Wedding with no food

[newnametoday12]

My husband and I have just been to a family wedding where there was no food. One drink on arrival and one for the toast. We paid to the travel there and back. It has cost us a fortune. It was an afternoon wedding, not just an evening party. There was no music/dancing etc. The couple earn far far more than we do. AIBU to feel resentful that I paid so much for a wedding present?

I have been to lavish weddings and minimalist weddings, never have I been to a starvation wedding......that is odd, very odd.

I appreciate that wedding couples need to look after the pennies but to be so inhospitable when folk have lashed cash on outfits and travel is weird!

But if the invite says it was those times then most people would not have expected a meal or dancing.

most wedding breakfasts are at 3pm or 4pm! Very unhospitable to expect people to travel to celebrate with you and then not feed them. Doesn't need to be that posh - but some kind of buffet at least surely?

It used to be the thing to do didn't it? Years ago many couples held a very short post wedding reception where champagne or punch was served with wedding cake and then the couple "went away" on honeymoon.

I guess given that the event was only 3½ hours there was no real need for a meal - but strange of it wasn't clear from the invitation that it was going to be a short reception

Its not present for your dinner but no food at all seems a bit tight couple of Canapes with the toast or something Did you not know it was going to be a quick wedding.

Even if I drove for 2 hours to spend an afternoon with a friend I'd expect them to offer some refreshment!

But if the invite says it was those times then most people would not have expected a meal or dancing.

But I bet everyone would have expected some food be it sandwiches, a few canapés, pastries etc.

I think that is very strange too. Could they be in a religion that forbids any singing or dancing. That I could just about accept if I knew about it but to be without even a cup of tea and sandwich from 2 - 5 is more than I could endure.
I take it they have been to family weddings before that were normal, whatever that is.

"That's fucking miserable of them"

Couldn't have put it better myself

There's something in my body chemistry that makes me physically cringe when I hear of people being as mean and socially inept as this.

People may have done this years ago, but times have changed. My grandparents got married on Christmas Day as it was the only day they both had off work. Not uncommon then. But it doesn't happen now.

They cut the cake and it disappeared??

If it were my wedding I'd be mortified.

I don't care so much about dancing and music, but you need to feed people.

Maybe the cake got lost/ruined?

I really hope there's an explanation for it.

If they are family then ask them. Have they form for being odd?

Possibly the shittiest wedding i've ever heard of.

YANBU
Ive been to longer weddings with a couple of canapés though so if I ever go to a wedding again I'm going to ask
For that timing I'd think a full afternoon tea spread would be in order.

I once went to a wedding abroad. It was a catholic ceremony and it was translated into three different languages so it lasted nearly three hours. There was absolutely nothing to eat or drink afterwards. We just sneaked off to a nice cafe! I have to admit though, I didn't begrudge them the gift I had bought - they are lovely people.

I would have expected some sort of afternoon tea. In my opinion 5 pm is tea time so I would have been starving by 5:30pm!

We usually have a light lunch and our main meal at 5pm so I would have not appreciated the lack of food! Nor would my DC!

Definitely unusual, but I don't find it outrageous. The event was only a couple of hours, nibbles would definitely have been nice and the couple missed the boat a bit with consideration for their guests. But if it was clear from the start that it was going to be a shorter celebration then I don't see why you can grumble about the travel or costs of gift. There could only be so much you can fit in in a few hours.

That really is unacceptable. You weren't so much guests as, well I don't know what. Bystanders, room fillers, photo fillers...?

Do you think the select few sneakily went on somewhere else for the evening? There must have been some festivity

'It used to be the thing to do didn't it? Years ago many couples held a very short post wedding reception where champagne or punch was served with wedding cake and then the couple "went away" on honeymoon.'

And tea and coffee, sandwiches, wee sausage rolls. Not just nothing.

I've been to quite a few afternoon weddings in the US that were alcohol free due to religion, but there was always nibbles, sandwiches, tea/coffee and alcohol free punch, nuts, etc. Because to do otherwise is so incredibly rude.

Their income is irrelevant.

Well, no, it's not - if you know, for instance, that someone is really broke but really wants to get married, you know that it is unlikely to be stately home and fully catered. This obviously wasn't a financial thing.

Music and canapés would be nice but surely most people can not eat for a couple of hours?

Not the point - celebrations by definition involve food and drink. What a bunch of horrible tightarses. And yes, hideously rude to invite people and offer them next to nothing.

I'd be absolutely ashamed to be related to such miserable skinflints.

Some weddings are so shit.

Fuckin' hell. I've heard it all now.
outrageous.

Music and dancing aren't obligatory in order to show appropriate hospitality to your wedding guests. Food most definitely is.

That sounds odd. And disappointing.