlove that sounds so shit

Shove wins!

I went to a family wedding a few years ago when the top table were served a three course meal. So far so good.

The rest of us sat there, napkins at the ready, drooling like the bisto kids, thinking we would be next.

A mediocre 'mum's been to Iceland' array of nibbles was then served for the rest of us.

I kid you not. We still talk about it years later.

We left after the speeches and got fish and chips on the way home.

YANBU. I feel your pain.

Perhaps there was an evening do with cake that you weren't invited to?

Don't get me wrong, a short wedding is the best kind, but no food, no music....and people have travelled etc, so expecting them to eat a big early lunch on the train, it's downright mean, this is not what celebrating with friends is about.

appalling!

Cary that's just beyond tight.

It's tight and rubbing it in everyone's face!!!

I went to a wedding that had no food. There was no mention prior that there was no food, I just presumed there would be as wedding was at lunch time and went on until teatime. I was 6 months pregnant at the time and felt really off afterwards as I was starving!! awful really!

Shove that's shocking. But I suppose who needs food and drink when you have a guitar strumming groom and a twirling bride. Worth flights, hotel and two days annual leave in anyone's book! 😂

How fucking rude!

shove omg the bride danced!! I would have left,

cary just unbelievably rude fuckers

I suppose if the times were specified as 2 - 5.30 you might assume it's not coinciding with a meal time. But very odd, when weddings are one of the life events that many of your guests will have travelled a long way for it seems really rude to me not to provide a good meal. It was really important to me ( and for dD's baptism) that there was a good spread, because you know that when people are travelling for something like that there often isn't time to go for lunch beforehand. Even an afternoon tea type thing with sandwiches and buns would be better than nothing at all. It also doesn't strike me as very celebratory, it's a basic human instinct to mark special occasions with feasting! Even at work meetings we usually get given something to chew on!!

I wouldn't expect music and dancing with those timings but I would expect food of some sort. Afternoon tea or a small buffet or something.

If the couple were really hard up then I'd be happy to either provide 'a dish' or pay for my own meal at a Harvester or something so long as I was warned in advance.

Cary wins! Fucking scandalous. How can anyone think that is okay?

Went to a wedding recently. Food was basic but very nice. There was no pudding (just wedding cake) no tea or coffee but you could buy a cup from the hotel for £4.50 ! I understand wedding on a budget but I hate bad hospitality. People spend a fortune on the dress and flowers but scrimp on comforts for their guests. I think its crap! Elderly relatives were shocked at having to buy their own cup of tea, especially at the unbelievable price.

No food 😱

Loving these tales of stingy weddings Op did the invite state the timings? Yes that doesn't cross a meal but some food is essential. Keep it low cost and serve cupcakes and sausage rolls but you have to offer nosh.

That's not a wedding, that's an abomination.

You invite people to celebrate your wedding, you at least offer a soft drink/tea and nibbles, even if you can't or won't stretch to alcohol for the toast and a proper meal/buffet. Tight bastards.

That sounds boring as fuck, no food, music or dancing? At a wedding? 😴

We had friends that were notoriously tight. At their son's christening we were allowed two quarters of a sandwich and a few crisps each. Nothing else was available. When their DS was one we were told everyone was coming at four, so we arrived at the house, gave him his presents, then sat around waiting for the party to start. Her mum came in with a party plate and a drink but we weren't even offered a coffee. I said Oh we must go and the reply was thanks for the presents. All the family practically followed us out of the room on their way to the food.

Goodness me what exactly did you do then?
We decided to have a buffet rather than a sit down meal (due to time and money- we only had a 3 month engagement). But there was still food and drinks provided for everyone.

And there was music and dancing.
As for the present, you chose to get it so it's your choice. But I do find it a bit strange

GoldenWondering are you in the Western Isles by any chance? I've never been to a Wee Free wedding, but everything else they do seems to have had all the joy sucked out, so it would fit!